But it's like Kimiko said, cheating is violating the other persons trust. That's why it's their definition, not yours. If you love, or even respect them, you'll let them decide.

 

I didn't mean for my post to be construed that way. I agree with Kimiko that cheating is a violation of trust regardless of the situation.

 

I define cheating as the sharing of intimacy meant for your partner with another party. So I guess it depends on individual view of each person. Also if you feel the need to hide what you are doing from your partner, then obviously it is cheating.

 

It depends

My wife knows I look at porn and jack off. She has fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue. SO sometimes she just is not up for sex. I don't think she knows I look at all sorts of porn Gay Shemale/Tranny Men and Women and now this forum. I am not sure what she thinks I look at. I don't think she cares she leaves me be because guys got to "relieve" themselves. Shit I jack off to this site quite often. I don't know if it cheating or not. I don't know what she would think about the gay and tranny stuff though so I keep that a secret. Although I talk in my sleep sometimes so she may know LOL

 

What they don't know wont hurt them

 

A good husband

As a female myself, I don't really call watching any type of porn cheatting. Now it can be bad on a relationship, if the other dosn't codne thier spouse watching it.But thats somthing both people just have to work out on thier own. Also, as far as the gay/tranny porn goes,well porn is porn. We all have our own certain pleasures. How ever she might not accept it as easily as she would regular porn if there is a such a thing.

I am truly sorry to hear about her health issues, and must say I personaly give you an ada boy for sticking to only porn for your needs even though she is unable to fulfill them for you. that is true respect and certainly goes along way in my book!:rose::rose: However, if you are still worried about how she feels. Set down with her and plea your case as best you can, ask her honest oppinions. You don't have to mention the sorts of porn you enjoy. I am fairly sure she will and probably already does understand. She is a woman you know, so I would imagine she already knws everything. You know how we are, we have eyes in the backs of our heads. LOL

Good luck and keep stroking it buddy!:rose:

 

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Obviously opinions vary but the only one that matters is that of your partner. Discussing it and being open about what you do on here can save a lot of grief and heartache down the road.

 

Once you have to ask that questions its already cheating

 

If you feel she won't say you can, and you do it anyways, it's cheating. If you talk to her about it first, and she says it's OK, then maybe it's not cheating, but you have to make sure or you could really be hurting her.

Even naughty chatting can be cheating if you're partner is missing that from you. Maybe she wants that chat and isn't getting it from you, and you go do it with someone else. That can be really hurtful.

Just have to make sure you're partners in everything. Talk it all out first.

 

I agree, cheating is whatever your partner feels it is.

I am in a poly amorous relationship. I'm in love with two people; my husband and my wife. No everyone understands it. That's ok. It works for us.

There are different boundaries for all of us. My wife and I have no interest in dating outside of our triad. My husband however does. It takes lots of honest communication for that to work. It's about communication, not control. Trust, not full disclosure.

 

opinion

There is no wrong or right answer it seems.
But there is consensus about a few things.
You don't decide when its cheating your partner does.
Cheating is a abuse of trust between partners
Cheating is both physical and emotional.
If you question your behaviour or intended behaviour you ARE cheating.
If you don't know how your partner feel about what you are doing.
YOU ARE CHEATING.

In short looking at all the above. All of us are or have been cheating on our partners at on or other time in our relationship

 

This is quite brilliant. I agree and have unintentionally crossed a few of those lines. Live and learn. Communicate and keep going.

 

cheating

Life is a journey of highways sometimes one takes the wrong turn.
Just as long as you get your way back and learn. To reach you ultimate goal.
Happiness and fullfillment for all involved in the relationship.

 

glad to say i never did

 

lucky you

You must be an angel.
Seriously?

 

ya seriously , i haven't been into many of relationships , but once i fell for a girl , i stop all me sexual activities in respect to her and for the fact i don't want anyone but her so feel free to call me angel i just think i am devoted

 

angel

Very noble character trait. I take my hat off to you.
Are you single now