Okay. So I'm not going to vent as I want to. I will channel my frustration in to a more constructive arena. *breathes deep*

Just why...why why why, are us guys so obsessed with dick size? This goes out to all, I'm seeking opinions from both sides of the aisle. Why is our manhood so wrapped up in this little peice of flesh. Why do we get 4 or 5 threads a month asking for reassurances that everything is in order. Because you know what, those of you who ask and will keep on asking, like it or not, it's what you got. What you should be asking for is new ideas in the bedroom instead of just your basic suck & fuck. That is much more productive. Not "my dick is only <--yay--> big, am I normal.

But does any one have any idea as to what has led to this rediculous fascination? Are there any amatuer or professional anthropologists in the house? Hell, at this point I'd settle for someone who might have read it in Cosmo.

It was either this or be mean to the new guy who asked the "common" question and I didn't really want to do that, it's not his fault. I'm just seeking some understanding.

-S-

 

I have to agree with you on this one Shake. I've lost patience with it a bit, having played my part, reassuring men that their dicks are ok.

I think as a general rule:

If you're worried that your dick is to small - you're missing the point.
If your proud that your dick is big and you want to show it to everyone for admiration - you're missing the point.

And the point is that it's not the dick that 'does the job' - it's you!

All through history the dick has been associated with power and potency - this dates right back to maypoles, ancient Greece and a zillion different kinds of phallic symbols.

I think that we still harbor this idea, maybe at a subconscious level, that our dick size defines our power - our potency and in a way has less to do with the adequacy - or lack of - of our ability to use it in sex, for pleasure and to satisfy.

 

really, I don't know but it's really been annoying me too

 

I'm going to blame it on porn. Because you never see the "average guy", going by figures of an average-sized cock, in pornos. So guys want to defend themselves and be blindly assured that they can stack up to these monsters they see in pictures and videos. And before anyone asks, I've asked too. But I'm comfortable with my size and ability, so I never need to ask again.

 

I'm not completely without blame. I'd dig an extra inch, but really it works just fine and I believe my partners have a good time. I just want to scream at folks everytime the topic pops up again.

-S-

 

I personally don't know why dudes are so concerned with size! I'm not that big. I'm about 5 inches hard and I couldn't really care. I am who I am.

 

I always assumed that it made people feel sexy to show pictures of their penises, but couldn't think of other reasons to post them.

Um, but when the question is posed without a picture, I really don't get it.

 

I know what you mean, ShakeZula...I keep getting this perverse impulse to reply to them with:

"Wow, that IS tiny! I'm so sorry!"

But I think this is something primordial. Men have always obsessed about it, even worshipped their penis. They erect very tall buildings, build statues and obelisks.

But as silly as it all is, women are just as hung up about how big their boobs are.

 

i think in some cases its just curiosity and in others it is the typical young male exageration in competition and then they feel they are small because they think the other guys are being totaly honest.
almost every guy is afraid of be inferior and since guys talk about size in person rather than whip it out and show it places like this become where they go for impartial judgment.
you would have the same problem with body muscle if it had to be covered up and you were able to lie about it:mrgreen:

 

Guys need to be the biggest and strongest. Just like guys like to have bigger/better defined arms. They want to make it so that a girl is like "oooh, I like what I see." Just like everyone wants their face to be handsome, their arms to be cut or atleast decent, abs are always wanted (to what extent changes, but 99% guys out there wouldnt mind better abs if offered). Same thing with girls wanting to have a flat stomach, bigger boobs, long slender legs...etc.

I'll admit I'm obsessed about penis size, I'm about 6" give or take depending on the day, but I feel it looks a lot smaller. It's a confidence builder if you have a huge one.

Oh, and girls joke around about big dicks too, so that doesnt help.

 

Meh...I couldnt care less about my dick size. As a matter a fact neither should other guys. You got what you got. Get over it. If its small...Master the art of Vagina Munching or any other type of foreplay to get a female off. Dont sit back and whine about it and people in these forums for judgement...Because it's annoying th hell out of us. Hence the posting of this thread.

 

Well, I actually thought that it was more of an ancient social and evolutionary more.

I was under the impression that women looked at well hung men as more viral, better able to provide them with kids, and better statue in the community because they had an advantage of 'procreation.'

That said, women back then seemed to obsess over who could provide better, and men wanted to have children with women that were highly regarded, passing the trait down to their children as well. aka: survival of the fittest.

Taking it further, the better looking women (possessions) could get the better hung men, and vice versa. I think the security and insecurity about size started back then, and is still deep seeded in our pathology, regardless if science, finally dispelling myth, says it doesn't matter.

 

Who said it didn't matter?

I like big ones.

 

That right there is what sets many men off. Everyone says size doesn't matter, then someone says they love the big penis. Then the male thinks every woman likes large penises...But how true is it? How many of you women enjoy the large penis?


Oh, and I learned this on the discovery channel. It is a fact that human beings have the largest genitalia of all the primates in the world. So be proud men, I know I am

 

lol, personal preference is one thing.

I meant that scientists discovered that it doesn't mean
a) you're more virile and
b) you're more likely to provide 'for the family' better.

ie: having a big cock doesn't mean any more success in life than a normal one.

 

How true that takes balls, which is why I'm glad I've got them. Although one is the size or a rasin. And the other one's just a little bitty old thing.

 

Oh shit, is that what I've got to look forward to next year?......

 

Partial answers.

Please, first of all, dont pay much attention to my terrible inglish.

Insecurity is what couse the question in all man, but women have also been the couse of that insecurity.

I dont mean that women are the only couse, but i have the oportunity to know some gay men, very close in a friendly way, to whom i ask ones, ¿why he didnt like women?. He told me ( and this is just one example becouse i know many of you gay brothers have your own and unique reasons if there is a reason , becouse any way, I dont quere, and I love people without barriers, I just want to make a point related to the tough that can be a women when dealing with a not so much secure men on his sexuality.) He told me that he had a bad expirience the first time he was with a woman sexualy, and since then he could relate to men easily without the fear of fullfiling some stupid roll that society have put opon him, this lead to the involment in the gay atmosphere and he just love it and there was no question anymore....


My friend is a very petit person and aparently the girl he was with joke about his sizes.

Inteligent and wordly women can generate spectatives that some no so much wordly men are not only unable to manage, but generates fear of not coping with aspects that he feels in the woman besides him.
That is way, he needs reasurence of his performence and the question on the size is only a way to obtain that reasurence.

In my case i love to meet women that could surprise me, but not all men are like that.

If I sound egotistic is just becouse iam dinking some whiskie so please scuse me onece again.

Women need a person that wont show insecurities even tough there is a certain atraction to the sencitive men, but at the end they will go with the "alfa" male , just to call it some how and beter if that alfa men is sencitive.

I never have that fear even tough i been in the position that all men have been one time or another of not getting it up in a time and place.
But the difference is that I dont have insecurities becouse (maybe it will sound naif) relations, sexualy, erotic, or in any way have to be anchor, founded (even if it is a one nigth stand) on the intimed and harmonic expirience of two beings, I cannot fuck if there is no .....????

That is way my mayor afrodisiac is a good conversation in a yaccuzzi (if possible) previos to the touch..

By BY Iam thoor_thoor_thoor@yahoo.com

 

No, I quite agree.

It just feels better.

 

I can say with complete honesty that I have never in my entire life ridiculed, humiliated, made fun of or otherwise disparaged a man whose penis was below average in size.

But I married a guy that just happened to have kind of a big one. And I adore both it and him.