So I've been dating this girl for awhile and we decided to have sex today and its my first time. The worst possible thing happens, first I can't keep willy at attention (never been a problem during skin flute practice) and when I finally am able to keep him up I can't cum. The girl I was with was really nice and said that it was actually normal for guys to have a hard time keeping it hard the first time but I've never heard that. Anyone have a similar experience or should I duct tape the bastard next time.

 

erm well my first time i didnt have any problems, but i didnt enjoy it massively either.
it was very pleasurable, but nowhere near the second time (or most since) so yeh.
Remember not to stress ;p it's the worst thing, performance anxiety. sounds like you've got a girl who you don't need to worry, coz she's gonna be understanding- she's not gonna think badly if you're not perfect. hell, no one is.
only time i've ever struggled with staying hard is when its the second time in a row and im wearing a condom. u get hard n then its like 'lets struggle to put this on and then blah blah blah oh now im limp, meh, this shit aint gonna happen.'
if you really have problems, ask her if she'd consider going on the pill (if you're using condoms). might help.
gl hf
(good luck have fun for all the non-nerds out there )

 

Eh, I was really hard the first time I had sex.
It was awesome though.
You might have a problem though...it really shouldn't be that hard to keep it up.

 

i'm afraid that's incorrect info, loads of guys have erection problems mostly from performance anxiety which is obviously likely to be much worse when you're inexperienced coz you don't know if you can do well and you worry about it-distracting you from being turned on.

 

HA, you should see some of the "porn stars" --some of them cant get it up until they have been blown up. Thats why we had "fluff girls"

 

Yeah, I think it's just nerves. You need to stop worrying about it, and get back to work. This isn't rocket science, men and women have been getting it right for millions of years. You'll be fine.

 

I really sympathize with those guys. I don't think I'd like it if I were a man and had to get an erection any time the director said I had to, and then fuck anyone he said I had to, and then cum when he said to. Kind of takes the joy out of it, don't you think?

 

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I think you were probably too anxious! relax and enjoy next time and it will happen. Dont rush it - I reckon it has probably happened to lots of blokes. Good luck!

 

Yeah, man... it happens. Seriously though, just enjoy yourself and dont stress yourself out over it, and you'll be fine.

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i'd say, just relax, take it slow, and enjoy yourself! Don't think about what to do or how to do it, or if you're gonna cum or not or if you're gonna give her an orgasm or your performance or whatever. Just enjoy the experience, touch her, enjoy her body and how it feels and how close the two of you are!

So basically relax, enjoy!

 

Viagra, Cealis, perhaps a penis pump?

Just kidding man. Relax. There are 2 kinds of men out there...
1) Those who have experienced this
2) Those who lie

#1 thing is RELAX, when the stress factor goes up, the willy won't!