I think she should see a Doctor, to rule out anything that could be physically wrong with her, she shouldn't be drying out, and there might point to a problem unseen that's causing her to tense up and cry.


Once she gets anything physical out of the way then counciling would be sugggested.

 

It's not a physical pain she's crying from. Her emotions get the best of her & she looses control.

 

I had a partner that cried as she came, it was just really overwhelming for her

 

I've had it happen to me, the crying. It wasn't a bad thing though. Its hard to describe, but it was this amazing emotional intensity. I had this wonderful deep bond with this person and when I could really let go (in my head) during orgasm, I was not in control of my body or emotions. Sometimes I cried, but not from pain or sadness. It was like this intense sense of euphoria, complete vulnerability.

Also, i wouldn't be too hard on her about the dryness, it's really not abnormal nor a reflection of her state of attraction to you. A lot of women have a hard time continuing to produce lubrication during intercourse.

I know you are concerned and I think some counseling would be good for you. However, it also sounds like you have a strong and rare union and that should be nutured. You can overcome this, just communicate.

 

I don't have any answers, mate, but I just wanted to post and say you sound like one awesome husband. Kudos. You really do seem to care. It's nice to hear your love is so strong.

 

I should add... I had never experienced that prior, nor have I since. Frankly, I truly hope that someday I may have that much of a bond and trust in someone to be able to let go like that again. I fear though that that may have been a once in a lifetime thing. If that's the case, then I will gladly treasure having known it, if only briefly.

 

Has this crying been going on since you started having sex, 9+ years ago?

 

These reply's are great. I appreciate the kind words & it makes me think I'm on the right track. When we 1st started dating, we didn't get too intense with our love making. It was mediocre in my opinion. We both got what we wanted out of it. As we grew closer together we started trying different things of course. Positions, creative places, things etc.

I ordered some stuff off of Amazon one time & had 10 free dollars through them to buy something on the house. I saw a tantric book & got it. It made me think differently about sex & we talked about trying it out. She didn't take to it, but I really did. I leveled out about mid way through the book learning quite a bit, but not fully being able to practice everything.

Most of the time the love making would be normal. We'd run into the dryness thing, but I have never faulted her on it. I've been to her gyno as much as she has. lol When I really have my A game & want to really enjoy ourselves is when the crying happens. Only when I have a good rhythm going where she starts to really feel it & enjoy it. I would say the crying has been going on for 5 years or so.

For her there's a point after about 5 minutes where you can tell she thinks I'm gonna stop, but when I don't, her enjoyment turns into kind of a unbridled panic where she's thinking "well, is he going to stop? or keep going or what? Why isn't he stopping? I can't control these emotions, I don't want him to stop, it doesn't hurt & I don't want to disappoint him, but I'm about to cry."

 

I think it would also help to assure her that crying is not a bad thing.