What about your sex life after your retirement?
Did you turn back into your old self and seduce every handsome man you see, but with more maturity? Or did your job as a sexworker influence how you think about sexual relationships (no matter their duration)?

Btw, in fact, you don't have to answer this question, as this is dealing with your personal life now, not with your life as a sexworker. And no, I'm not interested in a sexual relationship with you, but I wouldn't mind to have you over for a beer, wine or Scotch to listen to your story.

With all respect, I think it's one if the most difficult and demanding jobs in the world, and the way you approached it and how you talk about it now, deserves a lot of respect.

 

It just wasn't a life I wanted to live forever and I sometimes found myself far too wrapped up in it. I never planned on working long term and always told myself I'd quit after I was done with school. Making myself a proper wife was never a part of the equation. And while being an escort did allow me significant freedom and the ability to do a lot of things I otherwise wouldn't have been able to do at that point in my life, I just didn't want that long term. I was more ambitious than that.

Also keep in mind, there's no old whore's retirement home. While I easily could have worked another 10-15 years, the toll on your body can be hard if you aren't careful. I forced myself to be low volume. The truth is, however, greed as well as my own drive were very tempting to try and get double the volume I was already seeing (which was 3-5 guys/week). I knew that my overall service would suffer though and I wasn't willing to compromise.

Short version is I had an exit plan 3 months into work and I stuck to it. I got what I wanted from those years, it was a better education than any level of college could be and it put me on excellent footing for the future. That being said, I had some pics taken by a friend recently and I've toyed with the idea of working on a very limited basis again. I have an ad written, I have the photos done, I know what my services will be again and I have my exit strategy despite the fact that the volume and times I'm thinking about working would allow me to slip back into obscurity rather easily.

I have a great job that actually pays better and it's something I enjoy doing but I would be lying if I said that the call to return isn't there. It is there.

 

My sex life after I got out has been fine. If anything, I am riskier now as a non-pro than I was before my pro days and despite my best efforts to chill the fuck out, I hook up with a lot of guys still (just tonight I had some fun with a guy I met at a bar near my hotel). I've made the resolution the past 3 years to cut my number in half each year. Instead the number has increased from the previous year and I'm already aiming for a record this year. Part of me is disappointed but another part of me enjoys it.

I admit, I'm hypersexual. I have high testosterone levels for a woman. I honestly, truly, seriously and really love sex and most aspects of it. My life as an escort allowed me to hone my "skills" and become a much more versatile, informed and creative lover. I had to from necessity. I've had more than one guy tell me "wow, you really fucked me good" (or along those lines) in my post-escort days.

Sex has never really been a serious thing for me though. Losing my virginity was an "in the moment" decision and I never regretted it. Even after that boy and I broke up, I immediately started sleeping around and never really had any moral or personal issues with it. It holds true today. I just don't. I just wish I had the discipline to mandate condoms more but in the heat of the moment and when he's a married business traveler on the road for work and had no intention of hooking up, you're sometimes not prepped.

I do wish I slept around less because it is an extremely high risk lifestyle. I can recognize it but I don't really do anything about it because I'm not ready to surrender that part of me yet. I would still have multiple partners over the course of a year but instead of being in the 40-50 range every year, it would be more like 10-20. One day I would settle down but finding a guy who has a similar level of creativity, stamina / desire, has his shit together and his life in order, is independent and has a career and that we have similar interests just hasn't happened. That and I'm on the road a lot and I'm not willing to change jobs just to appease some societal norm about relationships and women's roles.

 

Fascinating Thread

Hi EroticaLady
Do you think your high level of Testosterone makes you think and act sexually like a guy? i.e. as many encounters as you can without the emotional side. (Not a criticism at all).

I find this thread fascinating, and streets ahead of anything else on here. You write so well, don't dodge questions and recount your experiences of your time as an escort in an honest and balanced way.
But what I find most interesting is that you put the enjoyment of others first, both in your professional and private life. Your encounters all relate to putting the other person before yourself, and you appear to be completely selfless.
Yes you charged, but the money went to your education, a worthy cause.

Your replies in other threads reflect this same selfless approach, almost in complete contrast to other female posters, who think sex is all about them. Kimiko is a typical example here, whilst guys rave over her, I see a rather self-centred all about me type of person.

Well done and many thanks

 

Wow, an intelligent, sex-crazy woman. I don't think there are a lot of these on the world what's your travel schedule? You never know ours match

Lol, serious now... Finding that one ideal guy you are looking for is going to be rather impossible, although a lot of men may claim they fit. I think your sexual fire needs to be settled a bit before you can commit. From what I hear, I would probably not be able to keep up with you
In the meanwhile, keep a few boxes of condoms in your car or hand luggage (would love to see the faces of airport security staff). Don't risk your life, it's too valuable...

 

This thread will inevitably die out naturally. Before that happens, speaking for myself and certainly echoing the thoughts of others - THANK YOU.

Don't know if you are a professional educator, but you sure have educated your readers here. Your kindness and understanding of those you meet is an inspiration, no matter what the field of endeavor.

 

Keep in mind, while my testosterone levels are more than twice (if not 3x) that of a "normal" woman, I'm still 1/4th that of an "average" guy. However as it was explained to me, given female biology, that extra bit of the hormones running through my system does indeed give me a higher sex drive. It's also a big part of why I'm big into fitness and can do as hard of workouts as I do.

Actually, I'm pretty selfish especially when it comes to sex. Now that doesn't mean I don't want my partner to enjoy themselves, I do, but I can be a bit self-centered and selfish. I appreciate the compliment though, I've just painted a bit nicer picture of myself than is likely true.

I don't know Kimiko, I've seen her posts, but I'm not sure that's a fair comparison. I'm sure she's a lovely woman but her intentions for being on this site are different than mine. Thus, there's going to be a different approach and a different way of talking. Trust me, I can be very much "all about me" but in the case of this forum, it's not entirely true. However if we're being honest, this thread in and of itself is a form of narcissism on my part.

 

I actually keep a 3 pack of thin magnums, barely there trojans and regular trojans on me in most cases. It's habit from my days of escorting. However, and as risky and dumb as it is, I just strongly prefer the feel of skin on skin and given that I still sleep with mostly married guys (just not for money) when I travel, it's not something I get myself worked up about. However, obviously, if they are willing to cheat and go bare w/ me, who's to say they haven't done it before so I do understand what you are saying and appreciate your concern. It's a 50/50 thing for me, just depends on the guy.

 

Mwah!

Thanks hon, I'm glad someone has gotten something out of it.

 

Hey,

Thanks for the time you put into this. I find it very useful. It may even kill some stereotypes (or just reinforce them). I'm curious how you find the time between your job and your sexual escapades to answer all these questions. Do you ever sleep?

I've got a few more, if you don't mind...
- what were the busiest times of the day, week and month for people to contact a sexworker?
- is the myth about full moon true?
- did you suffer from any "fakers"? Varying from men who would jerk off on the phone with you (they must exist) to those that just don't show up. What was your reply to them?
- have you ever been (asked to go) on a date longer than 24 hrs? Potentially joining someone on travel trips?
- have you underwent / considered / (or maybe even worse suggested to undergo plastic surgery? I don't know how you look like, and women with so called imperfections are so hot for me. But I can imagine some men really want nothing but Barbies...

 

Hey sweety

Can you tell my about your childhood and first sex experiences?

 

I have noticed many escorts state that they do not wish to have relations with African American males. I know this is merely a preference for some, but seeing as though you are getting paid to perform sexual favors, can one really justify that? What if the client was willing to pay extra?

I don't mean to sound crass. I just figured an escort, at times, would have to be blind to certain things they may find non appealing.

 

About 6 hours/night. Sometimes more, often less. I have always been able to get by with less sleep and I'm a total night owl.

Lunch time, after work and Mondays for me. Lunch time was easy for guys to sneak away. After work was a good way to de-stress before returning to reality and Monday is just Monday. Really I didn't have a more busy day than others but I'd say Mondays were a near constant.

Other than werewolves and crazy people, I'm not sure which myth you speak of

Time wasters. Endless strings of emails, phone calls, PMs, etc but never a session. Eventually I just quit replying to them via electronic methods. I had a 5 contact policy. You had 5 chances to book a date, after that, I would likely blow you off. However not sure I ever had a guy masturbating while I talked to him. I was never explicit on the phone (and for good reason) and if he was being explicit, I'd ask him to stop or I'd hang up.

No-shows were another problem. This is one thing that the girls would share on the escort only forums. If you think about it, we spend the time getting dolled up, prepped, sometimes paying for an incall location and then you don't show. It's expensive, we've maybe told another guy we were busy then, etc. Those guys either had to make it up financially before we'd see them again (which let's be honest, it almost never happened) or we just flat out blacklisted them. Trust me, a no-show will get you on the shitlist of a lot of girls very quickly.

Many times. Grand Cayman, Cozumel, Hawaii, Las Vegas quite a few times, NYC, San Fran, etc. I did a few overnights too but it's pretty cost prohibitive. It also has the strong chance of being incredibly awkward because of snoring, morning breath, sleep farts, etc. Oddly enough, it was a lot easier spreading my legs for a stranger than falling asleep next to him. I had a policy that I had to see a guy 3-5 times before I'd do either an overnight or a trip with him.

I'm a fitness fanatic. I probably go overboard but I'm incredibly healthy. To that end, I have good skin, flat tummy, toned legs, shapely boobs and butt, etc. About the only thing a guy has ever said was that he wished my boobs were bigger. I've fluctuated between a 32B/C (which is what I am now) and a 34 full C since I exited puberty. You have to keep in mind that I'm 5'10" and in the 135-140lb range (depending on my workouts and what I'm focusing on at any given time) so having naturally large breasts are not in the cards for me, especially in proportion to my size. Given that I am lean and fit, again, less fat and so smaller boobs. Think Taylor Swift for my basic body frame only I have more curve to my hips and my legs/thighs are much better defined/muscular and shaped than hers. I'm not as waif-ish as she is as my core is also thicker than her. I think my boobs are bigger than hers but neither one of us will ever be known for Pamela Anderson style cleavage.

But no, I've never considered it and even now I have no reason to do so. If I would have kids, I think it would be on the table but since I don't have children, I literally have zero excuse as to why I can't keep myself looking good with just a little bit of work each day.

 

My childhood was normal and irrelevant to the conversation as I wasn't abused, molested, raped, touched or anything like that. And I've answered this and your other question multiple times in this thread. Sorry, just not going to type it all out again.

 

https://forum.xnxx.com/showpost.php?p=6278243&postcount=131

I think that will help answer the question to some degree but in the end, it's about stereotypes and what/who women feel comfortable with. I saw black men, I don't think they're any different than a white / latino / hispanic man. Oddly enough, I admit I did discriminate twice against Indian (as in Asia India, not Native American) men. There's a long convoluted story behind that going back to my freshman year but short version is, I just could not get into it and there were some sensory issues on my side.

No, girls do not have to turn a blind eye. We have our preferences too. Some girls have a "no obese men" rule or "men over age 35 only please" rule. Yes, it can limit their market but just as clients have a choice, the girls can have a choice too.

 

Mondays? I think that's even my least frequent day. Maybe married men being happy to be away from the wife after nothing happened (again) in the weekend? Why else Mondays, jeezes...
If you would ask me, Fridays appear more logical (note to self: NO, not today, don't even think about it... Damn, need to fight ideas)

The full-moon time of the month appears to be the more sexually active time. Maybe that's an European legend, but to be honest, I have the impression it's true (and I heard others say the same).

Btw, the way you describe yourself and that fact that you're pretty smart, wow... Interested in a Ph-D? Lol

 

Fridays were good for morning and lunch sessions but never after hours because the expectation was these married men would go home and do the family thing. That and nobody "works late" (if you know what I mean) on Friday.

I wish I was in a discipline where I could go for my doctorate. Unfortunately there is no doctorate program for business verticals. I'm working on Masters #3 part time (started early last year, probably won't finish it until 2015) but yeah, it is what it is. Still, 3x masters are sexy on the resume.

 

Yep, wrong discipline, business, nobody is interested in a Ph-D... They want to make money.

3x masters is nice indeed

So, you're pretty much in a "men's world". Could your choice for this domain be attributed to your testosterone level?

Although, I have the impression more females for for M-Sc and Ph-D, percentage wise, compared to men (at least in recent history).

 

thanks for the interesting and enlightening answers to the questions, i have wondered if you were hired to help a son go off to college with some experience of ladies that he couldnt get in high school, i have heard of fathers doing this and of course in the movies it happens, were you ever approached for this

 

Urban myth as far as I'm concerned. It came up once when I was working on a popular escort forum in Denver. A guy was asking for recommendations for his 21 y/o virgin son as a bday present. The guy got flamed incessantly by men and women alike. Now I have no doubt some girl saw dollar signs and contacted him. But I think it probably very rarely actually happens and to be honest, I think the guy that asked it was trolling anyways.

That's not to say I didn't see a few virgins. That's actually not all that uncommon, them getting an escort for their first time.