I have been with my girlfriend for the last 2 years, and everything has been perfect so far except for one thing. Over the last few months her sex drive has steadily declined to now which we rarely have sex. She has been on the pill and I think that could have something to do with it.

Please can people give me some tips on what I can do, and seriously we are very happy together! I could see other people but I really want to make this work. Honest help only please, Regards, newbie

 

Talk to her, be honest.

 

Not enough information. But the trouble could be many things. The worst could be that she is fucking around on you.

The first thing you should do would be to set her down and have a nice long peaceful chat about this problem.

 

I'm having the same problem with me and my GF of a year and a half. She always either makes up excuses or hits me with the "Relationships aren't all about sex" line.

I know that they aren't, but any healthy loving relationship should have some intimacy. I feel like a total douchebag after she drops that bomb, because I don't want her to think that I love her just for the sex.

She isn't nearly as comfortable talking openly about sexuality as I am, so the long-talk thing never goes well.

 

ah i hate that my gf pulls that on me sometimes too

one thing it could also be is she studying a lot or stressed out? my gf is a premed major so during busy parts of the semester and the time when she was studying for mcats we were down to hooking up like once a month if that

 

Did you propose to her? Did you fucking talk about getting married? Anything that would indicate a timeframe of getting married?

If not, then there is your answer, propose and you will see how fast her sex drive will change. Bitches be playing games all the time.

 

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Probably a hormonal thing and yes BC pills can screw that up!!!

 

I had a similar problem once only it was me that wasn't interested. Sometimes you just don't have much interest in sex. When I first started my part time job I wasn't doing anything, jerking off, sleeping with my fuck buddy or anything like that. I was just genuinely too tired and stressed at the Job and Exams, recently I've been feeling the same with my exams looming over me stress has reduced my urges.

It could very easily be stress and its just manifesting as a lower sex drive. It could also be that she is having problems at home if she isn't living with you. I know that as men sex is on our minds a lot but remember that women aren't always like that. It is highly possible in my humble experience that their emotions are more in tune to their sex drive.

 

What you're feeling is normal. The truth is people fall in this fagget shit call "Love" at first site, when it's really pure love. The passion sparks the false love that gets you married. Now the sex is down but...DO YOU still love her? now the love shows and this lust dies down. It's the typical american relationship and the prime reasons for divorces and affiars. Yup. Just love her and ask her to sex you up up as often. But yea love is now showing.

 

Lol. True.

 

FIND A NEW PIECE OF TAIL.

 

it might be how youre going about it. try to make sure that youre being romantic (kissing, rubbing, etc.) instead of just asking if shes horny. or try taking her out to dinner or something. i live with two girls and they always talk about how they hate it when guys just ask if they want to fuck.

also i would have to agree with the person that said it might have to do with whether youre engaged or not. i think a lot of girls are in it for the long term and want to make sure theyre not just going to get knocked up and then left on their own.

also maybe she wants to have kids and the birth control is making her depressed. have you talked about having kids in the future?

i would definitely say that communication is key. but dont put too much pressure on her or it will just make it worse.

 

Dump her. Find a new one. Too much hassle to fix.

 

Ask Major Comet what he would do. He seems to have a fantastic grasp on solving relationship problems.

 

Thanks for the replies people, really appreciate them. In answer to a few peoples questions we are both 20 and I would never consider getting married or children for at least 5-10 years!! And I do share so much with this girl, and she means the world to me so I would rather get something to work.

I may sound a little deluded about this, but we have been friends for years before we got together. And we still have a great time together, just something might have changed with her. Next time I am seeing her she is coming over for a meal, some wine, etc so if that doesn't solve it, it is looking bleak!! btw she does have exams on at the moment and is very stressed so that is also contributing to it I suppose.

thanks again, newbie

 

As for the reason why she's doing this, she's probably cheating.

But that aside, if you aren't getting any pussy for whatever the reason then it's obviously not the perfect relationship. You need to be upfront with her and tell her that she needs to start giving it up or she's going to get dumped because if you want to hang out with somebody you won't have sex with you can go fishing with your buddies any time you want.

 

Do you happen to know what birth control she is taking?