since people seem to think that there are certain cliques on this forum,

see this thread

https://forum.xnxx.com/viewtopic.php?t=3504

I figured I would do a poll. Do you think there are cliques on this forum? If there are, do you think it is a bad or a good thing?

 

There are definitely clicks on the forum and its a bad thing. Just like back in high school, the people in the clicks are going to back each other up. Doesn't matter who is right or wrong. Discussions should be about the issue or issues at hand, not about, "well this is my friend so he/she is automatically right." Having clicks in a forum defeats the purpose of having a forum to begin with.

 

well in case you don't know what a clique is, it's a group of close knit people who do not let anyone else into their group and don't like people outside of their group. To me that does not sound like this forum. If you look around on here, there's a couple of things you notice.

One- this place is all about RESPECT, and respect is earned not given. You earn respect by showing it towards people who are already here and most posters realize that when they join and are usually welcomed with open arms by everyone on the forum for doing so.

Two- there are a hell of a lot of jackasses who think that they are God's gift to the world and start talking as such as soon as they join, they are annoying as shit and can make the members here, especially the older ones, very quick to dismiss members who do not attempt to follow the way things are done around here.

Three- Most of the close-knit people are close-kint for a reason. They have either been here for a long time and know each other, or they have talked outside of the forum, or they have something in common with each other, or they just like certain people.

Here's another question for you. What do you think the cliques are and who do you think are in them?

 

I don't post a whole lot but i can def. say i'm not in a click and the whole idea of it seems ridiculous. I think there a certain people that have a good rep and there are users who get a long well with eachother but that doesn't make them a click. When you say click, i imagine a group of people that try remain exclusive of others and belittle other people. I do not see that at all on this forum. People jump on people for saying stuff but thats not the same. I know the 9/11 topic has raised emotions on both sides but i think people go issue by issue. Isn't that called bipartisan? But yea, for myself i really dont remember many people but the people that do stand out are Rain (always has the best pics), baller, sarai, and caffine. Oh and that dude with the guy in jean shorts and no shirt as his avatar. Out of those people, it seems like most of them get along pretty well, but they do not make others feel like outsiders and are rather social.

 

Sure there are, there are "Clicks" in life, not just in school, but work, neighbors...... Never belonged to a forum that was any different. Hell go into a chatroom, they exist there too.

No biggie though, just be you and if others ignore you or talk about you, oh well... I personally try to treat everyone the same.

 

I don't think I'm God's gift to anything. All I'm saying is, as you look through strand after strand of posts, you notice that the same little group of people stand up for each other. I've also noticed that, in cases, people disagree with them and make comments based on thier personal beliefs. Instead of being respected as a person with a different opinion, its like a pack of lions on a wounded gazelle. These same group go after the one with a different opinion. Also, a new person can't even make a comment to one individual without others of the group coming to his/her aid, almost as if that person isn't capable of handling his/her own business. Laying your own personal attachments to the side, can you honestly deny that this isn't the case? As far as the respect thing goes, I agree wholeheartedly with you. But respect is a two way street and I'm not going to give it out if its not given to me in return. As far as the older posters. You basically said new people have to roll over and follow their rules. Unless they created this forum, they don't make the rules. If I have an opinion and post to a thread, I'm going to. I have that right as much as the next guy. I'm not blasting you baller, you don't seem like one of the ones that do that, but there are others on here that do.

 

Yes, Baller, it is spelled "Cliques."

Hear that, everybody?

C - L - I - Q - U - E - S

Cliques.




If you feel like you're not being let into the circle, ask yourself why. Unlike High School, this stupid site isn't a popularity contest based on good looks and money. It's based on what you say. Period.

 

It's based on what you say. Period.[/quote]Yeah, as long as what you say aligns with what the group is saying.

 

I don't feel there is any sort of cliqueness (word?) here, I have felt accepted since the day I signed on. I have had some different views than other people, but have never felt attacked for them. And this is why I remain here.

 

Thank you.

I don't understand how going against the majority on this forum will get you in trouble! Like, you have the right to say whatever you want until you're banned. And you won't get banned unless you do something seriously stupid. I think the folks on here are pretty open to ideas. Feel free to disagree!

 

i don't think there are "cliques". it just takes a while to convince some of the users here that you are for real. a lot of people come here and lie and stuff to get attention. you can't just come into the forum and say "hey i'm insert name here" and expect to be automatically accepted. you will be greeted and welcomed but you have to be around a while to actually make friends. i've been on here since june i think and still haven't really gotten to know everyone. i like the atmosphere and the people here though.

 

I don't notice that. What I notice is that rudeness is repaid with rudeness, that the people who can disagree politely are the ones who stick around, and that the people who actually try to say something get more respect than those who just fling insults.

A person agreeing with what one person says or disagreeing with what another says is not "coming to his/her aid." If you disagree with what the majority says perhaps you ask for a clarification or for more information instead of assuming that these people are responding only because one of their friends did.

Yep.

First, respect is not a two-way street. You can show respect even when its not given to you. The assumption I've seen is that every newbie is worthy of respect, but the easiest way to lose that respect is by not showing respect for others.

So far as "roll over and follow the rules" is concerned. Damn right you do. That's basic and essential ettiquette when joining any group. When you make a mistake you apologize and move on. If you try to enforce a different standard of ettiquette or claim that a different way is better, you just piss off the people who have been around long enough to see the local ettiquette grow into place. There are ways to change things politely if you think things need to change, but trampling on the established patterns won't get you anywhere.

 

I love all you guys equally 8)

 

This is kind of Ironic but that one person says that if someone has a varying opinion than the main group everyone jumps on that person and it seems like we're doing exactly that ha. But in all seriousness, i tend to think that the main posters on here get along really well and part of that is because the think similarly. I wouldnt call it a CLICK because they're friendly with each other. As far as jumping on people because their opinion is different, mabye thats because they share the same views. I refuse to believe that anybody on here thinks hmm even tho i think he's wrong, i gotta get his back, its against everyone else. Just because they get along and share similar views, therefor disagree on the same topics, it doesn't make them CLICKS.

 

group association

It does seem that the deep thinkers seem to group together, Do you wish to stop that?
It does seem that those interested in beautiful photographs group together, Do you wish to add to that group those that have poor taste.
I do not see that any series of posts exclude any one..

 

Well the way I see it, I think the tread starter should reply to all who post opinions in thier thread, even if it is a couple of words!
If others in that thread don't want to, that's up to them.
But more common curtasy would help around here as of late, by the first posters, and the new posters.
It realy sucks when you feel you have a valid opinion
To have it over written by a fight that broke out, or completely ignored all together.
One more thing...Just maybe some of us don't spell that well, I constantly ask my wife how to spell a word, but if she isn't around, I wing it! I haven't won any fucking spelling bees lately, or haven't takin any awards for grammer...so read past that and you might find a message that you agree with.
Doc

 

Sure.

It's cliques.

If your wife isn't around, and a word is important, use this: Online Dictionary.

Spelling isn't that important, but it helps to get your point across, plus there's no reason not use the right spelling of a word.

 

I second what was said about the cliques just being people who happen to be like-minded. A person shows up being a 'tard and people come up and say "hey, you're a 'tard." That's not a clique, that's agreeing. I don't think I belong to any clique but my own. If there is in fact a clique, I certianly wasn't invited :wink:.

-S-

 

yesh...i hope there's not any true cliches...cuz nobody bothered to tell me... lol jk

 

Not sure

I will accept anyone's opinons or comments on this forum. Always have, always will.

I have noticed there are a few that do chat more to one another, but I don't know if that exactly a clique or not. I don't let it bother me. Like I said, I accept all comments and I would hope you would accept mine as well. That's called respect and common courtesy.