Okay, here is my situation. I'm a 20-year-old college student in my last semester at community college and I'm getting ready to transfer to a university in January. This semester, I met a really nice girl...she is intelligent, has a good sense of humor, and she is a big sports fan like me. More importantly, she seems to be really interested in me and I seem to really make her laugh. I see her in school on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays, and I enjoy seeing her and being in her company. But a weird thing happens shortly after whenever I leave her. I start to feel nervous, edgy, and depressed. Even if we had a good day, I start to replay it all over and over in my head, and then I start pining for the next day I see her. I love it when she likes or comments on one of my Facebook statuses, but then start to get that odd feeling again within minutes. I guess not surprisingly, in the last couple weeks my appetite and sex drive have also slightly declined. I know a lot of people might say you can't fall for a girl by just seeing her in school a couple hours a week, but I think I have genuine feelings for her. I check my Facebook every 10 minutes, I dream about her, and actually find myself wishing weekends away to see her again (I didn't enjoy my Thanksgiving break at all, lol). I have come to the conclusion that I will ask her out at the end of the semester, but I am kind of nervous about that too...not so much that she will reject me, but that nothing will ever be arranged. But I guess my question is, is this normal? I always thought of a new girl in my life as a happy, exciting thing but I am literally feeling more anxiety and sadness than excitement. The ironic and frustrating thing about this is that in the beginning of the semester I was having so much fun talking to her and being in her company, but now when I see her I get consumed with trying to make every minute count and keep thinking how soon it will be all over (I will only see her five or six more school days). I have a feeling too that she might be detecting that I've been acting/feeling a little different even though I always try to stay upbeat and funny around her. This is one of the best things that's ever happened to me and I don't want to squander this. Does anyone know why I am feeling this way and now I can snap out of it?

 

Make your move and quit stressing.

 

You're in love, or what passes for it in young guys. Stop obsessing (if you can) and just ask her out, see where things go.

 

So....you like her, eh?

Take the plunge and ask her to go have a cup of coffee with you in the cafeteria. If you don't, you'll always wonder if you should have.

 

This happened to me a lot in h/s all I can say is go for it and ask her out cause if u don't make ur move as fast as u can someone else will and u will regret that u miss out of what could have been... I didn't have the guts to but I hope I helped u out...

 

as everyone else allready said youre in love. from what i read youre allready great friends so just ask her out to a movie or for a cup of coffee.
its no big deal really just take a deep breath and say "hey want to go and come drink a cup of coffee after school?" or something like that.
just do it and ull feelgreatly relieved. beleve me^^
good luck mate

 

Thanks

Okay, I posted a question yesterday that some of you have read and commented on, about how I liked a girl and I think she likes me but I am still feeling very insecure. A little more background on it is that I am in this class and sit next to the girl I like and she talks to this other girl who sits in front of us. The other girl talks to me too, but she is kind of sassy and sharp tongued. Now tonight these two girls were talking on their Facebook walls about me and I don't know if it's favorable or not. The interaction went like this:

Other Girl --> Girl I like: I spent 4 minutes on (my name)'s facebook and I had to exit it because I was laughing so hard it hurt. Something needs to be done with this miraculous meatball of a man, maybe youtube. (She started calling me meatball since I said we ate pasta on Thanksgiving, long story)

Girl I like --> Other Girl: hahahahahahaha i laughed out loud when i read that and i needed it..DEFINITELY youtube ... "the life of (my full name): pasta, sports, slicked back hair, and briefcases" (not a stretch, since i slick back my hair and carry a briefcase, lol)

Then I commented on that post "You forgot beer and chewing tobacco." The girl I like then "liked" my comment.

I know I must seem like a neurotic mess, but I need somebody's opinion whether they were talking about me favorably or laughing at me. Keep in mind that the other girl is always sassy, she has no filter, and she talks like that to and about everyone. But I need to know whether the girl I like is making fun of me or maybe saying that stuff cause she likes me and I don't want to approach her about it b/c I don't want to seem any more insecure.

Again, thanks for all your comments and opinions. (But please just don't post to say quit tobacco, lol...it was just a part of the story.)

 

Okay, that's it, I'm convinced. I'm never, ever going to get a divorce. Because I would be completely unable to function socially in the modern singles world of today.

 

Well Kimi, I don't know if that's a knock on me or the girl...but defiintely a unique response. lol

 

Holy shit dude, reality check here

#1: you're not in love. You're in the stage called infatuation, and it has clearly hit you HARD. It takes time for real love to develop.

#2: you're becoming way too obsessed with this girl. Do yourself a favor and distract yourself with something else, too much of anything is not good.

I see nothing in those girls comments that are indicating that they're insulting you. Even if they were, hoist your balls and stand up for yourself. Not that it's necessary in this case, just for future reference.

Some things need to be learned the hard way though, and I think you're on the path to that...

 

You've probably already waited too long. If she is letting her gf mock you, now if you ask her out, she's either going to say no (where she might have said yes a week ago) or have to explain to her gf why she's going out with a dweeby meatball.

More than likely at this point she will opt for the gf, leaving you out in the cold. Next time, if you like someone, don't be obnoxious about it, but move faster.

 

Fuck. Reading your long, detailed, obsessed journal of cowardice made me think I was back in 8th grade. Stop thinking, stop writing, stop talking, and fucking ask her out.

Facebook is ruining a generation. Instead of sitting close to each other, leaning in for a kiss, they're checking to see if their crush clicked the "like" button or not.

The meek will not inherit the earth if they are incapable of reproducing.

 

You gotta psyche yourself up (I think that's how it's spelled). I've felt exactly like you have many times. And the best thing to do, especially since now your in too deep and you've waited way too long, is TO ACT NOW!! The longer you postpone your chances with her, the more likely she'll be disinterested. Just believe that there's something special only you can offer her, and forget about everything else, and just conviince her that she deserves you.

 

Update...

Okay, some of you read my questions from a couple weeks ago on here about me feeling oddly depressed that I liked a girl and thought she liked me back. The general consensus on here was that I had to ask her out and see what happened, which I did yesterday since it is the end of the semester. I asked to meet her after class and she came right up to me. We chatted a little and I smiled and joked that I've never been too good at this. Then I told her I had fun this semester and said "I wanted to ask if you'd want to get together and do something sometime." She said Yeah, sure. But she also said straight out that she wasn't looking for a boyfriend or anything romantic, because she's dealing with a lot with her ex and and it's not a good time for that. But she said to hang out, absolutely, she would love to hang out. We then exchanged phone numbers, talked a little sports, and she left. I don't know if this was an opening or a rejection, and I don't know if I tilted my hand a little too far. My whole feeling up to this point was that I'd have nothing to lose by asking her out, but now I feel like I have a one-way ticket to the friend zone, and I've been stuck there too many times. What does everybody here think? Did I open something up for the future or just get let down easy?

BTW, I am seeing her in class for the last time tomorrow.

 

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Sink or swim, just jump in

 

You make falling in love sound literally painful.

But that girl was laughing AT you and not with you...I hope you realize this.

youderservesomeonewhowonthavetheirfriendslaughingatyou.

 

Dude, do us all a favor, drop your pants and see if your scrotum has anything in it. Christ if Kimi is swearing off divorce I don't have a chance.

Now, seriously....go get a soda or lunch. Don't wait for the end of the semester...well it is almost here. Next chance ask her if she wants to have lunch or whatever. No time better than now. Worst that can happen is that she can reject you and you then will eventually will move on.

Right now you have an enfatuation that sets this gal on a pedestal and gals don't like that at all. Find your balls.

If she really is willing to be friends, great, that can move to wonderful stuff. A successful relationship really demands friendship, best-friendship. Above all be yourself, not what you think she wants. Do not put her on that pedestal. Not yet.