agree'd

 

ok I'm sorry but why the hell would she have pictures of her ex? I friggin ripped mine apart when we broke up. especially if you had to delete yours but she gets to keep hers? either she has no common sense in her pretty lil head or she still likes him too much to let go of his pictures.

 

Why does she need pics of her ex?

 

have u any pix of your x on your phone

 

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yeah right! theyre an ex for a reason. if you arent with someone its usually because you arent right for each other. why would you want to hold onto that? and besides, shes with you now dude. why does she need to have pics of other guys on her phone, she has you.

 

I once had a gf like that. She just wanted to have it her way even to the point of seeing the other guy. However, she didn't want me to see others or even to talk to them.

Like I said, I *had* a gf like that. :wink:

 

And all others who said 'why should she have them': The general rule I apply to my girlfriend's ex's is, would they treat a friend this way? With, ofc, some leeway. Now, not only do couple's actually manage to part on good terms sometimes, but even if they don't, that person is still going to be important to the other. It's akin to requiring your partner to have never been with someone else, or to hate all their ex's. It's totally unreasonable. Although you probably WILL feel slightly jealous of some things that might happen, it doesn't mean they're wrong. Why does she need them? Because they're treasured memories of someone still important to her. You shouldn't expect anything different, and to take that away seems cruel to me. I would never ask someone to do that, and I certainly wouldn't do it if anyone asked me to.

Can't speak for Piggit, but I would, and I wouldn't think anything bad if they refused to delete them, not that I would've asked in the first place

I agreed with what you actually said, but on an online forum it's really never going to help your case if you state your absolute correctness on anything other than questions of fact.


So, to answer original question: I don't think she should've asked that of you, neither do I think you should of her.
Exceptions could be if they were naughty photos, very personal one's (them two in an intimate kiss or something), or if she's spending loads of time staring distantly at them.
I assume, however, none of them are the case

 

are they nude?

 

So, you don't think it's right to ask - except that you think it's OK when the photos don't meet your own standards of what is right or wrong for her to have or how she is using them?

I don't think this is any of our business, and this illustrates exactly my point why. It's between them; If they can agree, excellent. If not, they need to re-think having a relationship at all.

No one here can do anything but give you their own opinion, which will be different than every one else's - including yours and your girlfriend's.

 

I think if someone has pressured me into deleting photos of an ex-girlfriend, then refuses to do the same thing as a "wiping the slate clean" sort of thing, then that's clearly unfair.

Then again, I wouldn't have allowed anyone to pressure me into deleting my photos in the first place. Discuss and mutually agree to do, yes. But "do as I say, not as I do", not so much.

Has she given any reason why she refuses to delete them? It does seem odd as to her expecting you to delete yours, yet expecting you to be perfectly okay with her keeping hers!

Bye for now - Fluffy McNoo.

 

well,well ,well...that's a deep subject...if the pics of the ex is on the phone then hanky panky is around ,do you have pics of you ex around? send her packing and get a better lady.

 

if this is true dump her immediately, she has issues

 

Asking someone to dispose of their past memories is completely wrong regardless of what the reason is that they are no longer together. However, having the pics on her phone, is practically the same as having them hung on her bedroom wall in this new age of technology. She should definitely keep them, by transferring them to her computer, which would be like keeping them in that shoebox stashed in the back of her closet. If she needs to keep them on her phone, where she can very easily get to them, I'd say she is not over the other guy. If she can't "stash them away" out of respect for your feelings towards it, then I'd say leave her, cuz it'll only get worse. Then if it is true that she asked you to delete yours, but then she backed out of doing the same, then I'd definitely get rid of her, cuz again, things will only get worse and worse as you get closer and more sucked in. If I was you, I'd go out and meet some girls and take pics of them, and keep them in your phone, and save them on your computer, hell, even print them out and hang them on my walls until she got the point and agreed to at least remove the pics from her phone. Sure, it may be childish, but it'll get the point across. She will either just do it cuz you asked, and she already promised she would, or she will call you an immature little asshole, slap you across the face and leave, and you'll never see her again. But if she is going to act like that then you don't need her in your life anyway. Hope everything works out for ya, I've had too many girls like that.

 

humm I don’t get it I mean sure past memories and stuff but if those memories were so good then why did she call it off with her EX cant have all been good times

I rarely keep picks of my ex girls

and if I was asked to clear photos and did but then when I asked them to thay refused id be pissed too

 

Honestly? I would really be cool with that. I'm neither jealous nor insecure. If I asked you to get rid of them, I would have to find a mirror, look right into my eyes, and scold myself for being a control freak.

I see that there are some very differing opinions here. It makes for a good discussion. I hope you're finding it helpful.

 

Tell her you are going to post the pictures of her fucking her ex on the forum, you know she has some.