Is your spouse "done" with sexual intimacy?

Mine seems to be there. I told her nearly two years ago that she needed to take the initiative. Well, nothing since then. Not that we don't love each other, we do. She just isn't interested anymore. Touching below the belt has totally disappeared.

I cope via porn, forum chat, masterbation, etc.

Any others out there? The coin flips both ways. I know women whose husbands desires have turned off as well.

Interested in your stories..... Thanks

 

would get a secret crush in sugarbook.live, as complementary to this sexless marriage

 

get break apart already?

 

when watching porn, you will also get excited

 

I lived under the same circumstances for years and years. Recently I found a female to spend time with and it is a huge relief. She is sharing the same thing with her husband so we are enjoying each other’s company and of course the sex is fantastic for both of us. We are kinda like kids again wanting to try new things and we have found sex is exciting and satisfying. This will probably blow up someday and as you said I very much love my wife but she will have nothing physical to do with me, so I know that is no excuse for seeking that elsewhere but that is what has happened. I really hope she finds a guy she wants to spend time with as I do want to see her happy.

 

Time for a side piece or divorce.

 

yeah exactly. i wouldnt put up with no sex

 

Agreed, its how a lot of guys cope especially older men. makes the most sense.. plus u dont have to worry about feelings developing.

 

Don't get married. Problem solved.

 

Wife went cold several years ago. Videos, stories, chat helps to get off

 

Have you tried the caveman?

thinskin

 

Mine's isn't so much a sexless marriage, it just seems like lately, it's not enough. Chalk it up to a combination of my increased libido and my husband finding more joy in tinkering with his car collection than pleasuring me. I am honestly thinking of cheating on him with a hot Black guy at my new job.

 

It’s more me that doesn’t want or need the sex with my wife of 25+ years. The emotional baggage & damage I pretty much created has taken its toll, so many once or twice a year do we have sex. Usually I face fuck her, then it’s missionary for 4-5 minutes as I’m thinking about sucking a cock or getting fucked in the ass, then I cum. How do I cope, I’ve basically become a closeted gay man, having sex with mostly other married men.

 

When my now ex stopped. I found others that were happy to fill that void

 

Well it all depends on what you value and you are happy with.
If she is open minded, understanding and not jealous then she may realize you still have needs and let you seek some casual sex elsewhere possibly.
Otherwise you have mentioned the obvious simple solutions.
You have to figure out if you can find a solution that both can live with or decide if perhaps you need to consider moving on.
It all depends how you get along and if you still otherwise have love and affection for eachother.
The biggest problem for the one refusing sex is to acknowledge or accept that it truly deeply affects their significant other.
That is what I personally have found. If you let them they will ignore the issue for years or for eternity if permitted to do so.

 

I was in a sexless/ turned into a loveless marriage. I ended up cheating on him with a coworker. After that we ended up getting a divorce. It’s almost been 10yrs and I’m a lot happier and healthier (both physically and mentally).

 

Im in the same boat. Not quite to the divorced part but have suggested it. She still wont accept it as a problem. As long as I let her get away with that she will.

 

I expect a lot of us are here because we are not getting any or not getting enough from our partners. And we cope by chatting and roleplaying here or taking it to Kik or hangouts.