Is watching porn or calling chat lines cheating

 

No

 

Not at all dear.

 

No .... It's learning and expressing

 

No its not. Really people need to understand watching porn or talking dirty is not to be equated with cheating

 

It depends. Everyone's opinion of cheating is different. Some people view kissing and above is cheating. Others view having sex with other people is cheating. And then you'll have people who think that taking a quick glance at someone else and maybe have a dirty thought is cheating. The point is one person might believe that watching porn or calling chat lines is cheating for various of reasons which include that the other person in the relationship believes that they should be enough for their sexual needs and feels a betray of trust. But another person might believe that watching porn or calling chat lines is not cheating for various of reasons which include that you're not making a physical and/or emotional connection and it's just pure innocent lust.

 

God, I HOPE NOT.

 

There is a simple test to determine if something is cheating, or not. If you have to hide it, or lie about it, in order to preserve your primary relationship, it's cheating. This doesn't discourage a lot of people. Many look upon cheating(choose your definition) as a way to deal with problems or inadequacies in their relationship and still maintain the relationship. Sometimes it works. Sometimes it doesn't. Sometimes it's kept secret because it's simply embarrassing.
To be realistic about it, if watching porn and masturbating to some fantasy is cheating, it would have to be a very restrictive relationship. The partner would have to be very insecure to feel threatened by masturbation and this would lead to a lot of other problems. Chatting with another person might easily be seen as a threat, or at the least, make the partner feel inadequate in someway.

 

You and your partner set the parameters of your relationship. Stepping outside of those parameters is cheating.
Your partner might be ok with you watching porn but might consider chat or Skype to be cheating.
If you don't think it's cheating then ask yourself what you would do if your partner was doing it behind your back.

 

No its not beautiful, but message me so we can talk further in private

 

I do agree because once the relationship begins, there will be rules being made of what's acceptable and what's not. It's important that it has been told in person between the couple so there is no confusion. Just like you said, if you don't want your partner to do something behind your back, then you shouldn't do it behind their back. For example, there are plenty of couples who are very sexual and trustworthy that they would allow each other to have sex with other people but even in those situations, there are rules being made such as for example, they both have to be in the same room together, both partners would have to be in the sexual conquest, the partner that's not having sex is not allowed to be in the other room, and the rules can go on from there.

 

wow great post, thanbk you I understand more clearly now

 

ty this helps asa well, I don't lie about it by my BF gets made because I often dotn pay attentntio ti him soe he feels second best, but I don't this only he shuts me down ot denies me sex

 

if im at home and not out in public with other guys who I can psyically have contact with I can see him getting mad but I do it form home. and I tellhim about it but he gets mad either way. I don't want topsyically cheat but I am getting blamed for it without doing it

 

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Watching porn no. Chat lines you're walking a line that depends on what you and your partner agree is cheating I would call it cheating if it is sexual chat.

 

Look, if you are getting off with porn and chat and then ignoring your partner, I think they have a bone of contention. If you find it more appealing and easier to take care of business with porn and or chat, over your partner, I wouldn't call it cheating.

My GF has said to me, if you are going to watch porn, please do it with me. That's great when she is around. However, I'm on the road a lot and I need to take care of things. She understands and just asks me to share with her what I've watched or jerked off to and it get's her excited.

If I went to bed and turned my back on my lover and she found out I didn't give her any affection because I was jerking off earlier, my ass would be kicked to the curb.

Gotta make sure your surfing/chatting doesn't mess with your relationship is all.

 

Im not sure that watching porn could be construed as cheating... Chat lines..possibly yes.

Why do you ask ?

 

No problem and thanks. If you're in a relationship and you're worried that watching porn, calling chat lines or even being in here is defined as cheating, then just be upfront and ask for your partner's opinion of it. Only his opinion should matter since you're in a relationship with this person and his definition of cheating can vary so maybe viewing porn and chat lines isn't cheating in his eyes and even if he does view porn and chat lines as cheating, maybe you two can compromise and do certain things together like the few couples that go on this site together.

 

It actually turns me on that my guy will watch porn, if he doesn't i find him weird, lol. Now, if he rather watch porn than fuck me then i consider it some type of cheating.

Calling chat lines? Yes, i consider that cheating.