Hi, i know this may be in the wrong section, but i apologise in advance.

I met this girl in my final year of colledge roughly 2 years ago, and since then, have been single. Even since I saw her on that day, I have had these feelings of love, compassion and unity for her. I guess thats what you call falling in love, when you think about someone, and for no reason that you can think of, believe and feel, and imagine that you can spend the rest of your life with them.

We have been great friends for the past 2 years, and I went over to see her today, and met her new boyfriend, of whom I did not know she had met. I was a little dissapointed as i went over to actually and finally tell her how I felt, but after meeting him, decided that she wouldnt want to know that right now.

I dont feel extremely jelious, I guess if she is happy, its all good, but I cant get her out of my mind.
Any suggestions?

 

what's been stopping you telling her how you feel in the past two years?

 

i guess shyness and the fear that she doesnt feel the same way

 

well... if she gets serious with this new guy then you might just have to deal with that... but if it's not serious yet i think you might have to weigh up the pros and cons of telling her. how do you think she could react? will things be weird between the two of you if she doesn't feel the same way?

for the record, i hope things go well and she feels the same way about you

 

I know how you feel, i was in a similar situation but in the end i just felt it was best to just let it go and find someone else. I know this is not comforting advice but it helps in the long run.

 

Man.... All (almost all) of the relations at this age are nothing of reeally serious.... I don't know what kind of person is her, but i think that the story won't last that long.... Just wait until it ends, keeping in touch with her and being her friend.... Meanwhile perhaps you will find another girl you'll like (and maybe even more).... And then you'll forget about that....
It always goes that way.....



...Sure you could tell her your feelings BEFORE that happened, man..... Anyway learn from your mistakes....

 

you have a crush on her, you're infatuated with the idea of her, and that's not love. love you develope after being in an actual relationship, and a very serious one. you should move on, until she's single at least, and normally when you start an interest in someone else, your feelings for the last person disappear.

 

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Yes. Do what Bella says, there's nothing more to say here. You may think it's love but it is purely infatuation, like Bella said. Kudos on that response.

 

was gonna say the same thing.

But since this guy has been good friends with her(I think that's what he said), it depends. If you're in love, tell us what you love so much about her, and if you can't, then nope, you're not in love with her.

Maybe many years ago it would've been considered love when you're infatuated with somebody, but nowadays, it's a bit different. And yea, if she isn't single, you'd better be damn sure it is love cus it'll be a lot of drama if you tell her how you feel. Even if she does feel the same way towards you, ten to one, you're gonna have to deal with her pissed off boyfriend, and since most dudes are insecure, possessive, ego stroking douchebags, he'll probably wanna fight you.

 

I don't usually comment on general discussion threads. but that is really sweet. I wish you good luck.

 

i hate that had it once best bet i would say is, either tell her and then its over with she may dump her b/f and have you or say ure a headcase but at least u wud no and culd get on with ure life

or not say anything and carry on feelin crap,

personally id risk it, what is there to lose? if its about her freindship then that shudnt botha u bcos if u have a feelin like that it can never be a true freindship as u want sumthin more, so risk it but it is up 2 u

and lemme no wat u do in the end cos its beta than tv

 

shoulda made the move earlier... lesson learned, just find another. There are plenty of girls out there