Yep, this is me too

 

I agree

 

This is when guys look for ladies like me

 

Very true!!!

 

Great thread, nice to see others are as unlucky as I a ...misery loves company. If any of you lonely bi curious fellas wanna chat more, PM me anytime.

 

I talked to the wife about wanting more sex than the once every 6 months (approx) we were doing it and she responded for a week or two with sex about 3 - 4 times a week. After that way too brief change, she went back to maybe once in 6 months. Well, that was 10 years ago. So I cope by coming to sites like this one and masturbating while reading and perving the pics. I have grown to love edging and 2 - 3 times a week I orgasm and eat my cum.

 

In my dry phase I have my life long paadi I love you with out you I can't make it till today. Thanks and respect with love

 

Damn if we live closer to each other you wouldn't have been going 9 years without sex cuz I would have been sucking your cock anytime you got horny you have a beautiful cock

 

I have experienced a sexless marriage which eventually lead to confrontations, fights and finally divorce. I have always enjoyed all aspects of sex and and need my ex to satisfy my physical needs. We were hot to trot and screwed all the time, then we got married and for several years I got all the loving a woman could handle. Then one day it was as if someone flipped a switch and I could not get laid. The sex tapered off and then was none existent. We talked, tried counseling but nothing seemed to work and we became more distant. I would masturbate, use sex toys read and write porn and watch it online. During this period we remained faithful until I reached the point I needed human contact. I needed to have real sex and at 45 I did not think that was unreasonable. I found a lawyer and we got divorced. Now I can have all the sex and the kind of sex I want without any issues or guilt. I do enjoy a variety of sex, cocks and pussy whenever I want. I enjoy my freedom and will never marry again. It is so much easier to spread my legs when I want it.

 

You are lucky, and smart!

 

its been around three years since the wife and i last had sex and its a combination of things that brought us to that point. We havent shared a bed in about 6 years because my snoring had gotten so bad (turns out I have sleep apnoea) which made intimacy tough but we still had an active sex life up but it just gradually started getting less frequent and far less intense, it would be just quickies to calm a need in the moment and that would be it usually inspired by one of us texting the other saying fancy a quickie. she has always had a higher sex drive than me (which says something cause im permanently horny!) and i should have spotted that her "need" was getting less and less but instead i just started compensating for the drop with even more wanking than usual and as time went on gradually more taboo porn. during this time we both started putting on weight which impacted her confidence and in turn my confidence (which has never been particularly high) started dropping lower and lower each time a suggestion of sex was made and either ignored or rejected because she felt unattractive which led to me struggling to get and maintain an erection on the odd occasion when we did have sex which she obviously took as me not finding her attractive (no matter how often i would tell her to the contrary) which led to less and eventually no sex at all. currently we are at the point where she has completely shut down to any and all advances/suggestions and she doesnt even want touched. i still hold out some hope of things getting better, albeit as the days go on i am getting more and more clueless as to how that can happen, ive tried suggesting romantic getaways, counselling, sharing a bed together now i have a CPAP machine which stops me snoring and countless other things but all have been dismissed. i still love her and i think she still loves me but its getting really really tough.

 

A little like mrtitlation it has been many many years since she has had any interest in a physical relationship. I do love her and always will, we have talked about it several times. I have suggested many times she finds a guy to play with if I wasn’t doing it for her anymore. She of course blows that off ( at least to me) I am absolutely sure I would be fine even turned on by her seeing someone else. I thought for years it would get better and return to somewhat normal but it never happened.
I have read on here and other places this isn’t anything new it happens to other people so here we are just comparing notes.

 

i have suggested the very same, that she is more than free to find somebody else to fuck to get her confidence back which in turn would help me cause i love the idea of her with somebody else and she would def love a new cock for the first time in 17 years. we did used to use it as dirty talk back in the day and kicking myself now for not perusing it further at the time but hindsight is a wonderful thing because anytime i suggest it now its met with "nobody would want me, im too fat/ugly" etc

 

completely agree and i have tried to explain that she could very easily find a willing participant to pleasure her in anyway she so wanted whether it was pure animal lust or a night of love making but she sees herself as repulsive since putting on weight (went from a UK size 14 to a size 22 over the last 2/3 years) and she cannot see beyond her own view of herself. ive honestly contemplated setting her up with somebody, like putting them up to chatting her up/flirting with her to show that it isnt the case but im not willing to risk her finding out and making things even worse than they already are!

 

completely agree and i have tried to explain that she could very easily find a willing participant to pleasure her in anyway she so wanted whether it was pure animal lust or a night of love making but she sees herself as repulsive since putting on weight (went from a UK size 14 to a size 22 over the last 2/3 years) and she cannot see beyond her own view of herself. ive honestly contemplated setting her up with somebody, like putting them up to chatting her up/flirting with her to show that it isnt the case but im not willing to risk her finding out and making things even worse than they already are!

 

That’s kinda funny because I have thought of the same thing. But I don’t think I want the backlash if she found out or didn’t like the guy....lol

 

exactly! waaaaaay too many variables in there that mean it is more likely to blow up in your face than it is to end up with the result you were hoping for and there would be no way i could ever persuade lucy that my motives were for her benefit rather than mine! lol!

 

I haven't had good sex in almost 5 years. Her pussy hasn't been used because she says it hurts and sometimes bleeds. Gone to a doctor and they say to use more lube, there's nothing wrong with your snatch. We've tried coconut oil and nothing seems to help. So I jack off in the shower alot and when we do have sex I use a vibrator on her and I jack off with oil, I can really make it feel good when I cum, just can't fuck her anymore. And she used to really like to fuck, but I've told her if you don't use it you loose it.

 

I was in a loveless/sexless marriage from about 2000 - 2012. (Divorced in 2014, remarried 2017)
In 2000 I was 35 years old. Not a time to stop having sex.
We basically agreed to live in the same house to raise the kids together and not fight.
It was rough years to say the least. I "cheated" in 2000 and 2002. But from 2002 - 2012 - completely dry.
Porn was there, but after a while porn got old. And i found myself going down pathways that were not good for me. Going down one road or another in porn till it started reaching extremes. That is what porn can do to you.
One day around maybe 2007?? I ran across a camsite. Not like today, but where everyone there is regular people. No coins/money etc. Just people broadcasting/watching other regular people. HOLD ON!!... this was big for me. I had zero idea I would like to be watched jerking off, or be seen naked by people.
I like..no..love being watched masturbating and being seen naked by other people. So I did a ton of camming. That really helped satisfy the itch quite a bit.
So much so, even now as I remarried and have sex again, I still jerk off online. Although there are extremally few choices that are not pay sites, of which I have no interest.