So I have been with men since I first started having sex, and don't get me wrong, I love dick. The problem is is that about a year ago I made out with a girl for the first time, ended up getting drunk and went down on her for about 20 seconds before I actually passed out. Ever since then, it's been an amazing fantasy to be with a girl. I have no clue on how this would ever work because I'm extremely shy and unless I'm super comfortable, I don't want to expose myself in that sort of way. Any advice from anyone, male or female? Whenever I look at porn, I always look at FFM or just lesbian sex. It's just driving me up the wall.

 

I think you should explore this feelings. But don't just pick a random girl. Do it with someone you can trust.

 

Honestly? Do it, but do it sober. You will really experience what is happening and can make a better decision if it something you enjoy.

I bet you will.

 

Before the days of the internet, lady lovers met other women the old fashioned way: subtle flirting and knowing the right questions to ask. Female sexuality tends to be much more fluid, and an open-minded woman is more likely to be honest if asked about sexual experimentation or same-sex experience. I had dinner with some new friends last night and one woman told us that she'd never been with another woman but had thought about it in the past.

Also, rely on your friends. Be honest with them about what you're feeling. In today's age of more homosexual acceptance, your friends may know people who have similar proclivities they can hook you up with!

 

sounds to me more like one of those things you fantasize about but never do.

 

Forget it if you don't have the courage, no one is going to do it for you!!!

Oh wait, I have an idea, Woman's Prison!
Just do something to get sent there and I'm sure you'll get a taste of pussy during your stay!!!:excited:

 

Ditto - I agree. Yes you want the first time (undrunk) to be a good one. TRUST is a Big one here!

 

no worry. i think most women lust other women. we where bread to be loving and caring;
have a few drinks and start flirting if they don't flirt back , than well... i'm betting they will. explore your fantacy it's worth it

 

Here's an idea msdivine. You say you're too shy to make this happen, but I'm guessing your not too shy to get a guy? You say you fantasize mainly about FFM?

Get a guy first, and then ask him to make a threesome happen. Guy's are generally more confident with other girls when they're in a relationship or they have a girl. If he has you, and you want a threesome, he will make it happen.

You might regret never exploring your fantasy while you're young. There's no reason not to try and make it happen, but at the same time, there's no reason to feel too upset if it doesn't. If it's driving you "crazy" I would explore it.

 

Try going out to gay bars and start by having a conversation with gay women. Experiment with a friend. Take a friend with you if you're shy.

Getting outside your comfort zone a little will help with overall confidence, and remember that at any time you can say "stop" and walk away from a situation. Don't let the fact it's "new" make you feel like you're in over your head.

You're certainly not alone, or unusual. Good luck.

 

I've been with girls, its different. I liked it but I am mostly straight and haven't done anything same sex in years.

It can be really special and amazing. It depends on the chemistry between you. never do it to turn on a guy, there has to be a connection there. I think the problem for me is that I am like 90% straight or more so its hard for me to find a woman I get the connection with.

Its happened a few times, always surprising in the past. I think I'm done with that now, b/c my fiance and I are monogamous and we do not want other people:excited: