So just a couple of things that I would like some advice on.

My girl and I have been having sex now for quite a while. Only thing is, is that there's no oral involved. She has this deal with her room-mate right, and the deal is "no sex while the other is home" (this rule does secretly get broken a lot). Well this one night she was in the mood, but didn't want to risk getting caught by her awake room-mate, so she called it off. I said, "well you know there's always other stuff we can do that isn't sex". I noticed that she got very quiet, like she was hiding something. So we had a talk about it. After a while of figuring it out, she told me that she has never done oral before and wasn't sure if she could do it to my liking (she has had several other partners). She explained to me that she was worried that I would get bored of her without oral, and leave her, because it has happened before to her. I explained to her that I was in the relationship to be with her, and the sexual stuff was just a bonus, and we won't do oral until she is 100% comfortable with experimenting that. She told me that she still had this kind of uneasiness when we had sex because she was afraid that I would start oral. So, to prove to her that sexual stuff wasn't the reason I was in the relationship, I made a "contract" with her that stated that we would not do anything sexual for 1 month, so I could prove to her that I would still love her just as much without sex. The contract lasted 10 days before she ripped it up but I'll let to that later lol . Problem here is, oral is a big part of what I enjoy in sex..it always has been. How do I get her to experiment without sounding like it's what I really want and make her think I was lying about everything else I said?

Second problem. Last night we decided to have sex again (while her roommate was home ). We haven't had sex for aboutttt..15+ days due to the contract we made and stuff. Within a few minutes, I had an orgasm. Never had I had one so fast. I tried to continue but the stiffness just wasn't there, so it didn't work out. I blamed it on my bad cold that I currently have, and she agreed that that's what the problem could be. Could it be just that I haven't had "a release" in such a long time? Me being sick? Or could it be something else? I'm worried that next time we have sex the same thing will happen. Has anyone else experienced this?

Thanks for reading! Hope you guys can give me a hand here.

 

do you give her oral? she'll be more likely to return the favour. and try to convince her that she will get better with practice and tht you wont leave her if shes not great first time.

about the early cumming i doubt its anything to do with the cold, probably just that you hadnt had sex for so long. if i dont see my gf for weeks, i always make sure i whack one off a couple of days before i see her, and then the sex is amazing.

hope all goes well with your girl

 

Okay, I'm going to take your two questions in reverse order, so about your fast orgasm, yes, that was pretty much due to the lack of sexual activity. You became more aroused, much faster as a result. Oh, and colds can mess with your body's responses too, believe it or not. Either making you sexually react faster, or slower than normal - it varies.

The slow recovery time, that was due to the cold. Just to further reassure you, think of sexual recovery as being something that puts a strain on the body's resources. There and then, those resources are busy fighting off that cold, so naturally, have less energy to spare getting you ready for round two. Naturally, this "slowdown" affects some more than others, too. But when you consider professional athletes can't compete when sick, you get some idea how much a cold takes out of you, physically.

As for the oral sex issue, why not show her how much fun it can be by performing it on her first? If you've already done that, and she still has reservations, but wants to try it, suggest kissing and licking around the area such as the stomach and thighs. Reassure her what's she's doing feels good, and don't pressure her to do anything more. After a while of doing that, she may want to take things further herself as she grows in confidence, but that'll be up to her. Just remember, encourage, reassure but no pressure. If she's dead against it though, then realistically, there's little you can do.

There's also another option - that of sixty nining. She can continue licking and kissing your thighs while you pleasure her. Tell her you expect nothing, except for her to enjoy herself, and unleash the passion of your tongue on her. The moment may well overcome her and she may begin to experiment... or she may not. Like I said, her choice.

Ultimately, if she can't or won't, you'll have to decide yourself if you wish the relationship to continue, depending on how much she means to you. One thing more or less in bed doesn't make much of a difference really - it's how she makes you feel out of bed that really counts, in the long run.

I hope that helps, and the best of luck with your relationship. *warm smile*

Bye for now - Fluffy McNoo.

 

Listen to dogs, they invented their own style.

You could always use some chocolate sauce. You could also just tell her how you like it and whatnot. Yes it is normal to cum quick after no activity for a while. Have a release by your own hands man, that's why you have them.

 

I'd blame that lack of hardness on the sickness since your not at the peak or feeling good even when you are having sex.

About her giving you oral.. Seriously just tell her that you want her to try and you won't care how good it is. Just tell her to relax and be wet and sloppy and she should learn and get better pretty fast. As she gets better tell her to start sucking more/using tongue etc. you get the idea.

Just make her feel comfortable about it, let her know you aren't going to be mad if its bad and you'll be happy if she evens tries.

 

Thanks guys for everything!

Just an update on the situation. I talked to her about it, and she explained that she felt oral wasn't something natural, and it was just weird to her. I told her if she ever wanted to try it out then we can.

So anyways, we had sex again last night. Same thing happened. As soon as I started I just knew that it wouldn't last long. Within minutes again, it happened. I'm quite nervous about this all to tell you the truth. Here's my guess on what this is. When I was younger, and before getting into sexual relationships, I used to whack off ehh, once every other day? I didn't have much time to do so, so I always forced a quick one. At the start of this sexual relationship I have with my girlfriend, I don't want to say "awkward" but being a new person, there's always a little bit of that there. Do you think that now, maybe because I've relaxed a lot with this person, I'm taking on my old quick habits?

What worries me is I can't give my girl sex. Well I can, but it doesn't last nearly long enough. I'm worried that it's a problem that might not be fixable, since I don't really know what it could be or how to solve it. I think what I'll do to start is to try a thicker condom. Right now I use trojans "thinnest condom ever", so maybe if I go thicker the sensitivity won't be there.

Help anyone? I'm lost.

 

As regards the condom issue - I know that Durex produce some condoms that have a mild anaesthetic in them to slightly numb your penis, thereby prolonging the time before orgasm.

Perfomax, I believe they're called. You could try them - Trojan may do a similar product.

As to the orgasming fast issue - don't sweat it. It's a phase, I promise you. Try and masturbate as much as possible, and practice delaying your orgasm as you do so.

 

thanks a lot orion I feel a lot better now that I know there's something out there that can possibly help! I'll try the performax condoms and let you know how it works out. Thanks again!