I can't imagine you or any other lovely lady on this site to be ever turned town. Shame on them if they do................

 

trust me marriage won't be any better. it will get worse.

 

ya whats with all the mumble jumble here

 

why you want to marry someone who doesn't want sex with you all that often?

And peeps... Be careful that your SO isn't getting it elsewhere. Sex drive can disappear but its almost always gradually over a few years, or alternatively your SO might not love/fancy you anymore.

 

i take care of myself

ann summers is there for a reason! not many men meet my expectations
maybe my standards are too high...

 

I know this isn't the purpose of the thread so isn't an answer for it but too many people are turned on or just want sex and go too direct about it. Women rarely likes it.

"Lets have sex" or touch her breasts/pussy... isn't the best approach. The same can be for guys too.

I always get HER to ask for sex but I do that by making her have no choice (If she turned on she needs the release so its sex, apart from masturbation which she only does alone).

You can do this by various ways (obviously depends on the person but I brainstormed a few ideas): passionate kissing, a tight cuddle whilst getting an erection (penis/nipples) which s/he can clearly feel, flirting/being sexually suggestive, incidental exposure (i.e. side boob, penis etc. - dont make it too obvious), going bed naked (perhaps spill a drink on your PJs), masturbate calling his/her name (if en suite while your SO is in bed), watch an sexy/erotic/romantic film/DVD (not porn), offer all-over body massage (avoid genitals), etc.

None of this is simple as it depends on the type of relationship between you both. If you on the same wavelength it is simple otherwise its difficult but is the problem with a relationship without the special bond.

 

I wish I had a better answer. I used to get angry, but after a while I had to let the anger go. I feel sorry for my wife because she is missing out on one of the best parts of life---enjoying an intense physical pleasure with someone you really care about.

 

I had a friend like that once. Only my so-called friend turned out to be a total asshole.

 

Toys never seem to be as satisfying. For some reason last summer sucked and my SO and I fought about it frequently. He actually said I didn't understand him. Go figure...

 

I agree. Toys and masturbation are great, but after a while, you want the feel of a live body.

 

fuck that jacking off as some kinda pity revenge shit! when I had one of those SOs and she was playing games, I would go out and have a professional girl take care of me. Now i don't and that's who I play with all the time. no bullshit involved and its cheaper than a SO

 

Christina you know you can always give me a shout..i'll be there for ya..:rose:

 

Doesn't happen very often but if i'm turned down I dont go anywhere i just do it right there and than. Why wait till she falls asleep? She's the one that turned you down... lol

 

I just wait till morning then hit up the computer.

 

When I was married I just did it in bed next to her. Fuck it I thought. Then after doing it next to her so many times she would get horny and we would end up having some good sex.

 

You are so right. Not having the human touch sucks.

 

If she's sick it's one thing. If I want it and she refuses, it's another thing. She never refuses though.

 

i will go to the computer and look at porn and jack off. I have only once jacked off in the same bed while she was awake. we do the mutual masturbation alot tho

 

I masturbate as loud and as passionately as ever right there in front of him. He's been my bf forever, I'm not afraid to masturbate in front of him. If he gets horny after that I decline him, which has happened a few times cuz he's stupid.

 

You might try screaming out some other girls name when you jerk off next to her. Let us know what happens.