I have kissed about five girls, but never had sex with one. I often fantasize about having sex with one or more females and am wondering if I should act on these impulses. I have been with a man for seven years, am very satisfied sexually, but these thoughts constantly run through my head. Am I bisexual? What should I do?

 

-sigh- If you don't fucking dive...

 

a) I say you're curious at tops right now seeing how you've done nothing more than kiss another girl. If you ask me you're bisexual if you've had sex with someone of the same gender, and liked it enough to at least want to try it more, but still date people of the opposite gender.

And b) You should do what you want. Not what we tell you. If you have the urge or desire to try it, then go ahead and have fun with it. But, if you're still with your guy, I wouldn't do it now. That's just cheating. If you're single, or your guy is fine with it (don't see why he wouldn't be) then again, it's up to you. I personally say go for it since you only live once. Not to mention, chances are you'll regret not trying it at least once later in your life when such activities may be harder to come by...

 

From the story that u tell to us, i think(just my opinion okay) u are a bisexual. Coz from what i know if men already do sex with another man is called homosex. But if u ever had sex with man but u still want to have a girlfriend, (dunno u want to had sex with her or not) it can be called bisexual.

 

maybe bi-curious?

 

As I have said many times here, I don't think there's any such a thing as "bi-curious". We use that term to describe a bisexual person who hasn't yet taken the plunge.

I would say you're bisexual, but sweetie, you're never at the meetings! Explore what you feel, and see if you like it. There's no need to label yourself prematurely.

 

i agree with you sexy

 

well if you have feelings for both sexes, then yes, you probably are, although its possible its just "a phase" (I hate that term).
you can be gay/bisexual even if you have not acted on your feelings, sexuality is not about who you sleep with, its about who you want to sleep with.

 

Sounds like me and i consider myself bi curious

 

No need to label yourself. Just do what feels natural. Do exactly as you want to do.

EDIT: Just as long as nobody gets intentionally hurt, though.

 

Bisexual is just a word, and like a lot of words, can't truly capture the the nuances and subtleties of what it's trying to describe. In particular, it implies a 50/50 split, but there is a whole range between 100% heterosexual and 100% homosexual.

You're somewhere between completely straight and right down the middle; that's all I can say for sure. At what point does "mostly heterosexual" turn into "bisexual"? Can a person be 99% straight and still be considered bi? Is there a certain threshold, like 25%? 49%?

The answer has less to do with your sexuality and more to do with semantics.

Just because you fantasize about sex with women doesn't mean you're obligated to have sex with women just as much as men. If you just want to keep it in your fantasies, there's nothing wrong with that. After all, if I acted on all of my sexual fantasies, I'd be in prison right now.

 

Nobody on here is going to be able to give you a definite answer because only you can come to terms with your own true feelings and sexuality. We can just give you our opinions which are, obviously, all different.

My opinion is that, no, you aren't bisexual. To me sexuality is a lot more than just getting turned on by somebody. It's a deep emotional chemistry between two people. You said you have a long-term boyfriend. Think about the feelings you have about him, and then replace those with a woman. Could you see yourself dating another woman? Could you see yourself holding hands with another woman and kissing in public? Could you see yourself marrying another woman? If not, then you're probably just a straight woman with raging hormones who is turned on by the taboo that is homosexuality.

But that is just my opinion

 

try going down on a girl and see how that goes

if your instincts turn out to be right then your man is one lucky sob

 

I am kind of in the same situation these days.. Maybe we should talk sometime?

 

Wouldn't count you as Bi sexual till you've done some licking!!!!

 

Your an idiot... you probably are but who cares, there's nothing wrong with it. If you really have problems with it then go talk to someone who can help sort this kind of stuff out for you otherwise it just comes with time.