I have a friend, and she is actually my best friend..
we have been friends for about 6 years ..
I'm single but she has a boyfriend ...
I recently started thinking of having sex with her but I'm not sure if that is right or not ! I feel she would not mind that but also I'm afraid of her reaction !
is it normal if I ask her ? if I do so , would it affect our friendship ?

and to ladies , if you were her "my best friend" , what would you do ?

Thanks ... please share me your thoughts and experiences about it.

 

Okay, I've moved your thread to sexuality where it really should be.

And now on to answer your question: Once you introduce sex into your relationship, it will change the friendship for ever and you will lose the closeness you share now. Of course, things might improve and you could find out she's the one and only (and she may just feel the same), BUT you stated you've been thinking of asking for sex, nothing else.

I say, if it's just sex you want, go find it elsewhere, even if you have to pay for it. Leave the friendship intact.

 

thanks for your reply but
what do you think that will damages our friendship ?

 

Being a man, with a girlfriend. If I knew of any of her friends that asked her to have sex with them I would likely beat them to a pulp. :excited:

I'm not the sharing type, some are that's fine, if you take it up with her boyfriend that is fine.

Personal opinion, you DO NOT ask a girl to cheat, especially when you know she has a boyfriend. Besides, if this led into a relationship between the two of you. How would you feel if she then cheated on you?

A moral issue that unfortunately my generation doesn't see as an issue. Causes trust issues, and a whole slew of relationship issues.

 

thanks for sharing your opinion ... I respect that

 

my closest guy friend asked me to have sex with him before over facebook. we aren't close friends anymore.

 

bridgette

being not close friends anymore was only because he asked you for sex ? if so , why do you think that happened ?

 

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6 years? and not asked her for sex?
I think it is normal to ask friends for sex, but it will affect the relationship.
might be a good idea to see if she has an open relationship with her boyfriend?

 

If you are such good friends as you claim to be, and that for six years, you should feel free to discuss the topic of sexuality with her. Ask her opinion about "friends with benefits" or even what she thinks about a "fuck buddy" relationship, seeing that she has a boyfriend. If she has a reciprocal feeling about sex with you, she will react positively; if not, she will clearly indicate that it is not on the cards. IMHO it should not harm your friendship in any way.

 

is it normal to ask ???

I think I can ask but I'm afraid of her negative reaction

 

GemmaSwinger101


Thanks for sharing ur opinion

 

pinksuede


thank you

 

still need more thoughts




c mon

 

Bend her over and give her the best two minute's of her life!!!

 

just like that ??????????????



how comes ?

 

I need more thoughts and ideas plz

 

I've had very few long-term friendships with men that DIDN'T eventually become sexual relationships, even if it was just one or two times. That's what happens when two normal, healthy people spend a lot of time together. It's true that having sex can change your relationship with the other person, but sometimes that's a change for the better. If it causes you to lose your friendship, the relationship might not have been all that strong to begin with.

Personally, I think people attach too much of a mystique to sex. I mean, what's the big deal? It's not magic, it's not something that requires you to be in love with the other person...it's just something people do because it feels good. If you feel like having sex with someone you're comfortable with, then have sex, and don't get all neurotic about it.