My girlfriend always wants to have rough sex,but the thing is she's so much smaller than me I'm always afraid its going to be too rough. So if anyone could help me out with some personal experience or good ideas i would be really grateful. And just to give you guys an idea of the difference in sizes I'm about 6"1' 185-190 pounds (depends if i have a match that week or not) and shes about 5"0' 110 pounds maybe? I've never asked hah.:mrgreen:

 

First talk to her and explain your concerns and that it may take several sessions before you can be rough enough to suit her. Then have her set a safe word (or a safe gesture if part of your play involves her being gagged). If she doesn't use the safe word you can be sure that you aren't taking things too far. If you aren't familiar with safe words, I'm sure there are resources on the net you can look up.

During your play, build up gradually. If you think you're about to reach a point where she might be in danger of actual injury and she still isn't using her safe word, hold the stimulation at that level for a bit before bringing her back down. After she's had a chance to regroup, and preferably after a good night's sleep, discuss what you did. You might find out she's sturdier than you expected. On the other hand, you might find out that she can't tell what her limits are in the heat of the moment. (Yes, there are women {and men} who will push their partners to do things that end in a trip to emergency room.)

Above all, if you discover that you're uncomfortable going beyond a certain point, tell her. Sex is supposed to be fun for both of you.

Looking this over, I realize it sounds like I'm talking more about S&M play than a little rough sex, but the principles are the same for whatever scenario you're using.

 

Glue some 60 grit sandpaper to a plywwod board, toss it on the bed, toss her on it and fuck her until she says, "that's rough enough, big boy!"

. . . or you can do the whole 'express your wants and needs and come up with a mutually satisfactory agreement' thing . . . whichever.

 

i like your answer!! the first one that is!! give the poor girl what she wants!!!! a girl can NEVER get it to rough!!

 

Agreed - talk to her first - find out where the boundaries are - and then surprise her when she's not expecting it !

 

Go give it to her how you wants it man, If it hurts her im sure she will tell you and if not, wreck her little holes.

 

Hahahahaha Old Tool, what a great post, but it seems like the first one seems like a pretty good answer, i wasn't talking anything serious that would need safe words, but i wrestled with her once and i was only playing around and she cried =/ so i was just trying to be sure. but thanks J.A.W.

 

Often, safe words are more for the comfort of the "top" than the "bottom." Just knowing that your partner has a safe word they could use can allow a person to relax and "go with the flow" instead of questioning themselves.

 

Don't let the size difference get to you to much. i'm 4'11"; my Owner is 6'9".

Safe words could actually help you to let go and not worry about the size factor. If she has a safe word, you will know that she can stop you if she needs to.

Enjoy!

 

my x liked it when id choke her
id never done it before and was a bit apprehensive
one time in the heat of things i have it a go. We had already discussed that when she wanted me to stop she'd do a certain action and id release.

1st time i didnt tell her i was going to do it
she came all over me almost without warning (she didnt make much noise while fucking sadly)

its all about communication and making sure that whatever you are doing is to her limits.
and you never know if you'll like it or not unless you give it a go. if its not your thing then fair enough at least you tried and she'll thank you for trying!!

 

just turn her over held her both hands in one of ur put ur cock head on her back hole remaber dont use any lube try to push it inside never leave whithout head in .. she will never ask for rough again

 

i fucked some girl who was into rough sex...its quite nice actually...its different

 

Your dimensions are roughly the same as those of my husband and me, and I can tell you, you're worried too much. You'll be gentle enough...probably too gentle...just be virtue of caring. Don't be afraid to let loose a little.

 

alright from my point as a girl I want it rough and for me their really is no way it can't be to rough in my opinion since it is what she asked for and you should just give her what she wants.

 

Lmao

 

safe words. respect the safe words and great communcation.

 

I like it rough. End of story.

And my boyfriend, at the time, was 6'4" 250 pounds and I'm 5'5" 150.

I felt like it wasn't ever rough enough.
He was always so worried.
And trust me, you just need to talk to her.
She'll tell you what she wants.

I needed a safeword with him once he and I talked about it.
It made him feel better knowing that if something did hurt, I'd let him know.
[Most of the time, I didn't though. Pain, if at the right level of arousal and if you feel safe, is one of the most erotic things ever in my opinion]

 

Yeah its all about communication. I've never used safe words...not a bad idea tho.

 

Always establish the safe word and practice using it. I use spanking, I strike her ass harder and harder till she says it.

 

FUCK HER ROUGH!:-E

She'll love ya for it