Well for me it depends, I mean people can do what they want to and can change later so if I honestly thought she changed, I might consider staying with the woman based on that, but in reality I would make sure that I don't get played and also I probably wouldn't allow myself to open up as fast as I normally would, but I wouldn't shut her down completely because of her past. The thing I have come to realize is that when a man has a lot of women he's a pimp, but a woman is a slut so I am cool with a woman having fun, it just makes me look better afterwords

 

OK, how about this one. I know a girl who had a baby at 15, she is currently 16. She has had a few partners, one of which was a 29 year old guy(when she was 15, and he works at her school). She is currently not with the father and has no plans to be. Is this slutty? What do you guys see her life turning out to be like as far as school, work, husband?

 

to answer the original question....i've got a thing for good girls so a girl that sleeps around a lot dont really fall under that category in my opinion....so yes it matters to me a little if they've been around a lot....but on the same note if i had a connection with a girl and liked her a lot, then found out she's kinda slutty, i dont think it would change anything.....i could def. look past it for the right girl.....

 

It sounds to me like you are insecure and judgemental. Being cheated on sucks and I would agree that a male or female who sleeps around while they are in a committed relationship (that's not an open one) are uncaring whores. However, calling a girl a slut just because she slept with more than 10 guys who she didn't see as "serious partners" is a bunch of crap.

It all comes from the outdated view that women are men's property and that a woman who has had many partners is damaged goods. I think the real problem with men who can't deal with a woman who in her past has had many men, is that they are afraid that somewhere in her past was a man who had amazing skills in the bedroom. You guys worry that she is judging your skills in relation to some super stud. Most likely she's not. Are you the best lover she's ever had? Probably no. Does that matter to her? Again, probably no.

I slept with quite a few guys in my youth, yet I never thought of myself as a slut. The Man I'm with now has also slept with more than a few women, strippers even, yet I don't feel one bit insecure about it. He's with me now, he loves me now, and he has all the skill that experience brings.

 

Im with onenauhgtygirl on this."good girls" dont realy exist anyway.Its a myth...just like the Loch Ness monster or Michael Jackson.If you had any idea what those "good girls" fantasize about when they mastrubate you would have a whole new perspective on the whole subject.It sounds more like you are a victem of your own insecuritys about your sexual prowess and ability to please a woman in bed and are fearful of being compared to her ex-lovers and not making the grade.If you do your part and pay attention to her wants and needs theres realy very little you need to worry about regardless of how many men she has been with.If she is what would be deemed a "slut" she will be banging the mailman, the milk man and the paperboy while you are at work regardless of weather or not you are the best she has ever had.Work of your oral skills and learn how to touch a woman and dont worry about it.

 

LOL i just wanted other peoples views, not to talk about me, god!

 

Who she has been with before, and how many is irrelevent. She's mine now.

 

I love sex & giving head. I've had 2 bf and a gf simultaneously (YES THEY ALL KNEW OF EACHOTHER) so maybe I am a slut. I dropped my gf, I'm now married and my 2nd bf is still a very close friend that encourages me to do things while I'm still young, with him and otherwise. So— yeah, I was a slut and I can still be convinced to talk dirty, but I'm with my husband now, just as I was before; should it matter that I had all that sex? With *super snobby voice* oh my god! 3 people!!! *end voice* I don't think so. And if it does… well he should have voiced his concerns beforehand or during but he didn't so I kept on keepin' on.

 

Hmmm... this sounds HOT - You Sound VERY HOT.... Any pics to supports these said events?:excited:

 

as long as she was slutty towards me and didnt cheat id be fine with it

 

Most of the women I dated were sluts and I liked it that way. There are several reasons why I've preferred it that way.

First of all, as a teenager it was convenient to have a girl that didn't care about sleeping around since I was always one to cheat myself. So we never had to have any awkward conversations about "open relationships" or any of that shit, we just did whatever we wanted.

Then there is the fact that sluts almost always know what they are doing in bed. They know how to suck dick, they know how to fuck.

Also you can relax with a slut in bed. If a bitch has seen it all and done it all, you don't have to worry about performance, your dick, your fucking pillow talk game, any of that. You know there has been another guy with a bigger dick, another guy with a smaller dick. A better lay, a worse lay. You can just lay back and chill.

Plus they don't mind if things are a little nasty. She might put out even if she's on the rag. She might put out even if you are a garbage man for a living and haven't showered. You fart in bed during sex, it doesn't ruin the moment. Great!

Another reason sluts are amazing is because they put out before the first date. No courtship, no cheesy lines... You just look at her and see the slut look in her eyes and you know she wants you and you just give it to her.

And that reminds me, when you date a slut you know why she's dating you: Your dick. She's not dating you for money, or to smoke your weed, or whatever "normal" chicks go for. She dates because she wants to get laid.

My main attraction though is their love of penises. When a girl is getting off on what I'm giving to her, that just turns me on all the more. I like a girl that loves sex and doesn't care about screaming too loud or squirting all over the sheets, and has a dripping wet vag after she has been sucking dick for the last 15 minutes.

Sluts are hot, dude.

 

I think "good girls" do exist....i'm not saying a perfect girl who's never had sex and does no wrong...we all have flaws.....when i say good girl i just mean one that doesn't cheat, sleep around constantly, and run around dropping the F-bomb constantly...basically i just want a girl to appear to be a lady......then u say if i only knew what those good girls fantasize about??? who cares what they fantasize about its what they actually do that matters.... example: she can think about fucking 20 guys at a time----that doesn't make her a whore.....just the same as i've pictured myself shooting the idiot that cut me off in traffic---doesn't make me a murderer....just my opinion on the matter......

 

IMO "good girls" are very hard to find. and i must say that a woman who likes to curse on the norm is a huge turn off.

 

i agree....can be hard to find....i just dont believe they are non-existant or a myth such as the lochness monster which was mentioned above.........

 

My wife has had many "one night stands". Not only do I not mind, I like to watch and join in if possible or at least hear all of the details when she comes home. I know she loves me, because she always come back. The sex afterward is great. She always says that the sex after she fucks another guy is the best.

 

I kinda see this a different situation. You are ok with her being like this and more power to you if it gets you off. When i asked about peoples views I was shooting more toward the "standard" couple where a man and woman are loyal to each other. And what people thing about being in this type of relationship with a woman who has been around.

 

1 of my freinds, out of the blue, came up with a weird question, on the night of your marriage your wife comes up and tells you that she has had affairs before would you accept her or not, persoanaly the ans was that let the past be the past its the future now. simply my answer is that if she loves you she wont cheat on you same way you shouldnt cheat on her, its not like you tripped and suddenly found your dick inside another woman you planned it or didnt stop it
1 night stands do happen but the after math is what aches

 

Agreed

 

If youre as sexually active as she is...it's ok. If you're not, you'll view her as a slut.

Plain and simple.

 

"Statisticly, the average woman by age 26 has had more sexual partners than the average man will have in his lifetime"

So wouldnt every man see every woman as a slut?