I've been dating this girl for about 6 months now, and we haven't really done a whole lot sexually. We've had sex on a few occasions, but we rarely do anything otherwise. Is there something holding her back from getting more intimate with me? We live quite a ways away from one another, so we get to see each other every other weekend or so. What's your take on things?

Thanks for the advice.

 

Why are you asking us? You should be asking her.

 

How old is she? How old are you? How many sexual partners has she had?

My guess is that she's simply never had the opportunity to learn what she's capable of, and hasn't gotten over her fear and/or self-consciousness.

Or maybe she's just not that into you.

 

In a new sexual relationship if I was seeing him only every other weekend, we would be having lots of sex!!!!! Unless I had someone else satisfying my needs!!!!
You need to talk to her!!!

 

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sounds to me like she is afraid of getting to close ....maybe a sour past relationship left her bitter... i know the feeling

 

Could make guesses all day but you really should talk to her about it. It could be that the distance is holding her back, she doesn't know if it could be serious, therefore taking it slower than normal. It could be that she's just not a sexual person. Maybe she's seeing other people closer to home. Maybe you aren't making her feel wanted. Only she knows!

 

It sounds like she isn't very experienced. Try new things with her and then gently get her to reciprocate.

 

If you're lucky, she might just be inexperienced. If not, she probably has another guy satisfying her, so that she doesn't really crave for your loving.
:mrgreen:

 

Wait.. take it easy

 

Maybe she has a theory in her head that she shouldn't have sex every time you're together, or it cheapens the relationship? Regardless, this is a question you should be asking her. Also, her libido might be low due to any number of reasons: stress, meds, etc etc.

 

Maybe she has some doubts because you live far away; she can't get so close to you and know you extremely well if you're far away. If you believe everything is fine within the relationship.. then just ask. It's the best thing and communication is powerful. Don't say "WHY THE FUCK AREN'T YOU FUCKING ME?!" say it more like ," I feel like we're not being very intimate and I wanted to know what was wrong..?" Make it so that it's not HER fault and so that she knows she can tell you anything. If you talk about it you just might get some ass

 

My girl has low libido due to Hashimoto's (look it up) which we combat with Gin or Champagne. It still doesn't stop her putting a skirt on for her twice yearly consultation with the endocrinologist when she can discuss her lack of libido with someone other than me.

Variety....

Thinskin

 

Why would she need to wear a skirt to see an endocrinologist?

 

Maybe her libido is perfectly OK when she visits the doctor. Is that what you mean?

Thinskin

 

Ouch, sorry to hear that, man.

 

lol