New to the site and first post here.
A little about me/us.
Married 28 years, neither ever strayed from each other. My wife is a not overly aggressive in bed I am more so than her. While talking about fantasizing one day she had told me that sometimes she imagines while we are having sex mostly doggy style there are other men in the room. She says no faces just envisions cocks. She sucks one or two and holds the others. We have done role playing, she is not much of a talker and I try to bring her out of that shell some. We play with toys and our sex is pretty good and often. I am the only man she has ever had sex with also. I told her that I can arrange that fantasy for her and she just kinda shrugs it off. I believe I would be okay with a 3rd person, I am mature and very comfortable with myself and my marriage. Is this normal for you ladies, is she trying to tell me something without coming right out with it. Makes me wonder if she wants to experience someone else. I asked that and she says happy with just me but I wonder.
What do you think,
Thanks

 

We can't speak for your wife you need to ask her what she likes and wants

 

Was just trying to get a female perspective on this but thanks anyway

 

It may just be a fantasy of the mind and nothing more. People can have those. It's one thing to have the fantasy because it's just that, a fantasy. It's another to act it out and the act carries a lot of risks to some people. In the fantasy, everything is perfect and you are in control. In real life things may not be so perfect so why spoil a mental vision with something that may not live up to the hype?

I'm not discouraging it, I'm just telling you that is how some people approach the situation. Your wife may not want the actual act but enjoys the thought of it. She may have a hang-up with the ideal of actually being with a man other than you. It may just be a role play for her when using toys and nothing else. Or she could be expecting you to take the lead. But you clearly need more communication here and asking us won't help other than conversation starters. She's the one who needs to articulate what she wants.

 

Don't you like the thought or fantasy of lots of boobies or pussy around you?

 

Agree with every reply above.
If she wants just cocks, no faces, that avoids any personal or emotional attachments (good or otherwise) for her and makes it all about physical sex. If you ever get to fulfilling this fantasy put bags over the guys heads and tell them they can moan, gasp, whimper, grunt, and sigh - but NO talking.

 

My guess is it is a fantasy and nothing more. Be glad that she has them and is willing to share them with you on ocassion. Its cool that she has these thoughts, use them to heighten your pleasure when you are together and dont assume that just because she has fantasies that she actually wants them to become reality

 

Thanks for the replies, I think I will just let it be, listen, wait and see.

 

Yeah. It's an incredibly common fantasy for women and doesn't neccessarily need to get acted upon.

 

I believe she is saying she would like to experiment, possibly. 28yrs of marriage. JMHO.

 

Have you thought of buying a dildo for her to put in her mouth while you penetrate her from behind?
Or you could buy one that has a suction cup on it. You stick it to a wall and she backs up to it. Then she could give you oral while she rides the dildo.
If that goes well, then you can return to the subject of her having other men present during sex.

 

Yes we did the dildo thing, she rode it while blowing me. She said that she did not like riding it that much, feels different. I told her to try sucking on it but she said she felt funny doing that. I will just try and keep communicating with her i guess. She is not the best at that. I do most of the talking trying to get things out of her.

 

Swingers party!! Have sex with her in the same room with other couples... just make sure to set the ground rules up front... an stick to them.

 

more often than not the idea of it is more sexual than the actual act. find some porn along the same lines and play it while you have sex.

 

[QUOTE="Rothko, post: 6564197, member: 536472"fantasy guess is it is a fantasy and nothing more. Be glad that she has them and is willing to share them with you on ocassion. Its cool that she has these thoughts, use them to heighten your pleasure when you are together and dont assume that just because she has fantasies that she actually wants them to become reality[/QUOTE]
Agree, allow her to be open and honest, share fantasies. If she wants more realism mount dildoes on some makeshift stand to simulate the fantasy. If she likes it she may want to go futher. If not then easy to remove. The problem with trying fantasy senerio is that it may discourage her from trying things if they don't work out.

 

You sound like you're taking this more serious than her now.

 

Yes I am, I would not have a problem with myself and 1 or 2 guys with my wife nor would I have a problem with myself and 1 or 2 girls with my wife although I have been told that scenario will not happen. I am much more adventurous when it comes to sex and not as jealous. I am up for whatever she feels comfortable with, when I figure that out!!

 

Well, what if she doesn't feel comfortable with any of it and just wants to keep it a fantasy?

 

Badboy Badboy what you going to do what you going to do when she comes for you!!!

 

OUCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!