Like the title said, I'm wondering what life is like with it? I met this girl recently, shortly after we met she told me she has genital herpes. Obviously that's a big concern for me, but here's the twist. I have hpv and I told her about that right after she told me. I was worried how to tell her about me having hpv so that made it easier for me to come clean. I'm just worried, I don't know if genital herpes is something I want to live with for the rest of my life and it's a big choice to make in my early twentys. Please feel free to give me your two cents on this

 

Is HPV a permanent infection like HSV is generally considered to be?

 

Yes I will have hpv in my body forever, there is no "cure" for it once you have it from my understanding. There are multiple types of hpv but the type of hpv I have causes genital warts.

 

I believe there is a medicine that can be used to manage herpes, and as part of the disease cycle there are periods where the person is not 'shedding' the virus, which means it is safe to have unprotected sex with them. Is there some kind of treatment for HPV, beyond removing the warts? Something to manage the virus itself?

I think that if you want to pursue a relationship with this woman, you should consult a medical professional and discuss any risks or problems that might arise if you end up catching herpes. As you've probably already researched it, I don't need to tell you that herpes causes open sores in the skin which can provide a way for infection to get into the body. That is a risk factor for her, and for you. Additionally, HPV is associated with certain cancers. I think it would be best to have an open, honest, and frank discussion about your diseases with each other, and perhaps speak with a doctor or other medical professional.

You should also consider the possible effects either of these diseases might have on any children that might result from this relationship. Neonatal herpes is... Unpleasant, to say the least.

 

Yes there is a medicine, it starts with an A in can't remember it off the top of my head. She takes it when she is having an outbreak, but not all the time to prevent it from happening. She also doesn't have health insurance currently so she would not be able to get more medicine when she runs out. I will not have health insurance after I turn 25 and that is also something I've been thinking about. We have discussed each other's risk. And I have had a conversation with my doctor too. So I'm somewhat prepared for this to happen. She doesn't care that I have hpv, but I am worried about the whole genital herpes thing. Like I don't want to make this choice at 21 years old, and have it not work out between her and i and have to live with it for the rest of my life you know? But I already have hpv so there's that to think about too

 

I would think that it would be extremely inconvenient at the least and you should really think about at 20 something years old. It's bad enough to catch it unaware, but to do it knowingly could be a very poor decision, but that decision is yours.
You certainly don't want your commitment to this disease to last longer than the commitment to your girlfriend.
I'm not trying to pass judgement on you or your girlfriend, I'm mainly concerned about your ages. Only you can make this decision and I wish you both well.

 

You're absolutely right there, I don't want my commitment to this disease to last longer than our relationship. And that's one of the things I'm worried about, when I found out I had HPV and got it unwillingly it was a very hard thing for me to go through at 18 years old. So I know what it's like and I'm not sure if I can put myself through it again but this time I have a say in weather or not it happens.

 

Well said, exactly. I myself have been outrageously fortunate in that before 24 years old I experienced vast amounts of sex without protection. 24-30 working as a professional it was safe sex or nothing in 99.999% of the cases. As far as can be determined however, I have never contracted any form of STI/STD or other associated infections. Yet that was all simply blind luck. So the attitude you're showing is the right one. If you were deeply in love, and the relationship was rock solid, I'd still strongly suggest that you take precautions in that taking on a disease yourself neither shows love nor helps your lovers situation. In fact, it can simply make things much worse.

That out of the way there are those who do live in afflicted relationships safely without passing along infections...However, it is not something that should be considered casually. So it sounds like you're taking the right and responsible attitude.

Hush....an alias

 

Thanks for your two cents hush I appreciate it, I'm trying to keep myself positive about this situation. Being as we both have stds and don't want children I would use condoms but as we all know that's not a 100% way to avoid it, I just don't know what to do. I really like the girl but do I like her enough to posibly change the rest of my life (even more than I have myself ) for her? That's the part I'm struggling with

 

If I'm not mistaken chances of herpes transmission are very low when there is no actual outbreak i.e. open sores? If that wasn't the case, we would be having massive herpes outbreaks all over the world, at any given time. I also read somewhere the virus shedding (when there are no cold sores on the surface of the skin) is active for 1-2 days a year, meaning, it happens rarely.

If you're not comfortable sleeping with her, than don't. Simple as that.

Or, you can put 5 layers of condoms and wear a Batman suit extending to shaft and balls - in that case, you should be good to go!

 

What did you do? This was 6 months ago?

 

Sorry looked at the join date.

 

Herpes,,,well.

You get flare ups maybe one too 6 times a year mostly depending on how often you give it back and forth to each other.

If untreated it could take two weeks to go away.

NEVER EVER EVER POP ONE. You'll never do it again.

You can order the meds online.

If you start taking a few a day at the first onset then it takes about 5-7 days to heal.

It's not that bad and life definitely goes on.

 

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Sorry I am just wondering about it but I do not the herpes and thanks 7 all the great information it was well explained it