Just curious to see how many other people out there are on here that their husband or wife has no clue. Who else is living kinda a double life and if their husband or wife knew about their fetishes would leave in a heartbeat? I have such a sexual drive open to anything and ALWAYS horny. My wife is a prude and conservative mind. Pm me with your sickest wildest fantasy or something you've actually done that would cause your husband or wife to leave you.

 

Bump

 

I've never made any secret of my preferences, my wife wasn't into that so it got set aside.

When I started writing about it and posting here, it felt more like a double life, like I was hiding something, so I told her about it.

It may (or may not) be a coincidence but that's when we started fucking like rabbits and we found a way to incorporate some of my kinks. Though my wife is not "conservative", "very vanilla" is apt. She likes how happy I am when she indulges me.

 

I have always been open with my partners about being bi and a cross dresser. There were times when adjustments had to be made but we figured it all out for everyone

 

My wife has no idea that I am bi and that I frequent this porn site.

 

Been doin 'double-duty' for over 10 yrs now.....wife is suspicious, but doesn't know for sure. Tried to get some kink from her, but no dice...so a guy has do what he's gotta do - unfortunately.

 

I do not hide things from my wife, she knows im on here, she knows of my fantasies/kinks and is always happy to indulge me at a moments notice.

 

You really call secret kinks and visiting porn sides a "double life"? Seriously?

 

What else would u like to call it? When u live one life at home and with your family and friends but there's a completely different side of you that u act on away from home .... yeah a double life. ... seriously?

 

Before you get into a long term commitment you should discuss everything including sexuality.

 

I agree and I wish I would have. The thing is I started exploring my sexuality after I got married. Trust me I would love to let her know and let her help but she would divorce me in a heartbeat. I know that for a fact.

 

Tell her your feelings and let the chips fall where they will or live of life of deception and unhappiness

 

Either way I'm unhappy. ..damn sex and it's power!

 

It took me a while to openly admit "most" of my fantasies and fetishes due to my wife's delicate nature, but we've embraced that most of them will either never happen or have and that's the past. I believe in full disclosure since you never know where it might lead?

 

Although I would agree that being open about the subject is one way to go, It is easier said than done. When I got married, it was because of love, not my sexual deviancy. Now there are kids involved, bills, career paths, all now intertwined to the point that separation/divorce is a real factor in the overall grand scheme of things. There are couples out there that are open to many things. Others, like myself, have to deal with the reality that the spouse will not be interested in what the other is into. My wife knows I have a past, and every time it gets brought up, she will get upset, to the point of being angry with the attitude of "I'm ok with what others do, but not in my house" mentality. Sometimes it is something that has to be lived with. A double life is something that may work for some, not for others. And in the grand scheme of things, being open about it may not always be the best and only solution.

 

Yep, I'm right there with you! My wife is currently asleep upstairs, and I'm down here stroking my cock to all sorts of things. I've found that the problem with the honesty thing is that it works until you find your partner's limit, then after that they start to feel awkward talking about it with you, and little do they know that you've only touched the tip of the iceburg.

My wife and I had a great sex life when we were younger, played with some light bondage and that kind of thing, but I always wanted more of it. She fingered my ass on our honeymoon and it was the most turned on I've ever been in my life - it bothered her, she wondered if I might be gay. I held back from telling her I was probably a little bi-curious and had fantasised about men, but I told her the idea of her fucking me with a strapon turned me on like crazy. She looked a little disgusted by it. I've broached the subject once or twice, more delicately since, and always with the same result, so I don't mention it any more. I keep two huge vibrating dildos hidden in my study and they only come out when she goes away without me to visit family or friends.

I indulge myself here, looking at porn and having the occasional IM chat, because I love my wife and I would never want to cheat on her, but at the same time I need an outlet for the fantasies/feelings I'm never going to get to live out, or even roll play, in real life. I mean, given the reaction I described above, what do you think the result would be if I told her that my darkest fantasy was to be stripped of all my body hair, dressed up as a schoolgirl, and fucked by five men at the same time (two in my ass, one in my mouth, and one in each hand)? It would not end well!!

 

Try being married for 10 years and having your wife discover you spend your spare time when she is not around looking like this:



And yet 10 years later we are still married.

 

Great legs!

 

mwf married to a very conservative man. I'm in this situation as well. If he only knew...