I would agree with every bit of that. Words are powerful.

 

I would have to agree also, if my wife knows it's not cheating and she has no reason to be suspicious if I'm obvious!

 

Stops me too

This site is a safety valve for me especially when my wife's appetite is much less than mine. I can let of steam without hurting anyone, especially her.

 

Oh how this is a big issue at my house yes my wife thinks this cheating she says women on these site are all sluts my reply to her is then if thats what you think honey then start being like them and i wont need to get on these sites

 

I've always wondered how many people, after engaging in behavior that they kept hidden from their partner, then suffered any kind of relationship damage upon being found out, ended up being truly surprised that their partner was miffed?

Unless you're in the very start of a relationship, I'd say most non-pathological folks would be able to make a 99th percentile accurate guess about the answer to their own question.

So, Southernbelle - are you cheating?

 

i dont think it it is myself. but some consider anything that is sexually oriented to another person other than their lover to be cheating. i guess its up to the individual.

 

southernbelle why don't you and I just fuck our brains out a few times then there would be no question about cheating for both of us:excited:

 

Cheating is anything that you hide, keep secret, lie about or feel guilty about with your partner.

Different people have different levels. You need to be on the same page.

 

some people say if you do it in your mind, its as bad as doing it for real. So in that case, if you are sex chatting you are doing in your mind the stuff you are typing so therefore you are doing it.

My way of thinking is...my wife knows I masturbate and does not complain. She know I on occasion go to gentleman's clubs with friends, and she does not complain. All these chats to me are nothing more but masturbation aids. My wife knows (I am not a confident as she is) that I would never cheat on her, but as long as I am getting relief without bothering her (that is what she actually says about me masturbating) she doesn't have a problem with it.

 

I wouldnt concider it cheating ..... but my wife would

 

This has really given me a lot to take in, a lot to think about. We have been married almost 19 years. I have tried every way possible to bring passion and excitement back to our sex life. He does work at the fire department and is there quite a bit. Before anyone asks, yes I am certain that is where he is. People have asked how I would feel if the roles were reversed. I would not mind him chatting and posting pics, hopefully it would have the same affect on him, as it did on me when I posted my first pics, made me want him even more. If everyone received and gave everything their partner needed, sites like this would be useless. As far as whether I feel this is cheating, I think we all have our own definitions of how we categorize cheating, and to what degree is somehing cheating. This isn't a point blank yes or no question, just a thought provoking one. If nothing else, it made everyone stop and ponder the subject.

 

i think u just think it's okay for him to do what u do now coz u already doing it , maybe u do think it is okay , i am just giving u another pov to think about it
another thing is , idk about him but to me i don't care if someone is giving me all i want , to me i would still be mad about this situation

honestly i think u are just making excuses , sorry if i am too harsh

 

I don't think you are being too harsh, just stating your opinion. Different points of view as well as different conversations make me think differently anytime the subject comes up or a new reply is posted. It all comes down to what we each as adults decide to do. I by no means am trying to justify my presence here. I have thought about bringing him to the site to see what he thinks before showing him my profile.

 

Never know what he may do maybe if he saw this could go either way good or bad. he may see how many men comment and love the way you look including me. This may show him what he has and change things up in and out of the bedroom for the better.

 

I think your signature says it all but I would also add that you might even learn some new tricks. We all have secret fantasies that we keep for ourselves, would you call that cheating?

If you feel guilty then you could convince yourself you are cheating but I would say lighten the fuck up.

Thinskin

 

You are fine

I am no example of anything, but I feel you are okay in playing on here. If you went further and set up a meeting or something, that's cheating. Everyone has a private fantasy life, I think.

 

You aren't developing serious emotional relationships with anyone online and you aren't doing anything physical with anyone. You are not cheating in either sense of the term (for relationships.)

 

my wife and I have been together for a long time, she has fucked other men and I have had others and she loves it. we have had 3 and 4 somes.

 

thanks for sharing , but u either in the wrong thread or u got it wrong

 

Interesting to see everyone's point of view. As I said to begin with, I have seen a hread similar to this one, other n askin if your partner knows and was curious.