I have been with several women that don't like to have orgasms. I asked why and they all said that they don't like to lose control.

Now as a guy I can't understand that, I left the topic alone but am curious.
Can any women explain this to me?

 

I heard that before but once i put them through one, they weŕe hooked

 

Women you with never experienced orgasm at possible.
About 75 percent of all women never reach orgasm from intercourse alone -- that is without the extra help of sex toys, hands or tongue. And 10 to 15 percent never climax under any circumstances.

My wife can't reach orgasm with out clitoral stimulation.

 

We don't need to orgasm to enjoy sex.

 

Probably were squirters and shamed for it early on. That was my problem before I met my match.

 

I don't feel like i am losing control. It feels more like i am able to let go and feel a release. Maybe it is possible that they get frustrated with trying to feel the right stimulation to produce a orgasm. So it is easier for them if they just do not try to concentrate on having one.

When i read about women that have not ever been fortunate enough to ever have one or women that do not enjoy them. It makes me sad for them. Also makes me feel lucky that i have gotten to enjoy them and the feelings they bring me.

 

In a word ... NO

I guess me screaming the hotel down the other day was a little embarrasing but given how darn good the whole experience was and how explosive our mutal orgasm was I would say it was worth the red face as we pased reception the following morning

 

I love watching my wife having an orgasm, and there is nothing I wouldn't do to give her one but, there was few times where she wasn't really up for sex and would do it only to make me cum and claiming to be as happy as when having one.

 

Not always, no.

Sex without orgasm was a regular thing for me when I had sex with my ex. Now sometimes I felt disappointed and frustrated, sometimes I just enjoyed the sex, sometimes I would take care of the missing O myself and sometimes I just let him fuck me till he had done his thing and get on with the stuff I had been interupted from doing.

The worst was when all he wanted was to have his fun, I could deal with the no orgasm thing if the rest of the sex was enjoyable. I think enjoyable sex is the most important thing but I still need an want an Orgasm at least sometimes

 

I've had a few partners, who have never previously experienced an orgasm, almost, even, 'fight' against having one (no matter how it was been caused) because they were 'frightened' of the strange sensations they were starting to feel, of loosing control of their bodies and minds.
Once they had 'let go' and experienced an orgasm then there was certainly no more 'fear' or fighting against the sensations ...... just the opposite.

 

Never had a girlfriend who didn't want to orgasm.

I did have a girlfriend I couldn't get off - and couldn't get herself off either, but she loved the process of trying to get there. She'd happily fuck, suck, lick, vibe, all night long and into the next morning. mmm... fun times...

My girlfriend now is the opposite. She's easy to get off, but I can't get her to slow down and enjoy the moment leading up to it; she's always chasing her orgasm. She even apologizes if it's taking her longer than usual, and I tell her to take all day if she wants.

 

@StrawberryCupcake that was also the case for an ex of mine., she’d get right up to the edge, and then stop me or herself. Once we finally pushed passed, it was a whole new world for her, just had to keep some towels on hand every time after.

 

Although the poster who commented that women don't need to orgasm to enjoy sex is correct, at least in my opinion. But I can't imagine not wanting to have orgasms. I live for them and the bigger the better! My experience has been that when I have a really big one and do lose all control the guy or guys enjoy the experience! Maybe I have just been lucky and have always found guys that don't mind if a woman gets a little loud, a little dirty mouth, and cums a bit on them!

 

I get a high. Euphoric.

 

Honestly, i think it's not that women don't like orgasms. I think that is an excuse/ explanation that they can't have one in general or with the current partner... Maybe also to not make him angry or because they do not trust him fully.
I always want an orgasm, but can't get it with every partner.
Good that I can take care of myself

 

I can not explain that feeling

 

I can respect what you're saying, but I don't get how men can carry on this way in sight of what they need over the needs of their lovers. When sex is done right it's not a game of numbers, but there should be a simple awareness that your lover isn't getting all of what they deserve out of it most of the time. Maybe mine is a biased opinion in that I've always approached making love as the more I give to my lover (not just orgasm), the more theoretically I receive in return and of course it's not always reciprocated however it is almost always appreciated.

 

I think female orgasms are wonderful and as I am a gentleman make sure that my lady cums first and often.

 

I really can't understand why ladies would tell you that they don't want to lose control, and that's why they don't cum? Maybe I'm not understanding this because of that fuckin gray goose, that hasn't laid one golden egg but goes down smooth.

I can't see why a woman would worry about losing control, just blow softly on our cock and we're off. It doesn't take much to get us off, we're guys.

A lot of women have a hard time reaching an orgasm during intercourse, some can't achieve one at all. Maybe that's something the women you were with had a problem with, or maybe you're just a lousy fuck? Who knows, maybe they didn't wanna hurt your feelings, or to embarrassed to admit that they have a problem reaching an orgasm having intercourse? That's why communication is important, talk about shit.

I've been with a few women that have had that problem. So I took my time pleasing them oraly, or by masturbation. When their satisfied I'm good to go in for my amazing minute or two