hi everyone, it's my first thread here... i just wanna ask for advice. you see my cousin and i (not first degree cousin, he's like third degree cousin already) saw each other after several years last year in our farm. he grew up from the lanky clumsy kid into a filled up body and really pretty handsome.

he's the youngest and only boy in a string of girls and our generation is the same batch. last year he was my guide in the farm. but somehow there was this electricity around us. then he started to kiss me when my aunts and older cousins were asleep. but suddenly his eldest sister got out of the room to go to the bathroom while we were at the dining room. so we kept quiet until she went back to the room. things became awkward and i had to leave early back to the city. i never had the chance to get back there.

now he saw me at a social site and wanted to meet up with me. he was saying we needed to finish what we started because it has been a year that he wanted me so much.

i wanted to but... well, he's my cousin...

help.:twisted:

 

given the chance I've got a few I'd love to bang, just make sure you'll be able to look each other in the eye after. Other wise it could be kinda bad at family functions

 

Well, from the sounds of what you have written here, it seems like he is trying to take advantage of you.

Perhaps its just the way you've written your post... but you didn't say anything about the build up to the kiss, how you enjoyed it bla bla... and (maybe falsely) that says to me that your not really that into it.

The pure fact you have doubts shows that your not entirely comfortable with it anyway. And if things were awkward between you after only one kiss... then what's it going to be like after you have had sex? If he becomes as distant and awkward after you had sex, how are you going to feel? What if you dont hear from him in anothers year's time then he gets in touch wanting sex again?

....personally, it seems like he isnt, and isnt planning on, treating you too well... incest is a pretty big deal... not my cup of tea, but I know that if someone in my family was trying to seduce me and change my mind about it, then they sure as hell had better make more of an effort than your cousin is doing with you.

You deserve more.

 

Luminate seems to be on the right track.

This reeks of a train wreck. The secret to surviving train wrecks? Don't get on the train.

Don't do it. Plenty of other suitable males out there.

 

you never know my parents are 2nd cousins. if it is just a hook up and your ok with it it is what it is. if you are feelin wierd about it don't do it simple as that.

 

Spread those luscious legs of yours, and accept his hard man-meat deep inside of you!

 

Personally, I would never sleep with any of my cousins, cus they all have big mouths and would blab to the rest of the family, who would then expel me from any family functions, and I would really hate that.
Now, if you don't have the kind of situation I have then, go for it, if you are not married.

 

The only help anyone can give you is to say try to be certain of the consequences before you succumb to his charms. Being a cousin adds some added problems, but if you both feel it will work AND that if it doesn't, you won't feel totally uncomfortable when you meet again then being cousins isn't that rare. Many royalty have spouses which are cousins, even FDR and Eleanor.

Not condoning or condemning just suggesting to be careful and be aware!

 

To be honest, it depends on how you feel...

But SemiLunate is normally right.

Just the pharse 'we need to finish what we started' don't sound like it will end well.

I think he means 'finish' in every sense of the word, it will then become awkward for you two and things will never be the same again.

If he had said 'Lets meet up and see what happens' thats slightly better and there may not be any hurt involved.

 

Go for it

He wants you,,, and you said he caught your eye,,, and he's hot lookin !! Hey you 2 should meet and let things happen !! I know if I had a hot lookin female cousin,, that wanted to hookup,,,, it would happen !!

 

I hope you keep future regrets in mind

 

Sounds like you are just another notch on his belt. There are too many handsome young men out there, why give yourself to someone that really doesn't care about you other than to "finish what you started". How icky will it be in the future at family functions? It's not worth it!

 

Actually if sleeping with a cousin gets you expelled from family functions I need to find one.

Damn my disfunctional ass family functions. I love my family, one member at a time. When they congregate it becomes Jerry Springer, with no bouncers or good looking women.

 

If you can't make a decision by yourself I feel bad for you.

 

Her third cousin is like saying her dad or mom's sibling's spouse's kid. Not a blood relation. It may be weird if your family is the stuck up and close minded type, they wouldn't like that you kissed him either, let alone had intercourse.

Ask yourself if you are attracted to him, if you are using protection and whether your third cousin will boast about the little tryst. Now first cousins are a whole 'nother thing altogether

 

No matter what precautions you take or prevent you can never tell what gonna happen you can only guess, so my thought is go with what you want. You can listen to others but make your own decisions based on your feelings. Nobody knows hims but you just don't hesitate cause the more you do the more thought and ?'s linger in your head. Always remember you can't regret what you don't and once you've done something move on there is not time to regret.... Good luck to you nytbabe33