Syndicate, I'd do the same thing if a girl cheated on me. I have wayyy too much self worth and respect to deal with someone who cheated on me but one situation isn't the same as every situation. I'm not saying I agree with people who cheat but if you don't know the people, then how can you know what the situation is?

 

Well, don't kill yourself, Syndicate. Nothing is worth that. I didn't even meet the guy I married until I was five years older than you are.

 

To Baller: Yeah, I know there are different situations, and I can't hope to guess them all. But I seriously stopped caring about them after about the 4th 'situation' I was in.

And to Kimiko: What I said may have been an overexageration, or may not. I couldn't say what I would trully do in that situation, though I do have a history of... suicidal depression. I won't go into it here, but let's just say that if I would have met my fiance a week later than I did... well, I would have never met her. So it's not as easy to just say it's not worth it for me. I know it's not... but sometimes people can't help it.

 

would never cheat but if she wanted to bring someone to the bedroom i would probably say yes

 

nope, been in the position didnt take up the offer.
had it happen to me, know how much it bloody well hurts when the truth comes out, couldnt do that to someone i love.

 

i don't know if it is considered cheating, because my "bf" and I aren't really together, he wants to wait till I graduate, which will be in about 8 months, before we get back together, and I have showed myself to my other ex bf over my webcam for the past few nites. I love my "bf" and i still have some feelings for my ex. its difficult, and he had sex with alot of girls also, almost even caught an STD and I'm just showing someone who has already seen me naked, I'm still as much as a virgin as I was when i met my "bf" idk, i could never do it for real tho, like if we were together and not waiting, i wouldn't be able to do it without puking.

 

NO NO NO

NO NO NO... I have strong believes against cheating. I have had it done to me, and I was a loyal husband. It is devastating when an affair is found out. I pray no one has to go through that.

 

Well I thought I would never do that considering what my parents put me through when I was growing up. That said, if you are in a relationship that is missing something and that something is an important part of a relationship, then all of a sudden it goes from just talking either over the internet, the phone or any other way of communicating, to finding out that this person does care in a way you have not felt in a long time and then you cross that line. If your feelings are kept in check then you can maintain whatever secrecy you want from your partner, and just enjoy it, but if you let your emotions go, then you have a problem. So as some of the previous ppl have commented on, if your going to go down this road, like I did, then someone that is married makes for a more erotic and enjoyable experience and you keep your wits about you.

 

You know I'm really sorry about refering to my mate as a bastard . But if he never knows And I'll do my damnest to keep him from ever knowing. It will be for the best. he's a real hot head for an older guy, But really I'm sorry I called him a bastard in my other comment

 

I define an affair as any sexual relationship outside marraige. I WOULD have an affair; I WOULD NOT hava a CASUAL AFFAIR.

RICO

 

never in my whole life would i ever cheat!! it is the worst thing a person can do to another! and believe me... i know how it feels cuz i was cheated on for 2 years.
how could u even go on knowing that u hurt someone and broke their heart?

 

So, no one posting a text response here has "the 7 year itch"?

At least not yet...



I have been tempted, but, it has'nt happened in 9 years, except in my dreams.

 

No, I can honestly say I would never have an affair, because I wouldn't be in an exclusive relationship with somebody I didn't love. I'm a guy who if I don't see any potential or possibility of something going somewhere with a girl, won't lead her on or make her think there's anything more, because that type of shit is not only cowardly, it's downright pathetic.

 

Years have gone by since I've posted that. I agree with my first two sentences, I would never in my whole life have an affair. Mostly because I believe that a relationship is based on trust. However, now that I have a few years under my belt I can say I would never have a relationship with a married man either. I could never be the other woman. I don't have the heart to do so. The swinging thing, not something I'm looking to do. However, if my SO wanted to, I would be open with discussing it. Swinging isn't what this was asking for though. I would have left it completely out of my response right now if it weren't for the fact that I had addressed it YEARS ago. lol.

 

of course i would have an affair. i don't believe in relationships, or that love shit, why devote yourself to one guy? so he can change his mind about you in a few months, and claim it's for your benefit? HA. what a joke. relationships and marriage shouldn't exist. i don't even know if this has anything to do with the topic. i don't even care. sorry for sounding so bitter. actually, i'm not sorry at all.

 

Another thread from the archives?? How the hell do you folks find them?

This ones almost 2 1/2 years old.

 

It sounds like there is a rainbow full of ideas to what an affair is here.

 

From a purist's viewpoint, if you want to be faithful, you should'nt be looking look at pornography. It might tempt you to "have an affair".

[FONT=Georgia, Times]"To successfully prevent sin, we have to be constantly on guard. If you are married, you cannot go around flirting with the opposite sex. You are playing with fire. If your workplace has a mix of male and female employees, you have to be on special guard. Many affairs arise in the workplace. We may have to better control the movies and TV we watch. And we simply must say “no” to the pornography so prevalent on the Internet today. Symbolically, we may have to remove the offending member—to remove that thing that brings temptation into our lives—to avoid sin. If we cannot control the bad side of TV or the Internet, we may need to “cut it off” and remove it from the house. Could you do this if need be? It comes down to exercising some good old-fashioned character."

[/FONT][FONT=Georgia, Times]Christ here repeats Himself to emphasize the importance of doing all to avoid sin. [/FONT][FONT=Georgia, Times]
[/FONT][FONT=Georgia, Times]Matthew 18:8-9. [/FONT][FONT=Georgia, Times]“If your hand or foot causes you to sin, cut it off and cast it from you. It is better for you to enter into life lame or maimed, rather than having two hands or two feet, to be cast into the everlasting fire. And if your eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it from you. It is better for you to enter into life with one eye, rather than having two eyes, to be cast into hell fire.”[/FONT]

Reference: http://www.vcmagazine.org/article.aspx?volume=7&issue=3&article=pluckouteye

 

No. I don't believe in it.

 

That it mirrors the divorce rate only re-re-re-confirms what I have always thought: monogamy is unnatural. Look at our closest relatives, chimpanzees and bonobos. Buncha ho's!

If it were natural to be monogamous, there would be more of it going on and you wouldn't need a legal contract (marriage license) to define and enforce it.

And marital monogamy is a fairly recent phenomenon, historically speaking. "Marriage = 1 man + 1 woman 4ever" has not been the norm throughout most of mankind's polygamous past. Maybe people wouldn't "cheat" if this artificial proscription weren't there?