we are marrid for 3 years and had great sex life. few dayes ago my wife told me shoking news to me. she has strong feeling toward girls and she used to mastrubate 3 4 times per day thinking about girls. once she had sex with girl 1 year ago never did after that. now she is not satisty with me.

plz help me to overcome this...

 

History

How did you meet your wife?

 

it is long story i meet her while studing ..

 

Sharing

Why not ask her to bring a girl home and share her together. You might learn some tricks while watching and also get to enjoy a threesome.

 

nw she desn't have any gril friend and I dont want to ruin my family life also

 

Can we see a picture of your wife please?

 

cant it is not solution

 

Apart from asking a bunch of strangers for advice, what else have you tried for a solution?

Did she tell you that you did not satisfy her?

Did she have fun with the other girl with your knowledge?

 

she told it and it hurts me. I hope to meet psycatrisian.

 

You should be talking to your wife not a bunch of perverts on a porn website. If you cannot talk to your wife you shouldn't be married. If you need a way to start the conversation try this "what you told me about you and women has me concerned an worried ..."

 

thank buddy I talked few times nw i cant think what shoud i do

 

i am still finding answer for this

 

Pretty much what Wood said. Only answers you're going to find is by talking to her.
Maybe it turns out she's a lesbian. Maybe she's bi. Or somewhere in between.
Maybe she just isn't into you any more, but still likes men. It's hard, but that's also
a possibility. The point is though, you won't ever know unless you talk to her.

If it turns out she's not into men any more, well... This is again something that's
going to be between her and you. Stay married (open/lavender marriage)? Divorce? etc.

If it turns out she's bi, or just not that into you any more talking to her can help you
find out WHY she isn't. You could also try marriage counseling if this is the case; to help
mediate the talk.

 

First stop making her feel bad about the way she feels toward girlds. Ask her if you can help her feel more into u even if it's with a girl involved

 

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thanks i talk lot with her she is also in doubt.. i dont want to lose her. if we chang our living area will it help???

 

Lost cause, because...

If you're worried about losing her, she's already gone, even though she may still be married to you & living with you. You may have thought the sex was great, but she obviously needed something you don't have. Now you're holding her back in her attempt at self-discovery. She's not "in doubt," she's hiding the vital part of herself - the part of her soul in which she feels most alive - from you because you had such a rotten, stunted, punishing reaction to it. A change of "living area" is a forlorn hope: it won't matter how close or how far apart you are in physical space - she's written you off. She was upfront about liking the girl-girl thing & you freaked. That told her how things are. Why are you on a porn site if sex is such a problem for you? Had you responded while her cunt was hot you could have taken her to a lesbian bar & let girls hit on her, come home with her. Instead, you went the Insecure Route, the old "What's wrong with me if she wants another woman?" Until you come to terms (try jerking off to fantasies of her with women to cum to terms) with your insecurities you'll never have a woman who feels compelled to be close to you. Even abject submissives will shun you.

 

Sorry bud,, if this came from way out in left field I can understand your reaction. It's hard on both parties involved. Every body expects the straight spouse of a gay person to just say that's great when the gay partner "comes out" but it's extremely painful for them I imagine.
And I'm also sure it's hard for the gay spouse to come out also because they felt they had live a lie and get married in the first place.

Like everyone said you have to talk it through and come to a decision together. No matter how painful the outcome may be.

 

There is a major question you need to ask her. It sounds to me that she is waiting for the question to come up in conversation. The answer you may not like, but wouldn't you want to know the truth?

Is she talking about being into girls because she wants to leave you for one? Or is it she wants to experiment with girls with your permission? If it's the latter, does she want you involved or is she asking you more for an open relationship?

Quick story :
I had a good friend of mine that went down the same road. His wife wanted to experiment with girls so they found, or should I say, she found one. Truthfully, I know she already had one picked out. So they had a couple threesomes with this girl and lets just say, he was not really all that involved during these threesomes. Next thing he knows, she is there with his wife when he comes home from work on numerous occasions. He even caught them making out on their couch. Shortly thereafter, she leaves him for this girl. All I'm saying is, your wife might be looking for an out. This is something you need to ask her, because it's not fair to either of you if you both aren't happy. There's always someone who is going to get hurt, but at least you weren't lied to.

 

if she want to be lesbo or bi how will affect it to our family??? will we have children??

 

How could we possibly answer that?