That would only work on me if you supplied, and used, a cucumber covered in chocolate sauce....:excited::excited::laughing::laughing:

On a different note: How are you sexy angel? Just to get you jealous, it has snowed here every day for the past 2 weeks...See; you really do want to swap your sunshine for the snow... :rose::rose:

 

Cheater: See Tenguy.

 

These three combine to give the most complete answer I could give.

It really depends on the reason somebody cheats, and whether or not that person will ever grow out of it.

No.

 

At one time I might have agreed but having had that happen to me a few times it didn't really work. And no one could have been more surprised about that then I was and it was not always true. It was something I think came with maturity.

Of course those were also instances that did not include a Kimiko so I have some reservation it might work with you

PS Whoah that was one freaky trip. I started responding in the GD and came out in the sexuality section. Not that I'm complaining it was just a weird experience.

 

Yeah I don't know about this. Everyone is different obviously, but I had a really poor experience with my first wife. We were married for three years. After I caught her fucking around with our "friend" I left my house (it was in my name). After a month of her calling me apologizing and crying and begging me to come home I did. She said she didn't even know why she had done that (a dozen times) and that she didn't have any feelings for him. So like a dumbass I accepted her apology and we went on with our lives. Less than a year later a woman called me and said that my wife and her husband were having an affair. They were coworkers. I confronted her about it and she denied it utterly. I took off early the next week and followed her on her "lunch hour". Yeah, she was having lunch alright. Anyway I divorced her. Never would have believed it when we were engaged.

 

Habitual Cheaters will never change. If they've cheated on you on more than one occasion, either with several people or several instances, they will continue to cheat. I have a female friend who has cheated on every single guy or girl she's ever been with. Each time she's broken down into tears, begged for forgiveness, said she'd never do it again, and after a period of her being good (she once went a year) then she's done it again. I even tried to help her out by putting on live sex shows with another friend of ours while her current husband was away. One night her friend didn't show up and she jumped me. She's now getting divorced, thankfully there were no kids. She wanted to try a relationship with me but I told her I had no intention of being her next cuckhold.

Now I also had a male friend who cheated on his wife once he was at a party, drinking, and his wife had been out of state for a while prior to this. From what I hear the woman was pretty much throwing herself at him. And for an hour he forgot how much he loved his wife. The next day he packed his bags and flew out to tell her in person what'd happened and beg her forgiveness. They're still together and as far as I know he's never cheated on her again.

Course a cheater's ability to change also has a lot to do with the partner they cheated on. Throwing the mistake up in someone's face all the time isn't likely to make them less likely to cheat. (In other words, you make them the "bad guy" enough and they'll live down to your expectations.) Allowing the cheater to "grieve" over their mistake is also important. (Basically if you dismiss the pain they've put themselves through over your own pain then that'll just drive the wedge between you even further.)

The other factor in if the person will cheat again is the duration and type of affair. If it's a one time thing and it's just about sex the chances are better for that type of behavior to stop. If it's a long term emotionally involved affair chances are the behaviour won't stop. Think of it as a points based reward system with more points meaning more likelihood of behaviour being repeated.

 

If I'm happy in my relationship I won't stray. If I'm unhappy I'll start looking at other women. If I'm desperately unhappy I'll end the relationship and move on. But I don't cheat. That's who I am.

However, I do think a lot of it is about a person's character, and if they find themselves in the right circumstances they will make the same mistakes. But only if the circumstances dictate.

 

I have to say, I would be flattered and enjoy the initial flirtation. But when it came to the crunch, my over sized conscious would get in the way and I would run a mile.
Probably spend the rest of my life fantasizing about it, and wondering what if?
Online shenanigans is much safer, and harmless.

 

I don't think all who cheat will cheat again but there are definitely those who can't help themselves.

 

I'm doing something I told myself I'd never let happen: I'm falling for a girl who has cheated multiple times. In fact, she's currently in a relationship right now, and while we haven't done anything together, she's sent me nude pics and has fallen for me. It scares the hell out of me, because I really like her a lot, but I don't want to be the next guy she cheats on. I always said people who date the people they helped cheat are suckers, but I feel like I'm falling into that group, and it sucks.

 

You might be the one though.

 

It's odd. She recently admitted that she's liked me since we were kids, but always viewed me as out of reach. She said I was always the untouchable one that she'd never have. I'd love to believe that I could be the one to keep her honest, but it's hard to believe that.

 

*laughing* Well, if I start craving snow, I only have to drive for a few hours. Still, it would be fun to spend some time in the Alps for a change of pace.

 

In a case like that, I wouldn't expect her to reform. Why don't you just....you know....have a good time?

 

I wish I could explain why that's tough. This is definitely new ground for me, but I just can't shake her at all. And I'm still worried I'll put myself out there only to be crushed, but that knowledge isn't doing anything to dissuade me from pursuing this.

 

Well, just prepare yourself for the worst. Maybe she's worth it.

I have a girlfriend who entered into an affair with a married man. After awhile, he got a divorce, and she married him. And then, as you might expect, he began cheating on her with another woman. She was shocked, shocked, I say! I said, "what exactly did you expect?"

 

Yeah, I have no answers right now. She's an amazing person, if she could just be faithful. That's asking so much of someone who has made cheating a habit, though. I'm sure anyone in my life would tell me it's foolish to keep this up, and I'd agree with them entirely; but I still have to see it through. It's not the first time in my life I'd have to pick up the pieces and carry on.

 

I am that man!
I was a terrible rake up until I was about 30, but in every relationship I've had since then I've been Mister Faithful.

 

Do you really think that it's ok if it's strictly online? Wouldn't that be an emotional affair?

Also, would your S/O be hurt if you were messing around online but did not have a physical affair?

 

During my marriage I was faithful, I was tested many times, miles from home, sometimes continents between us, and yet I never strayed, why because I loved my wife right up until I found out she was running around on me. Would I trust her, never again, we are talking after thirteen years of hostility, she as even said she made a mistake, would I let her back into my bed, maybe, would I let her near my heart, never. So no I would never completely trust someone who cheated on me, and with out the fundamental trust what hope has the relationship of surviving a year.

Or it could be that I am a cynical untrusting twat