so i masturbate alot and can get myself off like that
but my gf has given me a bj and we had sex and i still didn't cum
what should i do?

 

Idk, to me it sounds like nervousness, i've never had the problem my self, but i think ive seen threads like this before

 

Sounds like maybe she's inexperienced or nervous? Have you tried giving her gentle pointers and telling her what you like?

 

You've only had sex with her once? Sometimes getting head just doesn't cut it. Try different positions, experiment.

 

I'll agree with that. If sex and communication are healthy in a relationship, tell her what you like/how you like things sexually. But don't talk her ear off in bed... not really a turn on. XD

 

do you both need to relax mabye??

 

maybe try not to masturbate too much. hold off for a few days at a time if you can and let it build up then when u and her go at it u can explode and she will love it!!

 

Same problem. My wife does not make me cum. She cannot take my cock in her pussy for more than a few minutes because it hurts and she is haphazard at BJ and doesn't really have the interest to keep at it long enough and it hurts her mouth to keep it in for very long. Her handjobs stink, too. So whenever we have sex, which isn't often, we play for awhile and I eat her pussy and we sometimes fuck for as long as she can take it. After I get her off with my mouth I masturbate until I cum. My cock is only seven inches long and not really that thick, so it isn't like I am too big for her.

yeah. Sex sucks. I watch porn on the internet and jerk it.

Does your GF want to get you off? I always feel that if one person really wants to make the other cum they can do it.

 

That's the problem... Porn and masturbation... they both desensitize you.

Quite both long enough (2 weeks for instance) and you'll be like a ticking time bomb in her hand (or mouth or pussy).

Also,
There is a big difference between rubbing yourself and being rubbed... That is why a lot of women in the old days tought they were frigid because they could not come during intercourse. The guy was doing the moving (thus rubbing himself inside the woman) and the woman was getting rub... and not comming... But most women can cum masturbating...Same for men... It takes more concentration/effort/involvment (I don't know how to say it) to come stricly from the action of another person on oneself... and also more to rub yourself against something then use your hand to rub yourself. You need to practice the first 2 instead of always masturbating to cum..

 

Tried it many times over the last 20 years of marriage. She's really never been able to get me off. Literally a handful (no pun) of times in our relationship. I know some guys shoot off as soon as they get touched but I seriously can remember only one time in my life that I ejaculated quickly. Some guys have this happen and wish it wouldn't. I wish it would! I don't really think there is a woman around that wants to be fucked for 60 minutes straight, just to be told that the guy still isn't ready to cum.

Even if I abstain for a week or more, it still takes me 30-45 min just to masturbate, let alone have her try it.

 

Well, since you are now 45, things sure won't improve. My other advice would be to warm yourself up before sex with her. Jack off but don't come... Do it a few times during the day, or even over 2 days before having sex. And getting aroused is not unpleasurable... A 2x year's old guy would get a severe case of blue balls doing that. But in your case, it might just get you right there where you want to be.... Just a guess here.

 

Meds?

Do you take Meds? My ex did and had same problem but once he changed meds everything was back to normal.

 

yup

I had the same problem...

I didn't see my girlfriend (at the time) for 6 months because I was on another shitty Iraq deployment. Anyway, when I got back, she came down to NC for Valentines Day and we fucked like rabbits the entire day. I didn't cum once. My balls hurt like you wouldn't believe.
Eventually, the next day I got off, but it took a ton of concentration (and imagining Jenna Haze). I don't know what the problem was, she's hot as hell and fucks like a minx. We've since broken up.... for diffferent reasons! I've never had a problem getting myself off, but when I was fucking her it seemed impossible.

 

I had the same problem with my last girlfriend. I think it was a combination of me not actually liking her, and her always straddling me in such a way that she would virtually bend my cock, even when it was hard...not very easy to cum when your cock is being bent out of shape .

 

lightning up guys sex is fun apparently

 

Well, yeah. Too many in fact. Have tried changing several times and I know what the problem is. Combination of age and medication. I just thought I would not give up sex in my forties.

Remember people, what you have doesn't last forever. Enjoy it while you can!

 

I agree, seriously I think some guys are just like this. I rarely get off during sex, while at the same time she will have three orgasms and it gets to the point where she can't take it any more. All I can say is experiment more I guess. I found that I will always get off if we have sex in public, but otherwise probably not, and I am ok with that as well because I really don't care about myself getting off during sex, it is all about her.

 

Oh yeah! I love getting her off. She has the most intense orgasm it just rocks her. Of course then she can hardly move. Afterwards it does feel good when she touches by balls while I jerk off. Once she cums it is about all she can do before she falls asleep.

 

i'm not on any meds
and this was my first time
but not hers

 

go and buy yourself a couple of little blue pills. youll come like you did when you were 14.