i am not a virgin i have had 5 partners, one female
but my boyfriend now is a virgin i was his first kiss actually and hes not the most open person hes still a bit shy about sex is there anything i can do to calm him down before our first time? or anything i should be warned about?
also he will be my first who still has his foreskin any advice on that?

 

I guess id say to treat him like a man should treat a female virgin. Ask him what he feels comfortable with and then let him control the situation. Dont expect much out of him the first time yall do it. He'll probably be done in about 5 or 10 mins. Just love on him and encourage him and let him know that what hes doing is turning u on so much. that should encourage him to do more, every time yall do it.

 

i told him i wanted to him to go at his own pace but we discovered hes rather submissive so he wants me to take control. but thank you for the advice
is there any emotions or reactions i might need to watch out for like when a girl looses her virginity?

 

I say just continue guiding him. Ask him what he enjoys, allow him to stop if he grows uncomfortable and show him how to please you. In short, the best advice to any good sexual relationship is communication, patience, and understanding.

 

Suck his hard cock, then guide him into the promised land.

 

Get your tits out and open your legs (or get nude for him)

Then say
'try my pussy for size to see how it feels'
and get him to put is dick inside you to see how it feels....

ha ha

 

As funny as this is, that was my idea too. Slowly do a seductive strip tease for him. When you are naked, the head between his legs will take over. As far as emotionally, I dont think you have anything to worry about.

 

When cums assure him that he can hard again after some time. Then tell him to eat you out really well until he gets rock hard again. For the foreskin ask him if he retracts daily and cleans it. Some guys never clean down there and they wonder why it smells like a full dumpster on a hot day in Summer.

 

so as long as we communicate we shouldn't have any problems?
i feel so freaking clueless never been with a virgin before

 

The great thing about first timers is that they don't have any bad habits. Just be nonjudgmental and get him to remember to very important things:

1. Sex is fun

2. Practice makes perfect.

Anything else you'll be able to handle so long as you have a mature, open line of communication between both of you. If you don't have that, they why are you in a relationship with him.

No worries about it, everyone has to start somewhere, and he gets the honor of starting with you.

 

were both very open with each other but its very obvious hes nervous and no matter what i say he still seems almost scared bout it

 

Just let it happen.

 

Agreed with Cantido advice.

 

If this is true then height not want to have sex with u. He may not find u attractive that way. If u know for sure he does then sometimes subs just have to be made do it sometimes. Lol

 

Just treat him with care and encouragement and take it naturally. He will probably peak in a few minutes anyway. So the follow up will be more important.

 

My advice, for whatever it's worth, don't over think it, just let it happen.
He is a guy, you're a girl, this kinda thing has been happening for many thousand years. If it doesn't, there may be some underlying issues on his side that you probably can't overcome and he would need to seek out some professional help ( e.g. Counseling, therapy ).
I understand you want to make this very special for him and God bless you for that. But in all reality it's probably going to be over in moments. Just make sure you keep encouraging him and letting him know it's ok so that the next time(s) can be all you want them to be.
Good luck!
(maybe let us know how it all worked out)

 

no offence but your really not helping with the whole "there may be some underlying issues" thing there's nothing wrong with my fiance i'm just trying to be prepared for something i haven't experienced before

 

virgin

Sex is instinct. He'll be fine. YOU getting all nervous and worrying about it won't help him at all. Confidence. Relax. Have fun.

 

Take it one step at a time, Don't rush things. Just maybe begin kissing and then start taking off yours and his clothes. One thing should lead to another if you take it slow.

 

Tell him how much you want him. Be gentle, loving and caring. Probably don't have to state this, but a full-on bangfest is not what this man needs.

Help him enjoy your whole body, the back of your neck, small of your back, your throat, chest and shoulders, lips and hips. Teach him how wonderful foreplay is. Enjoy his entire body and let him know how much that pleases you.

Either before or afterwards, give him a guided tour of your vagina. Despite the internet he may be ignorant (as opposed to simply unfamiliar) of a woman's "beautiful flower."

If foreplay is short, take the time afterwards for it. Make time for everything, no rush.

Be aware of what is making him feel good and let him know you like it too. Tell him when he makes you feel good. Never criticize or show annoyance but redirect if something isn't right. Use only positive reinforcement.

Debrief him on the experience and use those thoughts and comments for round two. If he can wake in the morning with a naked you lying next to him and another round of sex - he will want to marry you. If you can introduce him to a morning cum-in-the-mouth-and-swallow blowjob - he will want to marry you that day.

Have fun and please, let us know how it went.