I'll be blunt and honest with this, and try not to beat around the bush; my girlfriend has quite the difficulty in climaxing. Until our relationship, she had never experienced an orgasm before, and in five months of dating, she has only had three successful orgasms. We have decided to hold off on sex an leave that for another time, and I'm quite sure it will not be any time in the future. Nonetheless, I'd still like to return the favor of her pleasuring me.

In order to better understand the difficulty, I should detail the complications we face. Her first orgasm was yielded through the frustration of a day's break from the attempt. She was close one day, and we had been interrupted leaving us unable to finish. In order to manage her first, I pretty much bit and chewed the Hell out of her neck, leaving one side sore that day, and the other when she did succeed. I had been able to give her an orgasm without the clitoris. The second and the third was attained with the aid of the clitoris. The second was just good too, from what she said, though the third somewhat fell below expectatons. (The two were side-by-side in days.)

Well, for the past three or four attempts, I've tried a number of things. ue t several reasons, we're forced to the time of approximatly an hour and fifteen minutes. I've attempted using the clitoris as my tool to get her off, though it has not worked very well. She's odd enough as it is, but anatomically she has some quirks as well. For ome reason or another, whenever I attempt to massge the clitoris, it doesn't feel pleasurable, but rather tickles her.

In a nutshell: 1hr15min to give her an orgasm eluding the ticklish sensations she might get with the clitoris.

I'm supposing if I were to work into it, uing a majority of my effort to work her up, and then going for the clit, she'd climax fine, but I'm not terribly sure.

And then, I realize I haven't asked much of a qustion. How can I get her off?

 

You don't state her age, but some very young women (I'm talking in the early 20's range -get your heads out of the gutter! :excited: ) are very sensitive around the clitoris. You might have luck using a vibrator (on slow/gentle) or your tongue not directly around the 'hood' but around the folds. Perhaps in the groove between the fold and her skin on the outer labia. It might also help to do with with a dildo or your finger inside. Also, encourage her to direct you -you're probably already doing this, but sometimes women can be shy. The best thing is for her to also practice on her own to see where her favorite spots are and then she can show you. If she is comfortable masturbating in front of you she could also 'demonstrate.' Hope that helps. Good luck.

 

She needs to masturbate; if she can figure out what she needs to do to make herself cum, it will only help when she’s with you.
I don’t need a fantastic lover to make me cum, through knowing my body; I know what spots and things need to be done to make me cum.
Once she learns her body, sex with you will be so much better.

 

my girlfriend an i were on the phone when she had her first orgasm. she started masturbating a little less that regularly, so by the time we had sex for the first time, she actually came despite the hurting-ness of the first time. foreplay, foreplay, foreplay!

 

This actually ended up helping a great deal. I told her about this response, and she wet home and masturbated at some point during the weekend. Surely enough, she found a way to make it not tickle. So, I suppose that's great. I appreciate all the assitance, thank you.

 

o hai!
i'll be blunt and honest. change your avatar. we, the good and upstanding people of xnxx, will not stand for such atrocities. the message you are portraying is abhorring in every sense of the word. i suggest you think about what you are conveying with the poor choice(s) you have made. you sicken me.
kthanxbai!

 

orly?
gtfo newfag,
learn the rules,
then come back.
lurk moar, and don't be a trollfag
go fap to your furrypron

 

I know this was said before, but I think it can't be said enough. Masturbation together & alone REGULARLY is very good. You must understand your own body to be able to control it. men don't give women orgasms necessarily, its all up to her. also exercise the kegel while masturbating for even more profound abilities. Good Luck! & just a note, checking for breast lumps should be done daily not monthly - this way u KNOW your body. Seems like everything comes down to knowing yourself. Sorry to go on like this, its my 99th post & I was a lil excited.

 

Lol, you have to have a thorough understanding of his sarcasm. He's really a funny guy,don't take it personally.

Ps: Note the similarities between your avatars... then you might understand a little

 

o hai!
you are quite adept at detecting sarcasm ain't ya?
srsly, take a look at the quote below, and then remember.....tits or gtfo!
kthanxbai!

o hai!
i like you!
the fact you realize that i was having a go at sorrowedtorment and he missed it, makes it that much more funny!
*bear hug*
kthanxbai!

 

honestly my g/f is the same way..it takes her 30- 45 min everytime..wether its me giving her oral or her using a vibe by herself....thats just the way she works....i love seeing her orgasm so its well worth the wait!