Ok so me and my bf been together almost a year and he tells me he loves me everyday but he's completely lost interest in sex with me. He would rather jerk offs in the bathroom for random women over the phone. I don't know what to do

 

I would just be upfront with him and talk to him about it. If it's really bothering you that your boyfriend lost interest in sex with you and rather play with himself with other women, then it's best that you talk to him. Maybe your sex life with him needs some spice to make it more interesting and fun.

 

I've tried talkin to him and he says he's just stressed and that it hurts to have sex right now but it doesn't hurt to jerk off

 

Yea, I don't really believe that his dick hurts to have sex if it doesn't hurt when he masturbates over other women, like you said. In that case, maybe he's just interested in other women if he feels the need to say that his dick hurts from pleasing his girlfriend but it doesn't if he pleases himself for other women.

 

Lol

 

He says it hurts a lil to jerk off but not as bad and that he just needs some time but he won't go to the dr and he jerks off almost every day in the mean time I've been goin without and in so sexually frustrated and horny it's not funny

 

If it hurts for him to jerk of a little, then just go back to my original comment and talk to your bf about it. But just talk to him to pay some attention to you sexually. It doesn't have to be sex at all. There's plenty of women that love to watch a guy jerk off and if you're one of that women, then maybe that's something that the both of you can do together. If he really likes jerking off and having a woman hear about it, then surely he would love to have an actual woman to watch him jerk off. Since you're sexually frustrated, you could always switch the roles and have him watch you play with yourself as well.

 

I did tell him that hell I even told him I would jerk him off while gettin myself off but he still just hides in the bathroom or goes and uses a gas station bathroom

 

Yeah communication is key but bump up the sexual tension for him if he jerks off everyday he is getting a release, do the same thing, walk around with lingerie or nothing at all, have him buy you toys and have him use them on you, keep him away from his phone when he goes to the bathroom

 

I can't walk around like that cause of kids and a roommate and I have lots of toys and we used to use them all the time til now and he keeps his phone on him 24/7 there is no way to keep him from takin it in there with him

 

May we see what you look like? To see if your boyfriend is out of his mind

 

If you have to go through a lot of effort just to try to please your man when he's clearly into other women, then you just need to give him a taste of your own medicine. You apparently don't like that he's paying more attention to other girls than you then you should pay more attention to guys and see the type of reaction that you'll get out of him. It does suck because at this point, you're just begging to have some quality time with him from asking what he likes to asking to jerk him off while pleasing so maybe if you're really this sexually frustrated, then at this point, you deserve to treat yourself to pleasing yourself. If he doesn't want to please you, there's always other methods to please you.

 

Sounds to me like u need dick. Who wouldn't want to please there woman. What a jerk!!!

 

I just don't want to be considered a cheater you know

 

Yes I do very badly it's been a month and a half. I've been askin myself that same question

 

You don't have to as long as you're playing with yourself and watch porn, view pictures or even just use your mind. But of course some people view that as cheating. But what do you view as cheating? Do you feel your boyfriend masturbating to other women and talking to them at the same time classifies as cheating?

 

There is something deeper going on here that he's not telling you.

 

Yes I do because I feel that's somethin that's supposed to be between us. If he was just watchin porn it would be different but talkin to women on the phone and tellin them what he wants to do to them and what he wants them to do to him is cheatin in my book

 

I've been thinkin the same thing