That sounds tough! I don´t know if the money could make up for that!

 

i am more interested in how ur job effected ur personal life


- Did u answer the ppl u date with honesty when they asked why u do for living?


- How did your job changed or developed ur views towards somethings *like how u stated up there it made u look more into ppl for who they are not what they look*


- What is sex to u, like is it a way to have fun , a job , intimate connection .. etc?



- Why didn't u go for another job ?



- Why did you quit?


- If u were with a guy and u told him about ur previous job , and he decided to just be friends , would u be offended ? and how would u feel about him ?


feel free to ignore those u don't like to answer , my curiosity can get the best of me

 

I didn´t think it was so common for guys to bring their gfs/wives!

Yeah I could imagine it would be much more comfortable dancing for a woman than a drunk man
Though if you´re a stripper you don´t really have to do anything sexual with them though! technically they can´t touch you

 

Has a client ever gotten violent with you and how was he/she dealt with?

 

Actually I'm grateful that I did that part of it. It really did make me look past the physical and more about the whole person. Yes, I'm still shallow in that I'll only date or sleep with men I find attractive now but whereas before I was a real shallow bitch who wouldn't give certain guys the time of day, I'm a much better person now.

And even if the guy was unattractive, as long as he took care of his hygiene and acted nice, we would have fun. Those guys were also very grateful, incredibly loyal and I rally could let some of my guard / escort persona down with them and be more of myself. Would I go out with them and be their girlfriend? Probably not but still, it was an experience I wouldn't want to give back.

 

I don't really date, not seriously at least. I haven't had a serious BF in awhile so I haven't had to breech that issue. But I'm a pretty forward and straight person so when I meet that guy, I'll let him in and know the truth.

If anything, it's made me a better consultant since I can read people better and see past the superficial. I'd like to think that I'm less judgmental in person and so I'm not quite the stuck-up bitch I was back in high school and early college. I've formed more meaningful relationships since then because I really learned how to deal with people in general better. To be fair, I also know how to manipulate people in person better to. I already have that easier as I'm a woman (boobs win!) but there were some skills learned that apply there too.

Sex is fun for me. It's a physical outlet, it can be a form of exercise (I love having sex after a marathon bike ride) but more than anything, it's a fun time to be had. Intimacy is there for me but it's more unusual than usual. I suppose in a way, I'm a lot like a guy in my approach to casual and meaningless sex.

I was in college and I didn't want a 40-hour / week job. As soon as I got my 1st masters and lined up the job I have today, I quit escorting. Escorting was a way for me to make very good money, leave college w/o any debt and have some cash put away. I also did some sugaring but I'll never do that again. Hated that too. But I could make between $2500 and $5000/week escorting and only seeing 3-5 guys per week. Just depends on how many multi-hour appointments I would book and the frequency of those appointments. Escorts thrive on predictable regulars of which I had more than a dozen. Making a minimum of $800/client for a 2 hour encounter adds up quickly and no, I wasn't on my back/legs spread the whole 2 hours. You'd be surprised how many guys wanted something more intimate and personal than random fucking.

I graduated w/ my masters and got a traditional job.

People are judgmental. That's just human nature. Unless I was emotionally invested in him (unlikely), I'd just brush it off and say his loss. There's more to me than a few years of being paid to have sex with men. I understand it can be hard to accept that in your woman but I'm not going to judge any man I'm with for fucking 100+ women...and not getting paid for it.

 

One guy and it was his loss. I told him no to anal and he thought he'd get the upper hand. Unfortunately for him I was a 1st tier black belt in Kempo by the time I was 16 and a 1st tier black in Akido when I was 19. I'm also 5'10" and very athletic so I'm tall and not the stereotypical tiny chick that will get pushed around by a guy. Anyways, he tried to take what he wanted, I gave him 1 warning and when he got pushy and physical and tried to force me, I broke his nose with an elbow/palm combo, incapacitated him with some well placed shots to his very exposed and naked groin and hobbled him with a heel stomp.

sadly, I'm one of the few women in the industry with a true self defense background but as I had been doing it since I was 6 or 7, it was 2nd nature to me. There was a girl I was friends with that was anally raped 4 times in one night by a different guy than the one who saw me and her attacker was a well known John within the community. Which is why I think prostitution should become regulated and legalized so that girls have recourse in situations like that.

My guy hobbled off, called me a bunch of names, threatened me but I never heard from him again. It scared me and I kept a low profile for awhile and just stuck to my regulars. Sadly, it's an occupational hazard.

 

Depends on the city. In Denver, you can touch her butt and thighs but not her boobs or pussy. In other places there's the 10 foot rule. In Canada I hear they are essentially brothels in places like Toronto, Montreal and Vancouver.

 

This is a very interesting thread. Thank you for sharing honest answers.

 

Probably would be no unless I REALLY liked you. I could only think of three men that I've met in my life that could verbally degrade me and I'd be ok and into it. A close 4th would be Peyton Manning. He could call me whatever he wanted.

Maybe one or two over the 5 years that I can think of. I lived in Denver though, not an international hotspot.

 

People are judgmental. That's just human nature. Unless I was emotionally invested in him (unlikely), I'd just brush it off and say his loss. There's more to me than a few years of being paid to have sex with men. I understand it can be hard to accept that in your woman but I'm not going to judge any man I'm with for fucking 100+ women...and not getting paid for it.[/QUOTE]


what if u have feelings for him , and u know for sure he will leave , will u still tell him ?

 

Did you ever fall for a client or soften enough to let him take you on a date plus fuck you?

 

Were you able to guess what a "customer" wanted before they even requested anything?

Also, did you ever give a freebie because the client was good looking?

 

If I'm at a point where I've developed strong romantic feelings for a guy, I'm pretty sure at that point he

a) already knows
b) doesn't care
c) won't run

I'm extremely picky about who I emotionally open up to which is why I haven't had a long term serious relationship since my first year of college.

 

I briefly dated three different clients over the years. One I ended up "sugaring" for, the other two ended in emotional disasters. The agreement in those two cases was that I would still "work" because I had no desire to quit. However the guilt on my side for "cheating" (even though he knew) and his own issues with the fact that I had sex with men for a living was just a disaster.

You can't help but develop some degree of feelings for certain people. The very nature of sex can bind you to a degree to another person, especially when it's a long term sort of deal. Once guy I saw three times a month for a year before we tried dating. We lasted a whole 3.5 months before it fell apart. The other guy and I went our different ways after 2 months. After that I changed my mindset as best as I could to not get emotionally attached and tried to keep it at just sex.

In a moment of honesty, I think I met that one who subsequently got away because I did close myself off. He was a really good man that had left his wife prior to seeing me and his world was just too chaotic and I was his sanctuary. He even took me on a vacation with him (paid arrangement but I significantly lowered my price with him). When he dropped the l-bomb late one night, I didn't respond. I froze. I didn't love him back but I eventually could have but I had walled myself up and that relationship went to kaput as well.

He's the one man in my past, despite meeting him through my escorting, that I still wonder and think about.

 

I would imagine that it is very hard, at first, to do the escort business and treat it as a business, not personal. For me, I just think that sex is such an intimate act that I would have a hard time keep it to just business and keeping the emotions out of it. I know it's a mindset, how did you develop that mindset? and was it difficult? Any regrets regarding this?

 

Well, lol, I was correctly able to guess "blowjob" 95% of the time. That's not fair though, these were mostly married men and their wives apparently forgot how to suck dick or developed some allergic reaction or something.

If a guy was paying a lot of attention to my ass, I could correctly surmise he wanted to engage in a little DATO and/or greek (DATO = rimming or "dining at the O" and greek is codespeak for anal) but again, that was pretty simple to guess.

It's a hard question to correctly answer because many clients were both predictable and wanted to same thing. I'd try to mix it up but the formula was largely the same: blowjob, them down on me, maybe a 69, cowgirl, doggy, cum. If they were in a more kissing/holding mood, it would be mutual oral, cowgirl and then missionary for the finish (a lot of guys really liked missionary, that totally blew me away). But I would say yes, I could guess what they wanted but being that they were paying, a lot of guys weren't afraid to ask. The frustrating ones were the completely passive ones that wouldn't say anything. I had to take full control and just figure my way though it.

He was both incredible looking and he knew how to work a woman's body. I'm not kidding, his tongue was life changing. I had never cried from an orgasm before until him. It wasn't a sobbing cry but I was tearing up. He didn't get a freebie but instead of 2 hours he was invited to stay the night and we enjoyed 5 or 6 rounds before he left in the morning. He was something else. He knew how to be firm but gentle, strong but soft, etc. He wasn't a "let me rapid thrust away" guy either. I only saw him twice though. He loved the variety of escorts and fucked his way through 20+ girls before he dropped off the map.

 

At first it was easy actually. See before I started escorting, I had been with 50-60 guys. I was not shy about having sex at all. And so initially, since I was both "fresh meat" and only 19 years old, I was inundated with guys wanting to see me. So a lot of my initial clients were one-and-done types. It wasn't until I was 3-4 months in and some other new college aged girls showed up on the scene that I started to get regulars with any degree of frequency. And that's where guy #1 showed up. Otherwise, I was honestly ok with the one-and-done. It didn't bother me. I didn't build those connections. It truly was just sex.

I never fully kept emotions out of it long term though. They were always there. I just had to build up a wall and even then, with certain guys that I connected with, it was difficult to not open up to them. When you see the same guy 15-20 times over the year and have sex with him, it's hard not to. But after my two major dating disasters with clients, I promised myself not to compromise there. My lone regret was that I extended that wall into my personal life at times and it was hard to find balance there. In one way it was good because it kept potential boyfriends away. On the other hand, I probably missed out on some friendships as a result.

I want to stress I wasn't an emotionless robot. Far from it. My escort persona was only a few shades away from my real self. In fact early on I'd say the escort me and the real me were largely the same person until I got some discipline in me. I was genuine with many of my clients. I just couldn't let those emotions take over or control / manipulate me.

 

Interesting thread.

Shirley MacLaine in Irma laDouce comes to mind.

 

Tell us about the 1st time you had sex? How old? what was it like?