This Is Just Like A Little Kid With A Magnifying Glass And An Ant Hill. We All Like TO Play God Every Now And Then, Some More Than Other

 

Why do you talk about respect when you mean fear? Respect and fear are fully opposite ideas. Beating someone instills fear and revenge and "i'll do it when you can't catch me, most possibly to you when i grow older", not respect.

That kid doesn't need to be taught fear, which will only worsen things as it always did. That kid needs a psychologist.

 

This is exactly what is wrong with the youth today, too much protectionism going on.

 

This is exactly what has always being wrong with the old people, thinking that they are better or were better raised than the youth. Well, they weren't, and aren't.

 

Well, you young whippersnapper, all we hear today is disrespect from the youth, teachers have no control of their students, parents have no control over their children, and cops killing the youth because that have been left to the guidance of their peers, that also have no respect for anything other than what they can get out of society.............because they think they deserve it, because they are breathing my air.

You kids today are punks, AND, you have just proven it.

 

"Aetas parentum peior avis tulit
Nos nequiores, mox daturos
Progeniem vitiosiorem."

---Horace, Odes, book 3, poem 6. (Year 23 BC)

2,039 years of the same bullshit and counting!

 

Shooter adopted two kids. They were 4 and 7 when he became their dad. Early on, we knew they had already lived through far worse than we could ever even imagine doing to them. Yet we still needed to establish rules and boundaries, and up to that point the only thing they understood was violence and "might is right".
We both said and demonstrated that we had rules that they were expected to learn and follow. Love always, but rules are what make us civilized.
It worked, without the threat of beatings. My son once told me he much preferred that I hit him when he misbehaved; he said that pain went away a lot faster than the feeling he had disappointed him.

 

My parents were both born in the 19th century, so their philosophy of child raising was definitely not "modern" by today's standard. They raised 13 of their own and 6 foster children, all turned out quite well, no bullies, no criminals, all productive human beings.

Mom always told us that a swat on the bottom was not a "beating". But the laying on of a hand on any other part of the body is the beginning of a beating. We were never "beaten", not by our parents, but my siblings are another thing.

 

This is what I have been saying, nothing more, nothing less.

I didn't hurt you at all, I can assure, I certainly received ours, I can assure you, we deserved ours, hell, we deserved it when we didn't get it.

 

In college I had to take an introduction to psychology course (Psych 101) as a pre-requisite to several business management courses. A section of that intro course dealt with child development. The textbook's author claimed that children who grow up with corporal discipline and tight parental supervision develop an 'external locus of control', meaning that they learn that others, not themselves, control their time and behavior. The author claimed that children who grow without corporal discipline, and are disciplined using techniques such as time-outs and loss of privileges, and grow up with less tight parental supervision develop an 'internal locus of control'. Meaning that they learn that they themselves, not others, control their time and behavior. In other words, they learn autonomy.

The instructor (not the textbook) continued this line with the implications for adulthood. Adults who develop an external locus of control tend to choose jobs and careers with rigid hierarchies and organizational controls that restrict and discourage individual discretion such as the military, law enforcement, the Catholic Church, and businesses that operate with this type of culture (often manufacturing (auto, construction) and extractive (oil, mining) industries). Whereas, adults who develop an internal locus of control tend to choose jobs and careers without formal hierarchies and looser organizational controls that encourage individual discretion such as professions; medicine, law, university teaching, architecture, etc., the arts; music, literature, theater, and businesses that operate with this type of culture often advertising, marketing, computer engineering, real estate brokering, and anything entrepreneurial.

This instructor implied that in choosing a disciplinary philosophy for their children, parents are also choosing a career path for their children. Since graduating, I have frequently observed what this instructor implied.