For the ones that don't know, I am married. My wife is also bi but that is not the problem. The issue is that she would have sex with another girl but does not agree with me joining or even watching. She says it is because she doesn't feel comfortable about another girl around me. So what I am getting out of this, she doesn't trust me. So what do you think? It is right that she is not letting me join or even be there when I let her do that and do you think it is a trust issue? Obviously it is not her being self conscious when she would do it with another girl.

 

Personally, I think she should let you watch and/or participate, provided that you want to and the other girl is willing. It's kind of the price of doing business, n'est-ce pas? Marriage is all about sharing.

 

I agree. I mean she says she will let me watch but I know she be very unfortable and not shut up for days after about it.

 

Sometimes girls just want to be alone!!!!! Plus being with a women is much different than being with a guy!!! For you it would be just another woman!!!!

 

Is she okay with you being with another woman when she is not around?

If not, seems a little hypocritical.

 

Damn straight! I don't care to sit and watch two chicks go at it anyway, but if I'm not going to be included in any way, I'm going to have my fun, too. It's only fair, especially since I'm not requesting a harem while she sits back and does nothing. She gets her play time, and so do I. It's utter bullshit if one of us is on the sidelines while the other is enjoying themselves. I will say this, however... If you're both going to be with the same person, there's no complaint. Share the girl. If you're being left out, that's not okay. Perhaps due to my own paranoia I'd wonder, with such stipulations attached, if there even is another girl. Could be a cover for hooking up with another guy, or even a couple.

 

Have an open relationship where you can be involved with other people and she can be involved with other people or don't have an open relationship and stay monogamous.

 

Exactly.

 

Though an open relationship does should have ground rules as well.

 

I have my girlfriend come over and sometimes my man watches and sometimes he joins in but he also knows that her and I have plenty of fun when he's not around and he's okay with it as long as I give him lots of details later.
However I have told him on many occasions that if he wants to have sex with another woman he can, and he allows me to do what I want with whomever I choose. But what works for us doesn't work for others.
I understand why your wife would want to have time alone with another woman, but it is kind of selfish for her to expect you to just sit idly by while she gets all the benefits of a side relationship.
Its just not fair to you.

 

I never wanted details. If I wasn't there AND involved, the notion of two girls going at it just didn't do it for me. I totally agree with the statement about selfishness, though. It's not fair.

 

No she doesn't allow me to have sex with another girl. As a mater of fact, I really don't care. Ground rules were placed and she seemed to be ok with it at first but then she kept saying how uncofortable it would be seeing me and the other girl.

To make it simple, the rules were for my wife and I to have fun and basically have the other girl as a guest. I have already said I don't want to "finish her off" so the wife has to. She agreed at first but then she basically doesn't want me touching her. As a matter of fact, she don't even want me to see her naked.

 

Dude, I've so been there before... and I left the girl because of it. If the rules were set prior to anything happening, and either partner decides it's not going to work that way, it should be ended by both, not one having their fun and the other waiting the game out on the bench. Screw that.

 

Yea she keeps saying how she doesn't want the other girl to blow me or me to even have my dick in her....I mean she says she wants me to join but how. She even gave me the I get 2 vaginas and she gets 1 penis and 1 vagina. She finds it fair that she gets 1 penis and 1 vagina as i get 1 vagina.

I just told her to go do her friend. I will stay out of it.

 

is she uncomfortable because she thinks you might think the other girl is hotter than her?
i would suggest telling her to video tape her and her friend getting freaky and before you and your wife are about to get intimate pull out the tape and watch it. 8)
that's my suggestion.

 

I agree with most on here that you should ask her if it is ok for you to have sex then with another woman then. I am sure she wont go for that either though. Which then why is it ok for her to play outside the marriage but not you? Either include you, let you do someone else or be happy with who she married.

 

Hello ? It sounds like your wife is insecure about seeing you with another girl, afraid you'll enjoy her more than you enjoy your wife. If she can't get past that, I think that the arrangement you're looking for is never going to happen.

 

well, give take relationship... i let my boyfriend participate when he lets me play with another girl... of course she might be jealous of othe women being with you, so she might be a hypocrit.

 

My ex had issues like that. The other girl was too tall, too thin, too cute, too dark skinned, too something.... There was always a problem. If she felt the girl was in any way a threat to her the deal was off. So, I told her one day to just fucking pick the girl herself... and I waited literally years before she agreed to bring someone home. I was never that picky about who she found interesting enough to hook up with; as long as she was happy I felt she should be as open about it as I was... as open as she claimed to be from the beginning. When I told her to drop the whole thing and let it be just the two of us she raised hell. She still wanted to have her fun and despite the fact that I couldn't hook up (primarily because of her) she would be able to and it wasn't "fair" to her for me to cut her off from her exploits. At one point I cut her off from my services and began doing my own thing, and since I'm not at all thrilled with the notion of not informing my partner of what I'm doing (which was originally part of the busted deal) I left her. I felt like I'd been invited to a party and forced to sit outside and listen to everyone laugh and enjoy themselves, so I went off to find my own party, so to speak. I still didn't hook up much after that, but it wasn't due to someone restraining me. I have enough of my own issues to limit that sort of thing.

 

I know she would not be with another girl if I asked her to but I know that deeply it would upset her. Even though she may never do it I know it is still on her mind and that would bother me as well. Do I have to have another girl with us? No, we are completely satisfied as it is, we just suggested it to try something different. But like you said Cerebral Overload and Webdad, she is too afraid of me enjoying another girl like I my plan is really to "have" another girl. Honestly my intentions is to enjoy my wife "WITH" another girl, not enjoy the other way around.

But like I said before, she keeps bringing up that my penis would be in her. If we would go with it, she would not want me touching the girl. So how is that me joining in. So basically the girl and I do stuff to my wife or my wife does stuff to her while I sit back.