Been married 15 years.. denying it for all these years, my wife admitted that she kissed a coworker when we were dating.

I really feel betrayed cause it took all this time to admit this to me and now I feel like "What else isn't she telling me? or She's not telling me the whole truth."

I trust her through our marriage since were always together but its before we got married that we had all the trust issues. My question is this... Should I just let this go?? How do I get over it?? The part that bothers me the most is that if something else did happen, I will never know. Anyone else have this happen?

 

Let it go. It likely meant nothing serious and was just one of those things. She probably didn't tell you because she knew you would get emotional over it and she just didn't want to go there. some things are just better left unsaid.

I don't see a big deal here. Let it go would be my suggestion.

 

15 years ago.....good lord man...

 

15 years later she admits to kissing another man, it will be another 15 before she admits she slept with him :razz:

all joking aside, sit down and look her dead in the eye and ask her is that all it was just a kiss..

 

Grow up.

 

15 years..............Let it go. Guessing you have a few secrets you haven't shared. Let it go, man.

 

Let it go and don't make a big deal out of it...it was just a kiss 15 years ago!

 

WHAT THE FUCK,,,,,,,,,,,,who gives a tinkers fuck.

For christ's sake,,you would be in the looney farm if your wife did half the shit that my wife did with other men while we were dating

 

There's a lot of stupid people on this board today.

The issue isn't what she did 15 years ago, that's trivial. The issue is that she's been lying to her partner for a decade and a half.

 

Someone is lying to someone 'WHEN THEY ARE NOT TELLING THEM ABOUT IT'????

What does that mean?

 

Trust is a fundemental part of marriage. Maybe your wife knew you would be upset at her kissing a co-worker, and that's why she didn't tell you. Was there more to the story then that? If she has been trustworthy during your marriage, is it worth knowing what happened 15 years ago?

I think you should figure out whether or not you really want to know the truth, and if you do. Sit down with her and talk it out, but be careful what you wish for. Will whatever she says change how you see her now?

Or look at it from another angle. If she hadn't fessed up, would you question anything about your marriage today?

Being married, especially happily married takes work and comprimising. You have to accept some things about your partner that you wish were different, but in the grand scheme, are insignificant. On the other hand, there are some "non-negotiables". These should include trust, fidelity (for most couples), non violent, etc. What makes up someones non-negotiable list is different for others, but once one of these is broken. It's time for at least counseling or maybe divorce court.

 

Bentley, it sounds to me, just my opinion, that you are just torturing yourself. It sounds like you kind of knew she had kissed someone way back when, and it bothered you, until she confessed, and now it's just hurting you more. Were you engaged? Because, when I was young and dating I kissed tons of people, it's what being young and dating is about. You have a decision to make...you can either continue tormenting yourself, and your wife, or you can just let it go. For 15 years she's been a good and faithful wife, I assume? Drop it. It could get to the point where she can't take the interrogation anymore, and leaves. Love her and yourself, friend, let it go!

 

Divorce her.



Just kidding. There is only one question you need to ask yourself.

"Are you happier together, or apart ?"


If you are happier apart, maybe you need to work a bit harder to make each other happy, or maybe you need to part ways. If you are happier together, forget the past, live for the present.

 

She didn't say anything because she knew what the reaction would be. Sometimes honesty results in disaster.

 

Well trust is difficult to build up, but she did it before you were married so she probably kept it secret trying to avoid an argument. As long as she was not fucking the guy in a closet at work i would try to drop it. Getting the truth of if dude had that pussy before you will be next to impossible to get the truth because you have waited to long.. But if you have been together 15 years i don't think it should make any difference now.

 

Read what you wrote. Kissed a coworker when you were dating her. DATING. Not in a committed relationship. Not engaged. DATING. More than 15 years ago.

For God's sake, grow up. If that's all she did while she was single, before you were engaged and married, and you're this worked up about it now - I feel very sorry for you. I hope neither one of you ever comes down with a terminal illness. I don't think you could handle it.

 

but but but , you lie to her regularly

You tell her you don't masturbate and haven't since you were single,
but you boast about it on here.
You generally masturbate every day , right ?

Dose she know you go to sex shops , glory holes , bath houses stc.
and suck men off and have them suck you off ?

Did you tell her about the time you went to pic up a tv and ended up being sucked off by the seller ?

and what about this ?

Who has cheated then gone home and fucked a significant other without washing off?
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Okay..... I'll admit I've done it! BUT... like...

Okay..... I'll admit I've done it! BUT... like someone else said, how can you have sex with one person, then get a blowjob from another person shortly after and have them not notice?? Girls.... you...


Need I go on ?

my first reaction was , Grow Up n get over it ,
after 15 yrs FFS.
but then I checked through your other posts.
and
surprise surprise .

I find your a fine upstanding lieing cheating arsehole after all.
a cock sucker and cum guzler ,
or,
a massive bullshitter.
I know not which.

 

Damn, that's good detective work.

 

That's all she did? (?)

Be glad she was not having sex with the entire department.

Be glad she is not doing that now.

 

She was probably going to tell you about it on your wedding night, but you fell asleep like you already told us all.
Although I do wonder how you have a step child of 15 (was 14 when you posted about them last year) living with you both, if you have now been married for 15 years.

Sounds like your wife has been doing a little bit more than kissing to me.