Hey all,
I'm into rough sex,dominating ,slapping ,bad mouthing etc ...
and i always had a safety word with my partner just in case it got a bit too much for her,now this new friend of mine,she won't even agree to have one !!! she is so far the best slave role player I've ever had,she is great,but because she didn't want a safety word it took away some of my pleasure cuz i was over cautious this time and it was no where close to "all i've got" ,n it was our 1st time n i didn't want to "hurt" her . i told her that after we were done but she is still not convinced,she wants it all the way :d sounds great until u actually come to ur senses and realize something could go really wrong no ?
do you agree with me?that there should be one?or not ?

 

Just tell her okay but if she changes her mind while you're playing, yell out (your word of choice).

That way she has an option and you can start conducting bidness.

 

yes there should be a safety word. its not just for slave safety but for ur own to. its to easy to go to far and damage a person or scare them off for life. if u have a word she doesn't have to use it but its always there just in case.

 

The safety word is "Help rape!"

 

The Domly One and i have been together for 18 years and still have a safety word (or signal for those times my mouth is occupied by a gag/duct tape/penis/etc).

It is important to us because my pain tolerance (physical and emotional) varies from day to day depending on where i am in my menstrual cycle.

i think i've said "red" maybe three times in our relationship. One of those times doesn't count, though, because he set out to make me code out of a scene. It was early in our arrangement and a trust issue for him -- he needed to know that i would use the safe word.

i've used "yellow" more often, but we do a lot of edge play and psychological edge play.

She doesn't have to use the word, but knowing it's there can let you both relax and enjoy the ride.

 

make sure you atleast have one, cause yea
hurting her
scaring her would be bad
me and my girlfriend have one just incase

 

I guess "more" and "yes" are not good safety words?

 

dont think i would choose yes and more either. we usually use a food that we dont like,laura

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z2vqBYC5e-M

 

tricycle lol.

 

Use something simple and quick,like a word,food or something she doesnt like so you know she isnt enjoying it anymore.

 

https://forum.xnxx.com/showpost.php?p=1572633&postcount=6

*warmly* MMTI's advice is exactly the kind of advice you should be heeding, and I in turn would also like to add some further things to that well-stated comment.

For one thing, others new to, or interested in, BDSM on reading this, may not know what "safety words" are. So for those of you who don't, here's how it works.

Red. Stop. As in "too much, stop NOW".
Yellow. Slow down. Ease up. Reaching my limits.
Green. I'm fine and happy, keep going!

However, for experienced subs and doms in the BDSM community, there are those who disagree with safewords at all. There are a number of reasons for that.

1) Some feel it's actually working against the slave being a slave - after all, if they have the final say in stopping, going on etc, how is that "surrendering themselves"?

2) Safewords could potentially put the slave at greater risk, as in extreme situations, they're "too far out of it" to respond, and the Master/Mistress in turn takes the scenario that much further because of the safeword being in place.

If you're interested, here are some interesting articles against the usage of safewords.

http://www.steel-door.com/Safewords.html
http://www.leathernroses.com/eso/esosafewords.htm

Personally though, for someone like yourself starting out with a new submissive, I'd say using safewords would be an essential part of your D/S play. It gives you a "safety cut-out" if situations get too intense for either/both of you.

I'd explain to her that, like an air bag in a car, the safety word may never be used the whole time the two of you are together... but like that air bag, it's nice to know it's there, if it's needed!

Bye for now - Fluffy McNoo.

 

Fuck yeah. definately needs to be an exit, just incase the Dom goes over the top or something happens.

 

yes

yes there should always be a safety word and safety sign

 

Jackass comes to mind; Oklahoma.

 

i wouldn't play without a safeword, but i agree with rixer, if you tell her that if she has a problem just to say abcxyz and then the option is there for her, she doesn't have to say it if she doesn't want to.

 

thanks

yup,thanks

yea,will probably follow that up with "red is the safety word" :d

or "stop help rape it hurts".

this is really helpful ,thanks for a great answer.i didn't think of the signal thingy before!

yup,dnt wanna do that !she is just too excited lol :d

neither is "stop" or "you're hurting me"

LOL :mrgreen: okay you need something to sotp not to turn you off altogether :d i think we'll go with the colors .

LMAO :mrgreen: lettt he vendersex begin :d ..wow "vendersex" would make a good safety word !thx u didn't spoil it afterall :satisfied:

tryagain

yup.thx

thanks,insightful .
new or not i think a saftey word should be there !those who think it'd ruin it sound like they have a problem -JK -

thx 4 the answer

right,a sign too.damn that tricky with the shackles n all.we'll think of something :satisfied:

in which one (of the movies) do they talk abt this?i dnt remember!!

will do thx 4 the asnwer

 

Help rape as in HELP RAPE THIS KID!
Or.
Help, rape!

^____^

 

we have one of those little clicker things they use to train dogs, i can use one even with my wrists bound and my mouth full. He has also had me hold a large ring of keys -- the "red" signal is to drop them (this doesn't work on a carpeted floor.)

 

ROFL!