If it is the situation as you described, " ... doesn't get hard, but he doesn't have a medical reason. He gets hard other times. (like when he's alone).." I would inclined to tell him to beat it.

 

More Ways Than One

I had prostate cancer 2 yrs ago and since i have had my prostate removed I don't always get hard.....so I just make sure the wife gets off with my tongue, fingers or toys. It does get very frustrating when I dont get hard but I have just learned to live with it and try not to get frustrated...cause it will get hard...just never know when sometimes.

 

If it's you that can't get someone hard there has to be something wrong with him!

 

its hard (no pun intended) to say like other have said stress, if you have kids, just being tired in general, his diet. Like do you always try to have sex the same time of day like at night or the afternoon? Try changing it up or keeping like it in the afternoon or at night. I mean when he gets hard for you were you flirting with him that day sending him texts or is it just no real build up and you just try touching him? Its can be really any thing even if its not health related.

 

He does sound a little less useful then what he should be, also is that beat his cock or get out of here !!!!????

 

LOL ... the double meaning was intentional

 

Yes

 

I used to take it really personally when my ex couldn't get hard or stay hard. But I wasn't attracted to him and didn't cum from him so now I'm quite grateful for every time he didn't have sex with me.

 

I would not take it personal..just be playful and affectionate and assure him it's ok and I would keep touching,kissing,rubbing all over him and have him relax and maybe take a nap and try again

 

Don't think I'd have any problems getting hard if you are touching, kissing, and rubbing all over my cock!

 

lol..oh there could be times it happened not many though

 

Damn straight about it not happening often....I'm jerking right now!

 

Thankfully I haven't had this problem very often. But sure, sometimes it happens. What can I say I'm getting older. This response is right on the money! If you stress out, and stress him out, You might as well forget it. Last time I checked, sex was not mandatory. It is supposed to be fun. There are always other ways to play, even if men aren't always "up" for the occasion.

Another thing I haven't seen mentioned is "Whiskey Dick". Sadly sometimes a few too many drinks can play havoc with your sex life. I would think this is one of the most common.

 

Can you still cum? Men can cum without an erection. I find sucking a flaccid or semi flaccid cock can allow for lots of experimentation with deep throating, swallowing, licking, probing and such.

 

Be a cold day in hell when your touch doesn't do it babe.

 

Happened to me last year. I didn't take it personally, just had a wank then fucked off back to my hotel room! There are too many hard cocks in this world for me to worry about one soft one.
Admittedly, it would be different had it not been a one-nighter:laughing:

 

Nerves, performance anxiety, psychological issues, stress, physical exhaustion, lack of sleep, cholesterol blockage of the arteries that feed blood into the penis, some sort of nerve damage to the spine, medication, and just not being attracted to the person are all the reasons I can think of.

 

I don't get hard over for e.g prostitutes, I don't like the idea of just paying for it, the chase is all part of it, the meeting offering a drink, chatting, the mimicking of movements e.g taking a sip of your drink and watching her reciprocate, dancing together, a little smooching leading to naughty chat, the hotel room or taking her home, it's your trophy, your notch on the bed and your her notch on the bed too, now that makes me hard, the build up of sexual tension between each other, I had one girl whe we where out I made a whipping noise to insinuate where she worked her boss was a slave driver, she turned round and said " be careful *********** I might like that (****** is a name she used to call me) we didn't get another drink I took her home and dirty sex with her, I whipped her arse with my belt, we fucked none stop for over 4 hours, I came 3 times and didnt loose my erection, she put the word sin in sinner.
i asked her to go out with me, but she said she had met someone who she wasn't attracted to but was rich and could provide for her son everything he would ever need, she told me " I just knew you'd be one kinky dirty fuck from the first time you came in the bank" ... And was I ? I asked, her reply touched me " if not for my son I'd be in love with you right now, you will be who I dream of when I feel alone"
that turned me on, I saw her last year in a crowded street, I hummed and harred was it wasn't it her ? Until she saw me and her face lit up, with a cheeky wink she took her husbands arm and walked past with a smile .....

but it other than that, un-adventurous women in bed is a huge turn off, and Ironically certain things women say leading up to a sexy night.
I love kissing, a passionate good kisser really turns me on.... I have been told I am a lovely kisser myself , I think lips are very sensual they offer a great depth to what another is feeling

p.s yes I have a thing for picking up bank clerks while at work, its so satisfying when they say yes to a date infront of everyone, now that turns me on, I have no problems approaching a very sexy beautiful woman who'd appear out of my league, yes some say no, but a lot dont

 

Ive been nervous and not gotten hard when I've really liked viewed a girl/ woman as a potential partner, but I've just gotten down on them or used toys, then as you relax and feel comfortable it soon comes back.