What if your partner has had health issues. So sex life has been non existent. You love her " would you seek on the side lover?And this is a ongoing for 5 years.

 

If health issue is something that will potentially get better then i say suck it up if its something more serious if possible speak to your partner about it let them know your frustrations but be supportive of their needs and wishes and if all else fails there is always porn and fleshlights. Hope this helps in someway and that your situation improves for you both.

 

Only if she was ok with it. Which she probably wouldn't be. So I'd probably just suck it up.

 

Reversed situation here, hank had heart surgery, onlt 1 1/2 monthes before he can partake of sex again. For the past year he has encourged me not to stop having sex on his account

 

Talk about ethical nonmonogamy. Don’t just cheat.

 

Suck it up! I love her even without it. Vows are very important.

 

Why did you start a relationship with the person?
If it was for sex only I would leave her and get another person to have sex with.
If the relationship was built on love I would stand by her side and remain faithful to her.

 

Every relationship should be open, upfront about their thoughts and desires and not be hesitant about expressing those thoughts and desires. We encourage our children to open, honest and upfront with us as parents, why not our partner?
Open up a dialogue about the situation with her, but don't let emotions take over the conversation. Be genuine and sincere in your conversation. See where it goes. You might be surprised. Who knows what sort of solution you come up with when you shed yourself of your inhibitions and speak your mind while encouraging your partner to do the same.

 

Hit the city lights, do the penis dance and get thrown out the club, queue for the slut?

 

Sounds like you have to decide what your own happiness is worth to you. Tell them what it is you need and if you can't come to a solution, maybe it's time to move on and take a different path

 

Now My situation is a bit different, but if I was the only wife and could not engage in sex because of my health. First of all I would not have made endure five years of No sex or sex is like Christmas comes but once a year. I would disgusted the subject of weather he wanted to still stay together within the first 6 months to a year. Then Depending on the first answer, about him seeking relief elsewhere with Boundaries or stipulations Of course. Now I find it hard to see why a wife is incapable of giving her husband a hand job at least. Excluded something extreme like being paralyzed. Under any circumstances, If A wife doesn't make the attempt and try to keep her husband sexually satisfied. Whether it be the frequency of sex, kind of sex, a fetish or kink of his. Then it's her own fault If he seeks it elsewhere.

 

Welcome to my world. Menopause killed our sex life. Unfortunately, I was a sorry fuck and found men and women outside.

 

I confess. My wife's health and her lack or ability for sex drove me to start playing with someone else. It turned out to be another guy. Which I found to be fulfilling. No, she hasn't a clue.

 

My wife and I married over 35 years ago. Before we married, and for a short time afterwards, our relationship was based on sex. Lots of sex. Were talking full intercourse 15-20 times a week.

About 20 years ago she had cervical cancer and they did a full hysterectomy to make sure they got it all out. After that the hormone balances changed for her and she lost interest in sex, but we still had sex fairly regularly for a while. About 15 years ago she basically stopped having sex to (only 4 to 6 times a year instead of a week or month). I got by with a lot of masturbation and porn, but other than that I wanted more but "sucked it up". Now with her hormone issues, sex gets painful for her as she doesn't produce enough natural lubricant and we can't stop often enough to put more on, so we basically don't have sex, of any kind. I still rely on the porn and masturbation but earlier this year I sucked a few men off. Sucking a man didn't feel like I was cheating on her.
In the 40+ years we've been together, I have grown to love her more and not just love having sex with her, so I am willing to put up with not getting any pussy from her, but I may still look ho giving others some sexual pleasures. I get as much pleasure in giving pleasure to someone else as I get out of cumming in a woman's pussy, so I may continue to suck a guy occasionally, just to give someone else done pleasure.

 

I am the sort of woman who fills the gap when a wife can't or won't

 

When my last husband became terminally ill, he was no longer capable of having sex. I would give him hand jobs but he wanted me to be satisfied as well. At first he convinced me to have sex with his friend and that happened once but was awkward. Eventually my previous husband (ex) began visiting when he was in town and I started having sex with him. My husband only wanted us to do it at my house and he asked that I leave the doors open between the bedrooms so he could watch. He could no longer get an erection but he would cum watching my ex fucking me. After he passed , my ex continued coming to see me when he was in town and still does.