this has most likely been asked, but here I go. So The other day, I was hanging out with my best mate, we have been best mates since high school. Anyway he's going away for awhile and he told me he had something important to tell me. He said that he always had a crush on me and that he wished things could have happened between us. Now I was a little taken back at this, this is a guy that has been there when horrible things have happened to me. I don't remember any hints that he has had this for crush/ fantasy to blow me etc. So I freaked out and left, i'm now feeling bad that maybe I should have talked to him about this. What would you do? I'm not gay, but is it wrong that i kind of thought afterwords what could have happened?

 

Its only wrong if YOU think its wrong.. quit putting a label on sex.. GAY..so what..if dudes like each other and want to beat each other off.. or get a blow job from a dude... if you call it gay.. then its on you.. do what your heart and mind tell you..It has happened to me.. and I have a great friend who I get togeather with from time to time.. Getting off with a guy is great,, so is getting off with a girl.. out come (pardon the pun) is the same.. SEX IS SEX... I dont bash myself or others based or "morality".. so dont bash yourself... DEEP DOWN inside you know the answer.. so just do it.. you may or may not be sorry.. only you will know.

 

Well it sounds like you did exactly the last thing he probably wanted!!!!
He took a huge step telling you that and you just freaked out!!!
You could of very simply said, "I like you, but not that way." and been nice about it, instead of freaking out!!! He's still the same friend he has always been.

 

What a simplistic way of putting it...

What's done is done but you should call him and explain how you feel. I'm guessing you're young so don't be too hard on yourself. Maybe you can meet up at some point and see what transpires...

 

Ya he probably feels like a dumbass now. He might be scared youll laugh or spread it around

 

i've actually worried about this before although thankfullly its never happened........i understand your reaction because i probably would do the same thing simply outta shock...if i were you though and still wanted to be friends i would try to call him and explain why u reacted the way you did....and if you dont wanna continue a friendly relationship i would still contact him and let him know why just to kinda give yourself and him some peace on the situation......

 

In a calm and controlled manner, tell him that you're not interested. Be firm and serious. After that conversation is over, never bring it up again.

Buy him a bear, take him to a strip club, get him a lap dance and resume your life as if it never happened.

If the incident left a psychological scar (as in "*shriek* OMG, this guy has a crush on me" and you'll never get over it), then I suggest you seek advice from someone who knows you very well and would never spread the news out.

 

I can understand your reaction , I think most guys would react in a similar manner. I would get together or call him and tell him your were caught off guard and had no idea that he was gay/bi and apologize for your reaction. Good friends are hard to find and it sounds like you have been friends for a while. Clear it up and be kind about it.

 

yeah its gay

 

First off, wrong has got nothing to do with it. Sex is only wrong when it's forced or coerced. You might want to talk to him and simply explain that it's not something you ever thought about, and didn't know how to respond when he brought it up.

 

If I thought he was attractive, and there were no other reasons not to, I'd give it a shot. If I didn't think he was attractive, I'd do my best to let him down easily. And the same would be true if the friend were a girl as well.