To start off im an 18 year old male and I've been in 3 sucsesful relationships with women. But recently ive been having dreams and thoughts of sex with men and not just a little curious. Extremely violent sex involving me being raped and tortured and im not sure if this means anything. im mildly aroused during the thoughts but after im embarrassed and worried about myself.

any help would be appreciated but please dont flame me.

 

Become a criminal, have a good time while it lasts.
When you get caught, your dreams will come true!!!!!! :excited:

 

not exactly what i was thinking

 

Sorry

 

Please...not another "am I gay" post?

Look...your sexuality is not purely one thing or another, it's a point on a broad spectrum. So what if you have sexual fantasies involving men? If, at some point in your life, you feel like you want to act on those fantasies, nobody is stopping you. You are what you are, and no amount of worrying on your part is going to change the fact.

So figure out what you like, and do it.

 

Don't ask, don't tell, don't drop the soap.

 

I believe sometimes you can mark even more than one point on the spectrum (depending on what is included)...

 

Ok i guess i wasnt very clear

ive had normal curious fantasies and i am ok with that i think that is completely normal and i am not worried about it. (not what im talking about)

being raped and tortued by men enjoing the thoughts and then being ashamed and embarresed with myself is what im asking about (i do not think this is normal)

now can anyone help me with that?

 

Look, I have fantasies about being ravaged by multi-tentacled aliens while the seven dwarfs watch and jerk off. Just don't BE ashamed or embarrassed about it. Fantasies are normal, even sick, perverted, demented ones.

 

Nope
(you're a pissy queen) Welcome to the forum!!!!!

 

What???????
So do I!!!!!! But I didn't think it was a dream!!!!!! (And my butt was really sore afterwards )

 

Im glad I asked a simple question and got sarcastic backlash for no reason.

I see how welcome newcomers are here.

 

Lighten up!!!!!!!

 

Ah, must have been Doc! That little guy is hung like a donkey!

 

C'mon, it's all in fun. And besides, I did give you not one, but TWO semi-serious responses. I just think you ought to stop worrying so much.

 

Well thank you and sorry for being such a bitch. I'm just confused and wanted some help.

 

Your fantasies describe an unconscious desire to be the object of sexual focus. Or maybe you are surrounded by males that you perceive as "more of a man".

Your embarassment seems sexually based, since your mind created a symbolic dream describing your inferiority by making you an object of lust.

Hope this helps.

 

go get raped

 

Thank you. doesnt really make me feel better but it makes the most sense.

I dont want to.

 

Dude, I'm gonna tell you the truth. Like other people have said, sexuality manifests itself on a broad spectrum. Sometimes you will have thoughts about being with another dude, your mom, your sister, a midget, a horse....they key thing is NOT TO BE ASHAMED. However, you have to make a character decision. You have to decide where you are going to draw the line and where fantasies would remain just fantasies. If you are uncomfortable with being labeled gay, I would say that you should bypass experimenting in that area. We live in a homophobic world, for better or worse, and if you want to see yourself as purely straight, I would advise that you make a decision not to experiment there. If you feel as if you are repressing yourself too much, then thats another story....

Ok, I'm preparing for the flames. There is NOTHING wrong with experimenting with gay desires but you cannot deny that there are consequences and with guys those consequences could be complex as it relates to our masculinity.

Oh yeah, OP, LIGHTEN UP! Other newcummers have had far worse receptions...you gotta prove yourself