What do you use for anal. I have tried getting toys in but it hurts. What is the secret to getting your muscle to relax.

 

Relaxing lube lots for it like way more then you think to start.

And relaxing be slow

 

Yeah it also helps to start really small...I just used lubed-up latex gloves and my fingers at first. Once you get "warmed up" your body also just takes it a lot easier. Soon you'll be taking giant dildos like a pro!

 

To ad to the above, lotta lube, start small, and though its counter-intuitive push your sphincter out a bit. The.key is mostly to relax though, if you clench it's gonna hurt and you may injure yourself.

Above all if you don't want to do it, don't... you just might not be into it.

 

I use spit and fingers to start then a dildo

 

A- lots of lube. I always put some on my finger and insert it up my ass, then put a lot on the toy before it goes it in.

B- start small. Try finding a thinner butt plug at first, then up it to a wider one, then you can focus on bigger dildo’s and such.

C- this is gonna sound weird, but if you’re struggling to get something in, try pretending that you’ve got to push out a turd. This actually helps loosen your butthole muscles. That’s generally something you only have to do the first couple of times.

 

You can get a lube injectors and insert it I'm your anal cavity then lube the outside good and your toy

 

Youtube has some good videos on the subject. There are actually 2 sphincter muscles involved.

 

As i can't afford a dildo or anything similar... i use a pencil sometimes; but i did stopped and i have to do it again someday

 

Get you a cucumber and a condom

 

will it make my hole stretch bigger or not?

 

Yes

 

Do u have kik

 

Ok

 

Relax breathe control your anus muscles, start with small things first and lots of lube.
Takes Patience and time to get used to having something up your ass

 

Unless you somehow actually damage yourself, no. It will help you get used to relaxing correctly and the more relaxed you are the easier it will be to do in future. You will also be toning those muscles and like any exercise getting them more used to stretching. It's not like you'll end up with a permanently open asshole or anything

 

It sounds counter-intuitive but bear down like you're trying to push the toy out, and it'll be much easier. Relax, start small, don't be nervous, and use tons of lube. More than you think you'll need.