I found this particular question on an adult dating site, personally I find it a huge turn on. Possibly because I am married myself.
Some of the righteous replies left me questioning the sight though and the people on it, it is an adult sex site. For example one username was cumslut and she preached a paragraph about monogamy and marriage being sacred. What a righteous handle.

Like I said I think it is hot, does anyone else?

 

Personally, I think it is beyond disgusting.

 

What I think is disgusting is that so many men and women go into marriage on the momentum of social expectations and aren't informed about their options, or the odds that, having signed a marriage contract, there is a 50% failure rate which people ( and their lawyers ) will exploit to leave the other person penniless as punishment for said failure. If anyone has any DOUBT that women will put your head on a pike, just ask tiffanyk7 here

Boys and girls ( and especially boys ) need to know that they are being set up, and every marriage should come with a prenuptial agreement that establishes a no-fault, no alimony dissolution. It is NOT the job of the state to coerce couples to stay together whose relationship has, on its own terms, run its course. It's also NOT the business of the state to litigate the affairs of the human heart, and whether someone's feelings are "correct". In fact, when relationships fail, its better for all involved if they split expeditiously as possible. Too many unhappy people out there trapped in their marriages IMHO.

 

WOW!!!! That was kinda my repressed thoughts that I could never put into words...only reason I married my wife when I did, (aside from striving to make her happy) was cuz I didn't have shit that she could touch to lose as it was in my company name, not mine, and I am incorporated company which totally seperates personal from business assets

 

Disgusting??

Disgusting is an interesting description, especially on this particular site.

 

I wouldnt say that I find it hot and of course it depends on what you mean by cheating.

That said I wouldnt go as far as to say that it was 'beyond disgusting' either. As I say it probably depends on what you mean by 'cheating'

 

My wife and I have no problem being with others that are cheating on their spouse or significant other, it is their life they are fucking up not ours. We are just getting our rocks off, and we love to do that a lot.

 

Well, what really constitutes cheating??? I'm not looking for the "if you have to ask, or if you feel guilty, it's prolly cheating" Cuz I am not doing anything wrong to ask if I am cheating or not. I am asking in general, in interest of this thread and some posts on here.

I know everyone says different vows cuz different denominations are slightly different, many have totally different religions, and many write and say their own vows. But in the most general sense you vow to take care of your partner...this includes sexual needs. "to love and to cherish" well, if you're not MAKING love compromisingly to your and your partners needs, then you are breaking thw vows. If you are not providing something you vowed to do, how the fuck do you think you have the right to hold your partner to another part of the vows, when they are just trying to fulfil something that you no longer will provide as vowed?

 

In my opinion it differs for each couple. It all depends on what each of your limits are. To some kissing another is cheating. Some say that fucking someone else is not cheating because that is the type of relationship they have. If a person is doing something outside the lines of what they agreed upon with their partner then they are cheating.

My wife and I will NOT do anything with someone who is, or we think is, cheating. We do not want to be the ones to put the nail in the coffin of a relationship. Nor do we want that kind of drama.

 

I get that...my point was more along the lines of...I guess the easiest way to explain is use a direct example...for instance, my recent divorce. My ex when we married vowed, and I don't recall exact vows, but to take care of my needs and to love and cherish, blah blah blah. Well, to love and cherish implies making love, and taking care of needs includes sexual needs. I don't mean every time one feels the sexual need, it HAS to be met at that moment or soon. Obviously marriage is full of compromises, but I feel it should include a decently healthy sex life based on those vows. Now my relationship isn't the best example, if you've read posts of mine for the past 6 months...so don't focus on the wrong parts. My wife at the time had stopped providing those things, my needs for sexual intimacy. Sure, she blew me in the shower as fast as she could about once every 3 weeks IF that, but that was it, othere than that I haven't had sex since the honeymoon. While blowjobs are great, and quick ones can be awesome, when it's the same thing over and over, it no longer really does it...plus she was totally lacking in passion and affection for me on these rare occasions...which to me is totally unacceptable...so why is it ok for her to back out of part of the vows by not providing me intimacy...but to tell me I have to obey another part of the vows by being faithful and not finding soemone who WILL provide me where she has decided to slack??

Again, if you read my posts you'll tell me I'm fucking retarded for marrying her in the first place, that's not my point, I already know that...Also, I never have, Never will, Never even THOUGHT about cheating on her, so I'm not looking for justification in this rambling above. Just trying to use a specific example to explain my thoughts.

 

I definitely find the idea of fucking a married woman behind her husband's back to be very hot. Even better if I knock her up

 

Enjoy paying for that kid.

 

Outside of any moral or ethic arguments. I cannot imagine ever cheating or getting involved with someone already in a relationship. I am a monogamist through and through. I NEVER cross that line. Once I find out someone I am interested in is involved I feel a level of revulsion towards that person. Not that I avoid interaction, just that there is a line I will not EVER cross.

I will flirt and make a woman feel good but that is it. I can think of at least 3 relationships I have helped heal due to my friendship with my female friends. It's amazing how men will improve themselves when they see thier woman sparkle like they did when the two first got together.

My personal feeling is, if you want to cheat be an adult and leave the relationship. Cheaters don't deserve to be in a relationship.

 

gosh this is so selfish

 

This is word for word how I feel in actuality about relationships in my personal life. I know my earlier posts don't reflect that...those were spoken in the general sense of cheating, not my views when I am involved in the situation whether I am viewed as the cheater, the cheatee, or the cheated.

 

Technically, they are crossing the line, if at all ( it depends whether they have a line to cross ). If you are single then I don't see the problem? I fucked a married chick back in college, but I wasn't cheating, I was fornicating. Anyway, not picking apart your position, I understand it because I used to be that way.

Here's the deal :

ALL women worth having are attaching to some man, until they aren't, and when they aren't, its because they immediately jumped ship to something new. It's IMHO rare that a hot woman is simply unattached to anybody. The life lesson here - if you want her you gotta steal her. Now granted you can do that without fucking her, but its gonna be a lot harder.

 

"A Very Powerful Question!"

I've cheated with a married woman who's husband treated her like a dog in front of strangers, laughing it off like he was just kidding? It wasn't a stretch to believe that he was doing what she said,"Using her like a "fuck hole" at his convenience!" I felt totally at ease that I wasn't taking a damn thing away from him but, instead giving her what she deserved a caring lover! Cheating has layers a % of which is purely because you can, that is inexcusable but, to those who think that monogamy gives them the right to control the others sex life with no compromise in frequency, duration, intensity or care? Your respective other has every right to seek out satisfaction and you have no one to blame but yourself and selfishness! There's nothing more pathetic than a man "pussy whipped" or woman who's "dick whipped" into submission losing all their individuality to the collective wills of another! Monogamy should be a place where both people are open, honest and willing to explore sexual/sensual satisfaction with meaning, not a place where you feel so obligated, trapped or controlled that you feel the need to escape by any means!

 

Most of my serious relationships are with married men. That isn't what I prefer but that's the way things happened. I'm attractive but a little bit of a handful for a lot of men I can be intense. The men I am with I feel a lot of love for and they love me when we are together. But I believe they also love their wives. I am not saying it is right but I can only follow my heart when I love someone.