this probably isnt the right website to be posting something like this, but i really need some help with my relationship...ive asked a few friends to help me out, but i'd like a few more opinions...i think my bf is slipping away from me...im so scared he will cheat, he talks to women online. i dont have a problem with him talking to bi women because we r looking to have a three way soon. ive been nervous about it ever since i found out he made plans to meet with another woman a few months ago...

it also seems like he is starting to take me for granted. i do literally everything for him at home, and he hasnt once said thank u, he hardly compliments me, and when we have sex, it almost always has to be his way. the few times ive gotten it my way, i dont think he really wanted to give it me like that...

dont get me wrong, in general he is an AMAZING guy, he has his moments, which is why i love him so much, and its also why i dont want to lose him..lately he doesnt seem very interested in me...if anyone has any tips, i would love to hear them!

 

well it seems asthough he is losing interest so you could either change something in your daily routine to try and get his attention or break it off with him for awhile and see if he comes back to you

 

You seem young and and perhaps unschooled in what a meaningfulful relationship is all about. The very fact that he can lead you to do his bidding without expressing any gratitude is a clue to what kind of selfish, self serving guy he is. You are subserviant and he is using your affection for him as a weapon against you. From my perspective ,your affection could be better used with some man who actually respects you.
Get a grip on the realities of this situation and get a better grasp of your own self esteem and self worth..Losing this asshole is no loss at all.

 

sounds like your communication isnt that good. have you tried talking to him about this? relationships are successful when you can openly communicate without it turning into an arguement.
also, sex is important in a relationship. if you arent liking the sex, you guys should be able to discuss that and improve it

 

I'm sorry but if you actually make it to posting a question about it on a forum, there definitely must be something wrong with the relationship (given that you're not paranoid). You FEEL it and the feeling is what is important. If you're not comfortable anymore in the relationship, you have to act. His taking you for granted, not giving you compliments any more... all signs of slipping away, I think.

The fact that he is AMAZING makes you just addicted to his moments which is another reason why it would be difficult to act but if you feel he's slipping away, fight it and end the relationship.

 

Sounds to me like you need some serious communication. Find out what each of you wants out of the relationship, and whether those things are compatible. When you're young, it's not unusual to go through several partners in a relatively short period of time, at least partly because you're not quite sure exactly what it is you're looking for.

 

well, he's not as young as i am, he's 27

 

I have to agree with Zorbas reply to you. It will hurt if you break up with him, but not for too long. You will find another guy who you find is totally different from who you are with now. Your boyfriend has no respect for you and is just using you, because you are letting him. Be free of him and enjoy your life with someone who will appreciate you I hope all goes well for you

 

Another thing came to mind: Here's what you can do immediately. His less pleasant moments - don't tolerate them. Don't brush them off. Let him know that they make you uncomfortable. There are gonna be quarrels but at least it'll help you realize or find out things.

 

Your thread is very general about his personality, so it is tough to give you advice.

But in general I would suggest NOT doing everything for him or anyone else ... it is always a balance of give and take.

There is also a difference between loving someone and being "in love". Does he seem to care if you talk with other men or if other men are wanting to be with you?

Maybe if it is so painful for you to be near him, and the more you try to push yourself closer the more he pulls away and does not want the intamacy ... for your own sake, maybe take a timeout from the relationship and find your own freedom and happiness separate from him.

If he comes to you later, you can decide if you want him back ... AND there are a lot of amazing guys out there... who's world you will rock as much as you rock theirs ... best of luck.:rose:

 

your to young to be attached to one person,go out have a nice life find other men to romance you and eventually the mr.right will come along,live your life don't let him hold you back.:excited:

 

thanks for ur advice....and yes he does care if i talk to other men, or if other men wants to be with me, he doesnt like it at all!

 

in my culture, u settle down young, and thats what i want, i dont wanna be someone who gets married when she 30, and have kids when she's 35, that just isnt for me