Hey, so me and my gf are getting close to having sex, and i dont want to let her down by cumming in 5 minutes. Is there a way to build up more stamina, because when i watch porn and jack off, i usually cum in 2-3 minutes.

 

Soak your balls in ice 3 time a day for 15 minute's

 

I don't know if this will work for you, but I unload my "weapon" a couple of hours before going out... recovery time should be sufficient to naturally extend your play time when it is time, unless it's just a fuck date, then you probably want to do it a bit earlier. Another suggestion is have her give you a BJ when the date starts, then you can make it up to her later.

 

It can be hard work but worth it to hold back from cumming. Several tools I use, Slow down or stop pumping when you get close, Clench your fists and eyes. Think about disgusting things like what if you were fucking an old troll or eating a cockroach.

 

I agree.
Cum in her mouth first - it will take the edge off and then you can focus on her and her pleasure before fucking her x

 

and it works great, i don't think cumming a couple hours before does anything but make it worse, but doing it *right before* works wonders. or just fuck her twice.

 

It depends.

If you're looking for a quick fix, do what the others told you and come in her mouth first. If you really want to build up your stamina for solid results and become able to fuck like a porn actor, then there are other things you can do, like:

- Using masturbation to become aware of your arousal levels
- Discover your PONR (point of no return) and learn how to push it back
- Balance your pelvic floor muscles (front, back halves and as a whole)

You can simply start by practicing Edging which is masturbation with a goal in mind which is different from ejaculation.

Learn to recognize your PONR, learn how to push it back when you get too close to it, learn how to keep your legs, buttocks and pelvic muscles relaxed while you thrust into her and you'll become able to fuck her as hard as you can without coming unless you want to.

In fact, most of the times you'll fuck them for so long they'll beg you to cum while you still want to pound them.

If you want more details just ask.

 

yeah learn to slow down when you feel like you are going to cum. then when it feels like the urge has gone continue fucking, rinse and repeat till she is satisfied and then get yours

 

thanks a lot guys and gals i will try these methods

 

MrD give more advices plz' im kinda in the same situation

 

Pussy_fan,
this is the thing. You can actually learn how to consciously control your ejaculation.

When I was younger I came as soon as a girl started sucking my dick, or as soon as I penetrated her.
I've been through the hell and have been studying an experimenting for years to discover that actually, believe it or not, you can take control of ejaculation with pure exercises.

Now I can tell you that there are two main approaches to build up stamina, one is "more" physical and the other one is "more" mental.

Some people could masturbate for a long time without cumming but as soon as a naked hot girl licks their balls or grab the tip of their dick with her warm hand they cum. These people need a more mental approach, because their mind is fucking them up.

Others instead cum quickly even if they are masturbating without any visual/mental stimulation. They need a more physical/muscular approach.

Now, of course this is a generalization, and I think it's always better to integrate the two approaches to make sure you tackle the issue properly.

Thing is the most of us have started masturbating when very young, like 13yo or younger. When we discovered masturbation and the pleasure of ejaculation we unconsciously trained our body to cum quickly. We masturbated with the goal of ejaculation and unconsciously developed habits like tensing our muscles or shorten our breath or contracting our pelvic floor in order to achieve orgasm quickly.

This is not our fault, it's just normal when you are a teenager.

Generally speaking I think that practicing basic Edging is the best way to start. I also teach my students more advanced forms of edging as well which include watching porns but you'd better start with simple things.

This is the very basic:

1) Stimulate yourself until you get an erection. While you do, be attentive and feel every sensation in your body (especially in your pelvic floor).


2) Using some lubricant, stroke your penis starting from the base and slowly moving towards the top (avoiding the fraenulum and the glans at the beginning).

3) When you feel you’re getting close to your PONR, start moving down the shaft again and completely stop when you are about to reach your PONR.

4) While you wait for your arousal to subside, feel every sensation in your body and take slow deep breaths. Be a man, face your sensations, feel them fully – don’t run away from them.

5) When the sensation of imminent ejaculation has disappeared, restart the process again.

6) After 20 minutes of Edging, stop, put your pants on and do something else.

You want to build up resistance over your urge to ejaculate by putting your pants on and doing something else.

You want to learn to recognize your point of no return by stopping when close to cum.

You want to condition your body to become accustomed to high levels of arousal so that even if you're fucking a hot bitch and she's very hot and the pleasure is so strong, your body will still be comfortable and in control.

There are many other things you can do and I do not expect you to take action now, because not everyone is so keen to become able to fuck a hot babe's ass and mouth for 40minutes.

But I was and I still am and this is why I learned this shit.

It's up to you decide what to do with your life.

 

i have edged my self i can last around 10 minutes now, i just wonder should i cum at the end or not?

 

Good to know you're improving man.
Now cumming or not depends on your age.

Generally speaking the older you are the less often you can "afford" to cum.
You know, if you're young you need to cum more often otherwise your balls will explode and you'll die (and have wet dreams a night too).

If you are in your 20ies cum every three sessions.
So basically the first two sessions you don't cum. The third one you do.

Keep working on it for a couple of weeks and let me know when you're ready for tougher stuff.

D.

 

Excellent advice there MrD Black! I'm sure almost every teen guy should follow your suggestions. Readers just have to not go and desensitise so much that they can't cum when they want to or need extreme stimulation to get there.
You didn't mention desensitising lube gels. I've never used one, but I don't see why they shouldn't work a bit, even if what is happening in your brain is more important than what is happening to your cock. Anyone on here tried them?

 

Yeah that's the thing.
You know sometimes when I talk to my readers they tell me they would pay to have "delayed ejaculation" (which is the opposite of premature ejaculation).

That doesn't make sense. They don't realize how painful it is to not be able to cum.

Well, you're free to try.

I've tried them in the past when trying to solve my premature ejaculation problem and to be honest I haven't been exceptionally impressed by them.

Thing is that all this desensitization thing even though appears to be a quick fix actually makes your condition worse because you need to keep buying this stuff and it doesn't solve premature ejaculation permanently.

In the end arousal conditioning and arousal control are not that difficult to learn.

I just finished to have sex right now I'm writing this message. I don't know for how long I went, maybe 1hr or something. We just stopped because this girl here got sore since I was thrusting too hard for too long.

And you know what?
A few years ago I would have come right after penetration.

It only takes a little mindful practice and desire to learn.

That's for sure.

 

thanks for your help man

 

One extra thought if it isn't too late. Ejaculating too early isn't so much of a problem for her if you've already given her a couple of good orgasms by finger, tongue or toy first. Mind you, seeing and hearing her cum excites me fantastically, if it does the same for the OP it might make things worse for him rather than better!