Me and my girlfriend want to try anal sex as she thinks it will be really hot and I agree but whats the best way to get started so i dont hurt her??? Or maybe start off by occasionally fingering her arse hole when we have sex to start with???

Much help apprechiated

Ben

 

Go slow and use lots of lube. It shouldn't be painful at all.

Good luck!

 

Ok, what do you think of the fingering idea??

Ben

 

Try using a butt plug with lots of K-Y, try using" K-Y for her". She may like it.But make sure there is alot of foreplay. She will have to be super horny,and she will love it. Some women have intense orgasms anally.Make sure she plays with her clit,while your inside of her. I've been there done that, good luck.

 

It can be really hot, Ben, so go for it, but (as has already been said) use lots of lube, and get her really relaxed.
Working up to it over a period of time is good too, you're exactly right, start off with fingers, then maybe a small vibe/dildo a few nights later, then go for it all the way a few nights after that.

Apart from lots of lube, I found that a few drinks helped me as well, but the most important thing is not to force her, if she doesn't want to that particular night, then wait for another night when she does.
It sounds like she's enthusiastic about trying it (enlightened girl) and you're very clever and understanding about it (enlightened boy).

Good luck to you both, enjoy it!

 

Stretch her out using smaller (less than an inch around) toys and lube. Buy a bunch of trial sized lubes to test how each works. When your girlfriend has become used to the smaller sizes buy slightly larger ones until you have reached ones about the size of your cock. Work at her pace and not your own.

Fingering works if you don't have sausage fingers, and I'd recommend using a glove or something to protect your hands, but fingering does work

 

Go slow and be pacient and im sure you both will enjoy.

 

It's my understanding that if you get her to orgasm first, it will help relax her - and plenty of lube.

 

extra lube?

i wouldn't know as i can't convince my girl to do it with me

 

Tie her down first! Then you won't have to hurt her when she starts kicking! :lol:

 

What works for me is if im really horny and relaxed somewhat. Foreplay works wonders. She really has to want to do it for it to work. Also use lots of lube like everyone else has said. Might want to start out with a finger or two or small toys to get her stretched a little.

 

Just don't bite your finger nials!

 

As others have written lots of lube is a must. The other component in making anal a good expereince especially the first time is for both people to be as comfortable and relaxed as possible. If that is foreplay to both are very worked up or foreplay directed in the anal area like inserting finger as a build up or going slowly putting effort in regular sex play like finger or two in the ass for later anal sex. Making someone comfortable and relaxed can also not be all sexual. Like doing it in your favorite place and have plenty of time so there is no hint of a rush amongst other things.

The fact that both of you are in the same place which is enthusiastic about trying it is a wonderful head start for having a blast.

 

Depending on how wet she gets you could try fucking her pussy and then going straight to her ass. I always enjoy that.

 

lol soooo funny.....but the pain makes it so much more fun......

 

Ok, you can try fingering first

 

Instead of fingers, try a small smooth viberator with lots of lube.