Like many couples my wife and I have gotten pretty boring in the bedroom over the years. In my mind watching some porn together COULD be quite a turn on though introducing the subject could go totally the wrong way. As far as I know her only experience with porn has been catching me enjoying it which really upset her in the past. I would really like her to open up to the idea but I am afraid I may just end up dissapointing her instead. Does everyone think Is i should try or is it better to keep this door shut?

 

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What is the downside again? She knows you views it. Turn a negative into a positive.

Tell her, look I don't want to keep things from you and I was hoping to include you with watching some porn together.

I've watched some massage porn and some threesome porn with my girl and she loves it. She'll see some things and ask me if I like it and then perform them on me. Suck on my balls, deep throat, break out a toy. Eat my cum and then I can get her off we'll play for a bit after I cum and then get hard again and then get her off. We'll talk about what we see, talk about having someone else with us. Guy or girl. She cums instantly.


I believe this topic came up with friends actually. Just discussing porn in general and my girl said, I don't mind if you watch porn.....just as long as you include me. Fortunately for me, she watches porn herself. So, one evening I asked her to show me the porn sites she goes to. That worked out well.

As for a woman that doesn't look at porn, I think you can approach it in a similar way.

Woman become jealous if you choose porn over them. But, if you want them and wish to include them with your porn viewing, it can make them warm up to it.

Just my opinion of course. Good luck.

 

What he said perfect answer

 

Thank you all for your feedback. Nakkers, That is some sound advice. Thank you for taking the time to put it out there.

 

Because it upset your wife in the past you should not introduce the subject again. If you pressure your wife into watching pornography she will almost certainly not enjoy it, and she will resent you for pressuring her.

 

Another good point of view. That is my fear and why I have not brought it up with her as of yet. It could bring some much needed fun into our life or i could be opening Pandora's Box...

 

I think you actually want to introduce your wife to porn.

Thinskin

 

As a woman, I used to be pretty negative about porn. It seemed like just one more way our culture reminds us that we can never be good enough, and it made me feel inadequate.

When my husband started cheating on me with every piece of street trash he could find, I decided to take some online courses on sex, thinking I was somehow "doing it wrong." I signed up here on xnxx to try to see what other people did in bed. I blamed myself.

So, now he's history, and I have all these lovely, sexy new skills to use! I enjoy porn very much, and it releases me from that fear I was doing it wrong. I have embraced my inner slut, and I let her run wild and free. I don't worry about the fact that I have my own original breasts, and that 36C is the perfect size for me.

Maybe you could try finding a pretty low-key video, and say something like, "Baby, the girl in that video reminded of you, do you want to see?"
Gentle and easy.

 

Wait, I've got your answer, it just came to me....Instead of trying to get her to watch reg. porn, find a female-friendly instructional video where the man is practicing oral sex on the woman.

Bring the computer into your room, and tell her you want her opinion on this question...Is the guy doing anything she likes? Is there anyway you could improve her pleasure by trying some of the tips in the video? All the while, your hand should be just gently caressing her pussy, in a loving way.

If she objects to the video, just shut it down, and still tell her you want to lick her pussy. In fact, you can't resist!!!

I think I just may be an evil genius after all, LOL.

 

Props to Milo Cronos for posting this video on another thread. http://www.xvideos.com/video691510/how_to_eat_pussy

 

It is OK to start off low key but do not make the mistake of censoring yourself or denying yourself. Be honest about what you like because if you are not then you will be back to square one in no time. Encourage her to vocalize what she likes and share it.

If she has strong submissive tendencies then she will have trouble with this so do not be afraid to give a gentle but firm push.

Gentle and easy is OK but always progressing to testing and tougher!

Good Luck.

Thinskin

 

I don't think it's wise to simply abandon the subject. I agree he shouldn't pressure her. But, I think it can be brought up in a way to include her so, she isn't threatened by it.

It's so easy to ignore things but, resentment builds on both sides because of the situation as it stands right now. She knows he's viewing porn and doesn't like it. He recognizes things are lacking but, needs to take care of things. Why can't they find away together to make things better instead of having to keep things an unsaid secret? Why can't the elephant in the room turn into a positive between the two? A relationship should be able to broach subjects like this without fear. Is it better avoid the subject so it doesn't hurt the partner's feelings?

At least have the conversation. Maybe it doesn't lead to viewing porn together but, it could lead to finding ways to improve the current situation.

Ok, so porn is off the table. Are you satisfied with our sexual relationship? If there was one thing you'd like to change, what would it be? Stuff like that.

I just don't think it's constructive to abandon things because we are afraid of hurting someone else's feelings.

 

Good advice, but tread lightly with the comparisons. Make sure the chick who you say reminds her of you isn't getting railed in the ass with "whore" written on her forehead and crying. I'm only half joking.

I've watched enough porn where the ads on the side Don't even register as background noise for me. I can filter out anything I'm not actually looking for. My wife, I've learned, can not. On the main xnxx site there's a lot of shit that a porn newbie like her would find unpleasant, and that frankly I do to but that I've become immune to. Same for when you actually click on the video. It may take a minute for the nice, loving amateur scene you selected to begin playing while the gif ads of oversized black dick making a woman scream and cry starts instantly. The times she's wanted to watch porn with me that shit has turned her right off, so we end up watching some boring skin flick on HBO on demand filled with shitty plot and fake, unattractive porn star types.

I need to find a site with the type of content we like but without the overwhelming ads for depressing, extreme, nihilistic humiliation porn all over. Suggestions?

 

Hey this is fun.

Lover's Guide education video.
http://www.xnxx.com/video1535914/making_sex_even_better
full screen it.

Can't go wrong.

 

Just yesterday on the site associated with this one www.xvideos.com I discovered some short films uploaded by www.orgasms.com. I personally don't watch porn except when im pretty bored because mainstream profit oriented productions cater to the largest market. Which I think is men who are tired of sex being so difficult to get, and like to see women portrayed as either really easy and slutty or being used.
That is a huge turn off for my wife... and only my darker side really responded well to it, and I dont need that stimulated.

But this production claims to be marketing for women and couples.. and I think they succeed... my wife watched several with me last night.

I'd start by asking your wife to discuss what she dislikes about porn... and share that you realize most porn can be demeaning to the average real woman.. and she may also have basic moral reservations. Then tell her you talked to some people online with the same reservations, and they recommended some films that were more sensual and loving and you'd like her to just take a look with you and give it a chance....

Good luck, my wife did like the films instead of hate them, but didnt instantly turn her into a fan. But thats a good first step.

 

...then later;
Watch this one together:
http://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=534473015
it is really hot.
Pinkest found it.

 

Thanks for the honorable mention, it's hard to find a good "man eating pussy" video and this one keeps my wife's eyes glued for it's duration!

 

Oh that is easy...porn this is his wife, wife this is porn.

 

There's no downside here. Evil? No. Genius - maybe. ;-)