Hi, Im new, I live in London, 36 and have a son and wife. I got my son a psp, hes 14, anyway I noticed him making use of our wi-fi, he was on its shit browser.So when he went to school I went into its browsers history what do I see... FUCKING SON+MUM+DAD INCEST COMICS! I aint spoken to him about it yet. I dont know what to do.

 

Did you mention it to your wife? What'd she say. Chances are the minute you mention it to him he'll either clam up or he'll explode and yell at you for 'invading his privacy'.

But it also doesn't necessarily mean he wants to have sex with any family members. I read incest stories from time to time, I even started writing one that I never finished, and I don't have a scrap of desire for any of my family members. The idea turns my stomach. But if other people are doing it, for some reason it's a bit hot. So maybe it's like that for him.

If you catch him with your wife's panties or something though, mabye get him some counseling.

-S-

 

I may be off-base, but I think this is pretty much par for the course among 14-year-olds. On balance, it's better than SOME things he could be fixating on.

But in any event, you have the right as a parent to monitor his internet use, though, and I would not hesitate to have "the talk" with him. Let him know it's okay that he harbors such thoughts, that he's exploring his sexuality. It's when thoughts turn to action that he can seriously mess up his life.

 

* He's a guy.
* He's 14.
*He's curiouse
*His sexual wants are still changing
* He's in puberty

He will look at those things with or without your permission. Just let his curiosity let lose, but don't let him out with any girls for a while.

 

I agree on that.... I was just as bad when I was younger. On the internet, on porn sites (back in the days when they were free), having cybersex..... I guess my parents suspected but they never confronted me about it. And I was watching porn on late night tv.... I'd say talk to him about it.... he's probably heard about it from friends who heard about it from their brothers or something and he just got curious and wanted to know what it was all about.

 

Puberty

It's better to have an open and frank discussion with him now than when he is 18 and a father himself. If you can talk to him now about his viewing habits then he will also be able to come to you when later on more serious issues that will come up. All too often, I've seen parents that try to suppress knowledge and desires of their offspring only to have their children screw up their young lives.

 

Dont worry too much on your some looking up on incest. Its a curiosity thing, dosnt mean he'll harbour up those thoughts. He's 14, sexual peak will be through the roof and maybe he's viewing these sites because they are "forbidden". Nothing wrong with a bit rebellion in a teenager. If your soo worried on the subject, dont give it to him about it. Just chat and say you were trying out his PSP and accidentally squandered on the site. Then go from there. But you got nothign to worry about bud

 

when I was 15-16 I wanted to screw my 14-15 yr old sister the worst way. Incest never bothered me, thought it was a stupid concept. Did
some with my other younger sister. It just goes with the age.

 

I agree... You should be monitoring his internet use, but I don't think it's a good idea to address the matter of you actually finding his search history. Have "the talk" with him, and let him be. It's one thing to place parental blocks on your child's internet access, but it is quite another for you to be angry with him for doing something completely natural. He can't control his hormones, and neither can you.

If you do bring up the fact that you checked his history, are you going to mention that you are following through with advice you received from an erotic website??

Oh yeah...and the incest thing, I think it's safe to say that your kid probably didn't go searching for incest porn. Have you ever been on the internet? Do you see what pops up if you just type the word sex or porn? RELAX... Soon enough he'll be on this site just like you are.

 

Well, I have a few years to go before that happens, thankfully. With any luck, he'll never discover what a lewd, lascivious lady his mom is.

Having said that, I don't plan to be hypocritical about such things, and I don't plan on severely limiting my son's exploration of his own sexuality. Or my daughter's.

 

I'd talk to him about it, however, he's not going to be very receptive to the conversation. I imagine he's going to be very upset with you, but it's good that you care enough to see what he's up to on that computer. Good luck!!!

 

l geuss i flipped, im going to have the talk and be open, to be honest I was playing around with his psp, gta:vcs (not that good)."Oh the irony".Im not going to be:'You sick...'
Well at least it isnt, peadophillia or any of the other -phillia's

 

If he's 18 then you should be able to have a mature conversation about it. Of course he'll probably be mad at you for going through his PSP, but you should still be able to have a civilized conversation, and just because he's looking at the stories dosen't mean he want's to have sex with him mom or you.

 

Relax peeps,I had the 'talk' and he seemed rather ok and acceptional(?)
Though kids already know the inside of sex, just arnt mature enough.
He now wants the Wii...god that has internet lol

 

yeah Dont worry about that.. he doesnt really.. most likely.. he is just a horny teenager.. sad to say.. and he is just finding really strange things erotic.. hormones and all you know?

 

At least the talk went good.

 

DO NOT SAY A WORD TO HIM

if you do your son will feel extremely embarrassed and humiliated
so he visited an incest site so what the kid is going through puberty
it doesn't mean anything if you confront him over it you will only give him
the most stomach churning moment of his life you know your son if he's a good kid, then there's nothing to worry about, it's a phase it WILL pass, if you confront him over it, it will carry it to a whole new level and it become
defining moment in his life at a stage where his views, opinions, and everything thats shaping his mind is changing, get some safeguards for your internet but don't tell him why, and let him keep his peace of mind

 

Accuse him of having it off with his mum then give him a bloody good hiding. Disown him and tell all his mates about it. Bet your life he wont do it again. Well thats what my dad done and it worked a treat!

 

If you read the thread you'll see that he already did, and it went ok!